After losing our lil one on the 12th...

[MSDM]

Hi girls.... I've been an active member on the other forums, and have dreaded the thought of posting on this one.... but, here I am. Can any of you tell me how soon you conceived after losing a lil one? We went to the ER with slight bleeding on Friday the 10th at what would have been 13wks 5 days, they did an ultrasound and out lil one wasn't showing a heartbeat. On Sunday, August 12th made my nightmare even more real as this was the first of 9 days of heavy heavy bleeding and clots the size of my palm. We were blessed at the fact that we were able to bury our lil one and my husband has ordered an Angel stone memorial to place in the flower garden, but I've never felt such a loss as this, and can't imagine experiencing this time and time again as some girls have...

After going through all of this, my husband and I had decided we would wait to actively try again until maybe Winter, if then mentally we were ready. We had our two week follow up with my OB on Tuesday the 28th and she gave me the okay to try whenever we were emotionally and mentally ready. Though I had stated there at the office maybe we would try again come Winter, but...whatever God hands us we will be acceptable to.

So here I sit, three weeks to the day of passing our lil one and my Husband in talking last night after the kids laid down had mentioned a few times that he wanted to try again. I feel off beat and not sure what is going on. I'm a busy busy mom and never get that I need a nap feeling outside of carrying, but have felt blah the last few days. Just wondering if any of you had conceived within weeks, prior to your first AF after mc and when did you test positive. Just curious if I'm just drained or is something else going on?

 

[EMTAmanda]

I suggest vitex 2x a day in the morning to help your hormones get back to normal. I ordered mine off of amazon. I passed our angel on June 16th and was still spotting until August 8th (I began taking my vitex on August 1st) I ovulated for the first time since our loss on August 11th and I really owe it to the vitex. I got a faint BFP on August 19th (only 8dpo) and I'm now 5 weeks 2 days along and my first doctors Appt is tomorrow. Good luck sweetheart I'm sorry for your loss I too was 9 weeks when we lost ours

 

[MSDM]

I suggest vitex 2x a day in the morning to help your hormones get back to normal. I ordered mine off of amazon. I passed our angel on June 16th and was still spotting until August 8th (I began taking my vitex on August 1st) I ovulated for the first time since our loss on August 11th and I really owe it to the vitex. I got a faint BFP on August 19th (only 8dpo) and I'm now 5 weeks 2 days along and my first doctors Appt is tomorrow. Good luck sweetheart I'm sorry for your loss I too was 9 weeks when we lost ours

Thank you, Amanda! Congratulations on your new blessing in the making from God!!

I really am not emotionally or mentally ready to actually try, but not preventing, as everything is in God's hands either way. It was the most horrible thing ever to go through three weeks ago, I had an ectopic back in September of 95 and they removed my left tube with D&C but, to sit there with my husband and go through every clot I passed, it was horrible.

I've read that some girls have gone on and got a BFP after a mc even before their first period, I'm just wondering what those chances are and just how fertile we are right after a mc so severe. I literally went through 11 hours straight in the bathroom as soon as I would stand another fist sized clot would come out and my husband wanted so badly to take me to the ER, I've never bled so badly. After the first 11 hours I was able to wear the granny size pads the hospital gives you, but you don't typically need, after giving birth. I went through three packs of those with 42 in each pkg, and then all spotting and everything was completely gone 9 days later. I went in for my two week follow up and my Dr said I had passed everything and my levels were back down where they should be, but my heart was still broken, as is today. We managed to be able to bring our lil one in, as I had all along thought that I had my last AF on June 10 with an EDD of St Patricks Day, come to find out the spotting on June 10th was after I had conceived with my previous cycle in May. By my levels the time I went to the ER on Friday August 10th and the ultrasound they confirmed that our lil one's size was right on target at 13weeks 5 days, but no heartbeat, so his/her heartbeat had stopped fairly recent to my ER visit.

I'm just curious to how soon others have, whether trying or not, have conceived. My Dr on the 28th gave me the go-ahead to try as soon as we were "ready" and said that I should ovulate about two weeks or roughly around the time I would normally prior to miscarrying, and my period would most likely fall in the range of a couple days give or take of my normal, just as my body has done with all of my other pregnancies after giving birth. I let her know by all means I wasn't "ready" to actually try but maybe this winter, as we often use the chinese chart as far as gender goes, and we'll see where our hearts stand at that time, she just gave me a hug and told me that she gave me the green light whenever we were ready.

By the time of the 28th appt we had already had sex once that previous Saturday as they had told us when I started bleeding to refrain just while bleeding, which I wasn't on that Saturday we did, but then again on that Thursday and Friday the 30th and 31st, which the 28th my husband was careful and I think (sorry tmi) it wasn't a pleasure thing it was more of a bonding experience as we had both went through so much and uncontrollable tears for the previous two weeks, but on that 30th and 31st he wasn't so careful and we agreed to leave it all in God's hands and allow whatever He has in store for us.

I don't know Sweety, I just know that I had bounced back with energy, minus the broken heart, I was functionable and back to drinking my coffee but here I am, I don't know if I'm just getting sick or what exactly is going on. Thank you SO much for your input as I was just curious to see what others have experienced with falling pregnant again and how soon whether trying or not. It's such a hard hard thing to go through and I'm so happy for your precious lil one in the making!!