Advice from those comfortable with CIO

[star1]

Firstly I've done CIO with all 3 of my children so I'm not against it

However, I think you need to be aware that if someone's used to eating at a certain time then their body starts expecting it and they feel genuinely hungry. For example, when my twins were newborn I got into a really bad habit of eating cereal bars while doing the night feeds to give me a bit of energy. It wasn't long at all before I started feeling hungry in the early hours every night

I know it's going to take longer but I would consider gradually reducing the amount of milk in the bottles and / or diluting the milk (probably both). This will hopefully turn off those hunger signals. You can then look at CIO when he's weaned off the night feeds x

 

[Button#]

I'm not going to comment on cio as I've never done it but my DD dropped her night feeds recently then got a mega cold which meant she started feeding every two hours to clear her nose. She's now dropping feeds again, so I would definitely wait until the cold is gone as it may just right itself.

 

[Andypanda6570]

So, I used CIO and I went cold turkey. Your son has had a lot of moving around though and in my opinion I wouldn't use CIO unless you are sure that he is comfortable in the place that he is now in (I don't know how long you have been living in your current home).

So at 4 months, my son was gaining weight properly. At that time he was in the 90's percentile for weight and length. I definitely knew he was getting enough food during the day because I am a stay at home mom. My issue was that I would feed him (he has been breastfeed and still is) and then once I put hm in his crib he would cry. I would then repeat the process until he finally was in a deep sleep and I could put him down. He would also wake up at 3am to eat. So, I did CIO by just putting him in his crib after I feed him and let him cry. The first night he cried 16 minutes and fell asleep. It wasn't a crazy balling cry, it was a, I'm mad cry. So that night he woke at his usual 3am and I got up and feed him. The next night I put him to sleep the same way and I think he cried for about 2 minutes and then went to bed. That morning he woke up at 3am and I let him cry. He cried again for exactly 16 minutes (weird, I know) and fell back to sleep. The next night I put him down and he didn't cry at all, he woke up at 3am, fussed a bit and went back to sleep. That was it. CIO was easy for me. It took me a couple of days with such minimal crying and now he sleeps 7-7, sometimes 7-6. I never had a problem with him waking up again.

I did CIO because I couldn't stand walking around like a zombie anymore. When my son would wake up at 3am I could never fall back to sleep. So my day started at 3am every day. My son's Dad never helped me with anything from day 1. Literally nothing. I still did everything in the house and did every single thing with my son. He had only held him 5 times. He has been out of the picture for a month now. So I had to do whatever I had to do to get my son to sleep. Thank goodness it was so easy. I am not saying that every baby is as easy as mine though. I'm sure they aren't, but I have read many success stories.

Sorry for the long story. I hope it works for you, whatever you do decide to do!

Do you not think that "walking around like a zombie" is just part of having very small children? 4 months seems very young to do any sort of 'cry training'. Do you wonder what other messages he may have received by doing this?

Aren't you a Happy Camper This drives me crazy..It is CLEARLY stated :Those Comfortable With CIO..So tell me, why in God's name would you post to it and not only that post such a rude comment? Unbelievable..

 

[sheebee]

So, I used CIO and I went cold turkey. Your son has had a lot of moving around though and in my opinion I wouldn't use CIO unless you are sure that he is comfortable in the place that he is now in (I don't know how long you have been living in your current home).

So at 4 months, my son was gaining weight properly. At that time he was in the 90's percentile for weight and length. I definitely knew he was getting enough food during the day because I am a stay at home mom. My issue was that I would feed him (he has been breastfeed and still is) and then once I put hm in his crib he would cry. I would then repeat the process until he finally was in a deep sleep and I could put him down. He would also wake up at 3am to eat. So, I did CIO by just putting him in his crib after I feed him and let him cry. The first night he cried 16 minutes and fell asleep. It wasn't a crazy balling cry, it was a, I'm mad cry. So that night he woke at his usual 3am and I got up and feed him. The next night I put him to sleep the same way and I think he cried for about 2 minutes and then went to bed. That morning he woke up at 3am and I let him cry. He cried again for exactly 16 minutes (weird, I know) and fell back to sleep. The next night I put him down and he didn't cry at all, he woke up at 3am, fussed a bit and went back to sleep. That was it. CIO was easy for me. It took me a couple of days with such minimal crying and now he sleeps 7-7, sometimes 7-6. I never had a problem with him waking up again.

