advice needed please

[Iwantyousobad]

Hello ladies I am new to this forum,

I decided it would be a good idea to join as I feel so alone.
Me and my fiance have been ttc for 22months now I'm 19 nearly 20 (please dont judge) and fiance is 25. We have been together since I was 16 and never used contraception as it was our personal decision. We have never used protection but we decided to start really trying when I turned 18 as we were both more than ready, we have used clearblue digital opks (we have bought them every single month for almost two years) which we get a positive every month but I always get af :'( we've tried everything opks, conceive plus, preeseed, soft cups, every positions, pillow under back ECT. but nothing works.

I actually went to the doctors a few month back when it had been 18 months ttc, she weren't really helpful and sent me away telling me to keep trying and come back when it had been two years and said your still young just relax and everything.
A few week after that appointment I was rushed into hospital with a ruptured ovarian cyst.
Even though it has cleared up I have still been having pain since and went back to my doctors and he told me to just take painkillers for the pain and there was nothing else they could do.

I have really bad pains up to a week before my af and severe pains on my af that painkillers can't get rid of and its really heavy, I also get constipation alot and have trouble going to the toilet (sorry for tmi) and sometimes pain during sex.

I am wondering if any of this is affecting my fertility. Also my af comes at different times, one month around 26 days and the next around 33 days.

I have been getting very depressed and upset and my cousin has just had a baby so the depression has kicked in even more. I was trying for way longer than she even became pregnant plus she was on the pill.
I have been really down about it all week and wouldn't even leave the house.

I said I wasn't gonna go see the baby as it was too hard but in the end I forced myself to go out and buy the baby something and go see her and all the way there I was crying and I felt so guilty as it was supposed to be a happy time but it felt like one of the worst days of my life. I did feel better and more hopeful after I held the baby and then a couple days later after id just started to pick myself back up again, I was greeted with af :'( and she has been worse than ever this month I haven't been able to get out of bed and been drugged up on painkillers! And to make things worse I have tonsillitis at the moment

My fiance went for a semen analysis on Friday and were waiting to hear the results in the morning *were super nervous*
And im going to the doctors in the morning to see what they can do as it has now been 22months which is almost two years and im getting badly depressed because of not been able to conceive. I am nervous about tomorrow as i feel like they are just going to turn me away again because of my age

I've lost hope already and i dont know what I'll do if i can't have kids.

In the whole 22months of trying i have not had one positive pregnancy test

 

[cookette]

You have a lot of the symptoms I have of endometriosis. Has your OB ever been made aware of all your issues?

 

[Iwantyousobad]

Hi, I think i could have endometriosis too i told my doctor about them last time i went and he wasn't helpful at all its like he wanted me out of the room asap and didn't really give my chance to explain and just told me to carry on taking painkillers for the pain. I will mention them when i go back in the morning

 

[Mrs_chris_36]

Hi hun,

I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time, i think the majority of the population think if you're young you should just fall pregnant at the drop of a hat! Obviously that's not always the case everybody and every body is different. I can imagine its something you don't expect to be a problem when you're younger so is more of a shock than say if you were in your late 30's (like me)

I think you've waiting more than enough time to start digging for some answers and the main advise i would pass on is be firm with the Dr and challenge him if you don't agree with what he's telling you. Ask questions if you don't understand but most importantly do not be fobbed off....good luck x