Rozz1e1
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Ok some advice needed please...am sorry for long post....despite us asking that for at least a week after the birth we dont have his family coming to stay with us as they all wanted to come as soon as I went into labour(!!) his nan and grandad are coming down next week......they know what we wanted but have decided that they will come down a week before my due date and they know that I could go into labour at any point....
And they havent asked if its ok..just gone and booked their train and are not just coming for a weekend...which would be fine, but they are coming to stay on our 2 bedroomed house for the week!!
Now I love his grandparents to bits I really do, but when iv just had the baby I want it to be me and oh bonding with our baby, and getting used to being parents!! I also want to be able to slob around the house without worrying about entertaining guests and making sure they are ok etc and I want to be able to wear scabby pyjamas if i need to lol!!
Now I cant do anything about them coming down..but I need some advice on how to tell them to stop doing things if baby has arrived by then, or arrives when they are here.....OH and I have some firm ideas about how we want those early days to be...the biggest point being that after first couple of days ( we both know those first few days are going to be very odd lol and a whirlwind) we dont want LO being held all of the time...I want her to be able to feel safe knowing that mummy and daddy are there but that she doesnt need to be in someone arms all the time..ie if she is in cot or moses basket and she wakes up and isnt crying etc, just awake...then she doesnt need to be picked up straight away..but his nan has already said that she will just hold her etc and change her etc etc...how can I tell her nicely to back off?
I want OH and I to be doing those things...not have them taken away from us...im sure that a few weeks in lol it will be nice to have a visit and have some help..once we have done it for ourselves first...if that makes sense!
Also she has said that she can help feed baby if i need to rest...um....hard job considering (hopefully) Im going to be breastfeeding!!! And she has mentioned about expressing...im not going to so soon and also the only other person feeeding lo in those very early days is OH!
How do I politely tell her to back off is she is being overbearing?
Thank you in advance lol!! xxxx
And they havent asked if its ok..just gone and booked their train and are not just coming for a weekend...which would be fine, but they are coming to stay on our 2 bedroomed house for the week!!
Now I love his grandparents to bits I really do, but when iv just had the baby I want it to be me and oh bonding with our baby, and getting used to being parents!! I also want to be able to slob around the house without worrying about entertaining guests and making sure they are ok etc and I want to be able to wear scabby pyjamas if i need to lol!!
Now I cant do anything about them coming down..but I need some advice on how to tell them to stop doing things if baby has arrived by then, or arrives when they are here.....OH and I have some firm ideas about how we want those early days to be...the biggest point being that after first couple of days ( we both know those first few days are going to be very odd lol and a whirlwind) we dont want LO being held all of the time...I want her to be able to feel safe knowing that mummy and daddy are there but that she doesnt need to be in someone arms all the time..ie if she is in cot or moses basket and she wakes up and isnt crying etc, just awake...then she doesnt need to be picked up straight away..but his nan has already said that she will just hold her etc and change her etc etc...how can I tell her nicely to back off?
I want OH and I to be doing those things...not have them taken away from us...im sure that a few weeks in lol it will be nice to have a visit and have some help..once we have done it for ourselves first...if that makes sense!
Also she has said that she can help feed baby if i need to rest...um....hard job considering (hopefully) Im going to be breastfeeding!!! And she has mentioned about expressing...im not going to so soon and also the only other person feeeding lo in those very early days is OH!
How do I politely tell her to back off is she is being overbearing?
Thank you in advance lol!! xxxx