Advice

[YoungMummy08]

Hey,
im not a single mum as i am with my daughters dad but i am not with my sons dad, and this is where the problem starts.
i was in a very abusive relationship with my son's dad he was in and out of prison ect so i decided to leave, he never paid his way gave me money ect so ive basically did it alone untill i got with OH.
now 4 years down the line FOB has had a baby with his new girlfriend and wants to be involved my only problem is when ever we talk it ends up in an argument and he says some really bad things ect. i chose not to go near him because of the past and really dont feel safe having my son around him. his girlfriend loves to stick her nose in it and posts pictures of my son all over facebook. now i dont look on her facebook but we have a mutual friend who informed me as she thought it was wrong. anyways recently FOB had my son for a night and they took a DNA test without my concent ever since he has been demanding to see my son that he has equal rights ect. is there anyway i can stop him from having contact with my little boy? my son screams anytime ive tried to drop him to his dad (with my OH with me of course) and doesnt ever want to talk to his dad ect. after 4 years surely he's lost his right to have equal rights or am i wrong?
me & OH just want look after our family and be happy without his causing trouble my OH's basically his dad he's done everything for him is that not enough

 

[emeraldbaby]

im not a lawyer, and in your situation i would suggest you going to get professional legal advice. However it would be my understanding that if you havent been to court regarding custody than he would have equal legal rights, yes. But equal physical custody rights, no.
The child hasn't had a relationship with the father in years and no court will force 50% time with the father if the child has no pre-existing relationship. This would cause the child emotional stress which is damaging. Things should proceed gradually. Overnights should not take place so early on.
Please seek legal advice.
All the best!

 

[Dezireey]

Well I don't think getting a DNA test done without your consent and other things such as your son not even wanting to be with his Dad will be in your ex's favour. In this instance, this man is not to be trusted with your son and does devious things. I would fight tooth and nail to stop all access but that means going to court etc. Your best bet is to contact some legal services and start proceedings to put a halt to his demands.