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Just wondering if anyone has a 7 year old with attitude and behavior problems? I could do with some advice or help please.
I am at my wits end with Joani and it is driving me insane. I hate telling her off I feel like I am constantly on at her... but her behavior and cheek just now warrants being told off.
She seems like a spoiled little brat just now and I am wondering what I have done wrong. She doesn't get everything her heart desires... OH and I do not believe in that. She doesn't get a lot spent on her at birthdays or xmas as we don't want her spoiled (although shes acting like it now so I don't know where we have gone wrong.) The things she does have if I say to her be careful joani you might break that she shrugs her shoulder and says oh well you will buy me a new one.....or gran will just get me a new one... or so what? I have 2 more etc etc.
Her cheek towards me and OH just now is unbelievable... she will talk back all of the time. She gets sent to her room for time outs etc but that doesn't phase her. She has an answer to everything. It angers my OH a lot and I keep telling her to stop it. But all i get is "well I don't know I am doing it" in a teenage strop kinda voice! And shes only 7!! Or please one more chance (I hear this 7 or 8 times a day). She slams doors. As hard as she can.
She will hit me or my OH if she says we are "annoying her". We have confiscated toys off of her. We have canceled days out etc that she had had planned.
She doesn't get out to play as where we live is not a very safe place for children to play plus she doesn't get ppl from school over as OH doesn't want them over cos of their parents (a lot of them are drug users at Joanis school). Plus we live in a flat with shared back garden and its disgusting. So we try and get her out at the weekends as often as we can. But nothing seems to please her. She will moan if something is not "exciting" or if nothing has been planned.
Others in her class will get stuff that we wont let her have as its either A too expensive for her to have at her age or B we just don't want her to have it (like high school musical etc OH feels she is too young to worry about boys and dates and proms etc). But we get its not fair etc she doesn't want to live with us etc etc.
Shes just started Brownies which I pay for, and swimming lessons which I pay for and horse lessons once a month which I pay for. But she still asks for more all the time and will get very angry etc if I say no. We don't have a lot of money as we are on benefits as I am disabled etc.
Her attitude towards us is terrible as is her behavior and the way she talks to us. Its got to the point that people outwith our household (not only strangers but also friends and other family members etc) have noticed. And they either comment directly about it or if shes misbehaving for me etc they kinda make noises like ppppppppfffffffffffft or tssssk etc.
I am always getting dirty looks from her all the time and pppl have commented on that too. Every time she seems to look at me it seems as though she resents me.
She lies constantly, about things that have happened or havent happened etc she makes things up. I am worried this is all gonna rub off and her wee sister is going to go this way too. But most of all I would love for her to tell me what is wrong or feel better about herself and us and start behaving or acting like she likes us.
I have one of these behavior chart things and I am going to start it on Monday....basically if her behavior is bad at the end of the month I wont let her go horse riding. If she has been good then she can have her lesson.
I am at a loss and I sit there at night thinking what have I done...does she not like me? is she wanting more attention?? I don't know what it is. Then I sit there thinking I am mean for telling her off all the time etc etc.
I am at my wits end with Joani and it is driving me insane. I hate telling her off I feel like I am constantly on at her... but her behavior and cheek just now warrants being told off.
She seems like a spoiled little brat just now and I am wondering what I have done wrong. She doesn't get everything her heart desires... OH and I do not believe in that. She doesn't get a lot spent on her at birthdays or xmas as we don't want her spoiled (although shes acting like it now so I don't know where we have gone wrong.) The things she does have if I say to her be careful joani you might break that she shrugs her shoulder and says oh well you will buy me a new one.....or gran will just get me a new one... or so what? I have 2 more etc etc.
Her cheek towards me and OH just now is unbelievable... she will talk back all of the time. She gets sent to her room for time outs etc but that doesn't phase her. She has an answer to everything. It angers my OH a lot and I keep telling her to stop it. But all i get is "well I don't know I am doing it" in a teenage strop kinda voice! And shes only 7!! Or please one more chance (I hear this 7 or 8 times a day). She slams doors. As hard as she can.
She will hit me or my OH if she says we are "annoying her". We have confiscated toys off of her. We have canceled days out etc that she had had planned.
She doesn't get out to play as where we live is not a very safe place for children to play plus she doesn't get ppl from school over as OH doesn't want them over cos of their parents (a lot of them are drug users at Joanis school). Plus we live in a flat with shared back garden and its disgusting. So we try and get her out at the weekends as often as we can. But nothing seems to please her. She will moan if something is not "exciting" or if nothing has been planned.
Others in her class will get stuff that we wont let her have as its either A too expensive for her to have at her age or B we just don't want her to have it (like high school musical etc OH feels she is too young to worry about boys and dates and proms etc). But we get its not fair etc she doesn't want to live with us etc etc.
Shes just started Brownies which I pay for, and swimming lessons which I pay for and horse lessons once a month which I pay for. But she still asks for more all the time and will get very angry etc if I say no. We don't have a lot of money as we are on benefits as I am disabled etc.
Her attitude towards us is terrible as is her behavior and the way she talks to us. Its got to the point that people outwith our household (not only strangers but also friends and other family members etc) have noticed. And they either comment directly about it or if shes misbehaving for me etc they kinda make noises like ppppppppfffffffffffft or tssssk etc.
I am always getting dirty looks from her all the time and pppl have commented on that too. Every time she seems to look at me it seems as though she resents me.
She lies constantly, about things that have happened or havent happened etc she makes things up. I am worried this is all gonna rub off and her wee sister is going to go this way too. But most of all I would love for her to tell me what is wrong or feel better about herself and us and start behaving or acting like she likes us.
I have one of these behavior chart things and I am going to start it on Monday....basically if her behavior is bad at the end of the month I wont let her go horse riding. If she has been good then she can have her lesson.
I am at a loss and I sit there at night thinking what have I done...does she not like me? is she wanting more attention?? I don't know what it is. Then I sit there thinking I am mean for telling her off all the time etc etc.