Advice please, and am I right to be annoyed, or being a bit selfish?

[Sunseal]

So last night, me and the OH did the deed. It was more uncomfortable than normal and at some points I felt pain up by my cervix. I did think at the time it felt more slippery than usual (not sticky, but actually watery) and all last night when I kept getting up for a wee, I would wipe clean and the next time it would be back to watery again.
This morning I sat in a shallow bath (no bubble bath, just water), just to wash away any trace of last night's session and to start afresh. Throughout this morning I've kept having little wet patches in my knickers that's definitely not wee and I wouldn't usually still be leaking OH's.. erm.. deposit by now.
OH went on to work this morning as usual.
So I called the midwife and she said she wants me to go in just to be checked out (better to be safe than sorry). I called my OH and he said "Well, I can't go with you, I have a customer booked themselves in now. You can go on your own can't you? You'll be fine."
I understand he must get in as much work as he can.. but surely his partner and unborn child are more important? I hate driving round the hospital car parks and stuff, it's a maze and there's loads of one way stuff and I hate it, don't have a clue where I'm going. Am I right to be annoyed that he's staying at work?
Also.. can you guys shine any light on the waters thing? Is it likely to be waters or do you think it's just excess fluid? It's not enough to soak my underwear or anything, but it definitely feels more watery than usual.

 

[Mummy to be x]

I'd be annoyed at that too, I know our men have to work hard to provide but for me, when it comes to things like that I'd expect my hubs to come along with me, I guess it depends on how easy he can just drop work, but I certainly understand why your annoyed right now.

I'm not sure on the leaking fluid situation but I'm keeping my fx'd for you, let us know how you get on. Best of luck

 

[Sunseal]

He's the only one that works there, it's his own business and he is working his backside off, so I can understand why he can't just drop work, but he'd only have to come with me and then he could go back to work.
I'm probably going to end up getting the bus, I hate driving round there that much!
Thank you I'll update on here when I've been. It's not until 2pm. How embarrasing if the midwife says "Nope, no waters there... just evidence of a good time." Haha.

 

[Mummy to be x]

embarrassing but great news!

Is there anywhere a bit easier you could park maybe? I hate getting the busses I don't know what I'd do without my car. X

 

[Sunseal]

Not really.. it's a big area that lots of different departments are in, there's nowhere near outside that you can park as it's a main road. Once you're in, it's a maze of different departments, weird one way areas and it's like the blair witch project for getting out of! You think ".. I swear I've been here before." And don't realise you're just going round in circles!
Getting the bus seems a bit easier to me at the moment! Probably cheaper than paying for parking too.

 

[Mummy to be x]

Yeah that is very true, parking in hospitals is so expensive! Good luck with everything I will be checking for updates

 

[TryinFor1]

It is probably just excess fluid but still get checked. I would.be annoyed if my oh knew ahead Of time, but I wouldn't just expect him to drop everything at work to Go get checked out. He wants to keep his job. If something ended up being wrong he would come up to the hospital but I wouldn't be annoyed with him not coming at first.

 

[VALiz]

I would probably be fine with it if my OH didn't come with me but understand that others may have different expectations. I'm actually always concerned that he's missing too much work if he happens to come with me to an appointment. He's not self employed though. I'd probably want to keep it quiet from him anyways since pregnancy has made me neurotic.

I did end up in the ER at 15 weeks thinking I was leaking fluid. Luckily it was nothing. Hopefully it will be just the same for you!

 

[Sunseal]

I ended up going in a bit earlier as the midwife phoned me back saying they had an earlier space.
I feel reassured, as she checked me out and said it was not coming from my cervix, but it was very watery down there and she put it down to "excess vaginal fluids"... ooh-er!
As long as my waters are all sealed up nice and tight, I'm okay with that haha.
And once I'd had a chance to calm down slightly (not that I lost my temper in the first place) I decided that it probably wasn't vital for my OH to be there. I was just taken aback by the way he didn't even sound like he *wanted* to be there. But! We're the sort that rarely argue, we're both relatively laid back and all was well in the end. Glad I went to get it checked and OH managed to finish his turbo build for his customer, so he's a happy bunny too.

 

[fafa girl]

Glad everything went well for you ... It's great you got seen to quickly and could ease your mind!

 

[Zeri]

Glad that everything's sorted. I was going to say I don't think it was critical for your OH to be there. I understand your concern about the leakiness and parking inconvenience....but to me it wouldve been a case of a check-in rather than a medical emergency, therefore not so necessary for your OH to drop everything and come. It would've been unlikely for sex to cause leaking waters or any rupture to your sac...since a penis can't go past your cervix anyway. If you were bleeding or had gushing fluids or other symptoms of premature labour then that would be a different matter.

 

[Sunseal]

Thanks ladies
Yeah I know the pork sword can't go past the cervix, so it was unlikely to have been the sex, I think I just worked myself up a bit really. On another note, I think sex is going to have to be extra gentle from now until birth as I'm still a bit sore today, and he was hardly going crazy last night!

 

[Luvspnk31]

I'm glad everything is food!! I probably wouldn't mind if DH didn't come either, but I do understand. I think they forget how much we want them there, or need them when we are feeling stressed or vulnerable.

We are lucky, our hospitals around here have free valet. So, stress free parking!!

 

[Mummy to be x]

Glad everything went ok

 

[RcdM]

I wouldn't expect my DH to come with me if he was at work. Mostly because the likelihood of it being nothing is high. Now of course if there were some emergency where I was bleeding or having horrible cramps or something like that, then of course. But this is more of a precautionary thing, and if anything was actually wrong, he'd have plenty of time to come down to be with you.

 

[Spiffynoodles]

I just wanted to say that I get a lot of watery discharge after DTD that will last well into the next day, so you're definitely not alone! As for the discomfort, I get that, too, thanks to swelling down there.

 

[Laylagirl]

I wouldn't say you're selfish, but at the same time I wouldn't expect my husband to leave work for a concern....

Of course I would love for him to go with me, but he's the only one working and I know if it turns out to be something more serious he would be on his way. After all, once baby comes he should be around a little more..

 

[newbie1992]

My opinion would be that I don't think its a big deal. Both me and my husband work full time and he has never been to a midwife appointment, been to every scan but not the midwife because its not that necessary that he goes. To be honest, if you are just going to be checked out at work, I think its unnecessary that he goes with you anyway, unless he doesn't work or whatever.

 

[MamaLa]

Well I would be upset too. But I understand because the shoe has been on the other foot. One morning I woke up nauseous as ever. My OH was Telling me not to go to work if I don't feel good, and I need to take care of myself. He was upset when I went anyway. I went because I knew as soon as I got in I would have a Patient waiting to see me. So I can understand where you're OH is coming from.

 

[Sunseal]

Thanks you ladies Silly pregnancy hormones making me irrational!