I did CIO because I couldn't stand walking around like a zombie anymore. When my son would wake up at 3am I could never fall back to sleep. So my day started at 3am every day. My son's Dad never helped me with anything from day 1. Literally nothing. I still did everything in the house and did every single thing with my son. He had only held him 5 times. He has been out of the picture for a month now. So I had to do whatever I had to do to get my son to sleep. Thank goodness it was so easy. I am not saying that every baby is as easy as mine though. I'm sure they aren't, but I have read many success stories.

Sorry for the long story. I hope it works for you, whatever you do decide to do!

Do you not think that "walking around like a zombie" is just part of having very small children? 4 months seems very young to do any sort of 'cry training'. Do you wonder what other messages he may have received by doing this?

Aren't you a Happy Camper This drives me crazy..It is CLEARLY stated :Those Comfortable With CIO..So tell me, why in God's name would you post to it and not only that post such a rude comment? Unbelievable..

I certainly didn't mean to cause any offence, just thought there could be another perspective to consider.

 

[Andypanda6570]

So, I used CIO and I went cold turkey. Your son has had a lot of moving around though and in my opinion I wouldn't use CIO unless you are sure that he is comfortable in the place that he is now in (I don't know how long you have been living in your current home).

So at 4 months, my son was gaining weight properly. At that time he was in the 90's percentile for weight and length. I definitely knew he was getting enough food during the day because I am a stay at home mom. My issue was that I would feed him (he has been breastfeed and still is) and then once I put hm in his crib he would cry. I would then repeat the process until he finally was in a deep sleep and I could put him down. He would also wake up at 3am to eat. So, I did CIO by just putting him in his crib after I feed him and let him cry. The first night he cried 16 minutes and fell asleep. It wasn't a crazy balling cry, it was a, I'm mad cry. So that night he woke at his usual 3am and I got up and feed him. The next night I put him to sleep the same way and I think he cried for about 2 minutes and then went to bed. That morning he woke up at 3am and I let him cry. He cried again for exactly 16 minutes (weird, I know) and fell back to sleep. The next night I put him down and he didn't cry at all, he woke up at 3am, fussed a bit and went back to sleep. That was it. CIO was easy for me. It took me a couple of days with such minimal crying and now he sleeps 7-7, sometimes 7-6. I never had a problem with him waking up again.

I did CIO because I couldn't stand walking around like a zombie anymore. When my son would wake up at 3am I could never fall back to sleep. So my day started at 3am every day. My son's Dad never helped me with anything from day 1. Literally nothing. I still did everything in the house and did every single thing with my son. He had only held him 5 times. He has been out of the picture for a month now. So I had to do whatever I had to do to get my son to sleep. Thank goodness it was so easy. I am not saying that every baby is as easy as mine though. I'm sure they aren't, but I have read many success stories.

Sorry for the long story. I hope it works for you, whatever you do decide to do!

Do you not think that "walking around like a zombie" is just part of having very small children? 4 months seems very young to do any sort of 'cry training'. Do you wonder what other messages he may have received by doing this?

Aren't you a Happy Camper This drives me crazy..It is CLEARLY stated :Those Comfortable With CIO..So tell me, why in God's name would you post to it and not only that post such a rude comment? Unbelievable..

I certainly didn't mean to cause any offence, just thought there could be another perspective to consider.

If you didn't mean to be rude then why type " "walking around like a zombie" is just part of having very small children? 4 months seems very young to do any sort of 'cry training'. Do you wonder what other messages he may have received by doing this"..What do you mean "other messages" That wasn't very nice..Thank you for saying you didn't mean to cause offence..Maybe it just should have been worded better...

 

[zorak]

UPDATE

I decided not to go cold turkey on the feeds in the end. It felt cruel. I v slowly stopped one bottle (leaving the other in place) whilst also doing CIO for bed abd naps. He got it really quickly..and would you believe I hadn't even tried to drop his other mid night bottle and he did it by himself!

Now sleeps 7.30pm until 6.30 am and just gets placed in his cot awake after his night time routine. We do the same for naps. I'm so happy he's done so well and he really didn't cry any where near what I expected so was obviously ready for it.

 

[zorak]

UPDATE

I decided not to go cold turkey on the feeds in the end. It felt cruel. I v slowly stopped one bottle (leaving the other in place) whilst also doing CIO for bed abd naps. He got it really quickly..and would you believe I hadn't even tried to drop his other mid night bottle and he did it by himself!

Now sleeps 7.30pm until 6.30 am and just gets placed in his cot awake after his night time routine. We do the same for naps. I'm so happy he's done so well and he really didn't cry any where near what I expected so was obviously ready for it.

Should add he's 11 months old which is about the same age I did this with my eldest.

 

[loeylo]

Glad you got it sorted and it worked well!

 

[sethsmummy]

im glad you got it sorted op and that you didnt go cold turkey.