Advice needed...

[JenetBraxton]

Hi. I went to te doctor yesterday to get a birth control shot & they tested my pee to make sure I wasn't pregnant and turns out I am. I had a feeling I was because I got home from school and made cheese eggs & a peanut butter jelly sanwhich & I never eat eggs. I'm 16 years old and I don't know exactly how far along I am. My breasts are sore with a slight touch. Other than that I feel fine. How early can a test come up positive? I had a doctors appointment 3 weeks ago. I'm sexually active & had sex 2 seperate times afte my doctor appointment from before. I'm currently waiting for an appointment with a gynocologist. Also, my boyfriends parents want a DNA test as soon as possible. They don't believe we had other partners, they just want to be 1000% sure, how early can that be done? Does it have to wait til birth? Thanks for taking your time to read this. Any answers would help.

 

[AP]

Jenet I'm sorry you feel you have to proove yourself to them. TBH I would wait until after the birth so its less invasive. A test can come up positive as early as just before 4 weeks pregnant (so two weeks after conception)

 

[jozylynn896]

I'm sorry too you have to prove yourself to them.
I would wait until birth too for the test. Not sure if you can do it before then but I would wait.

 

[mayb_baby]

I don't see why you would poll this?
I mean one you cannot mention an 'A', it's in the rules, and two it's your decision and your body you cannot go on a majority vote of an online forum to make these decisions

I would be pissed off at the DNA but yeah I would agree to it after the birth, not during as it's too stressful.

 

[lil lovey]

I'm so sorry you going through this..but first of all congrads on the lil one..no one can decide for yòu. When I first found out I really just confused! I spoke to my mother and she told me that there's no one who can decide for you if you wanna keep the baby or not. She also told me that every pregnant woman knows and have decided what they going to do but due to being scared and shocked they actually not listening to themselves and going for the easy route and get an 'A'...

 

[JenetBraxton]

I posted the poll to see what others think. I'm only 16 and need some guidance. My mind is set on keeping the child. I put myself in this place. Abortion is what my family and boyfriends family want, it was never an option in my book. And with adoption, I wouldn't go 9 months to give up my child. Thanks for all the responses though. They help alot.

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

I don't think this is a decision that can be put out to the 'public' to answer, this is your body, and your child, and so ultimately it has to be your decision to make.

A DNA can be done after baby is born.

 

[x__amour]

This isn't a reality show where you can "ask the audience", this is real life. You are now completely and 100% responsible for another human being. You, and only you, can and will make the final decision.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

As the pp's have said, this is a decision you have to think through and make on your own.
But here's my response:
You may be sixteen, but this isn't the end of your world. We have had ladies as young as 13 on this forum and they've turned out to be great moms. Is it hard at sixteen? Yes. Does it make certain things more difficult and do you give up 'freedom'? Yes. But is it worth it? Yes! My daughter was planned when I was just 17, as my fiancé and I had had a miscarriage at 13 weeks with our first pregnancy, and I don't regret her for an instant. She changed my entire life for the better. My fiancé then, is now my husband, and we are expecting our second child. A little boy.
Basically I'm saying this is your life. If you want to keep your child,
KEEP IT. Your body, your choice. Don't make on you will regret. Alwys here to chat.

 

[lizmageeful]

There is not a single person on this forum more qualified to make this decision than you. its your body, you have to do what you want.

On that note however, think of it this way. if you decide to go for an A, its irreversable. You can never get that baby back. However, if you continue to carry it you can always go the route of adoption, or the route of keeping it. Its all your choice and what you think you can handle. none of these decisions are easy however.