After MMC...

[chanel]

Hi Drazic, sorry to hear you're having such a worrying and stressful time

I had a mmc which was discovered at my 12wk scan, i had no idea there was a problem but the baby had stopped developing at 7wks! It's taken over a year for us to fall again and whilst i do worry I try to put bad things out of my mind... not easy! Although statistically i have the same chance of having a MMC as i did the first time round i try to think what the probability of the same thing happening twice is. Like if you win the lottery you there was a 1 in 14million chance of it happening once but would you reallycontinue to play thinking you could win again... probably not. You would think youve had your luck and that is it. Same with MMC, you've had youre bad luck and that was it.

Also, i think the run up to scans make things 100 times worse! when you don't have a scan impending you can relax a little but when it comes close you worry that you're happiness is going to be taken away again and that is worrisome.

I'm sure once you get past your 12wk scan you will feel a lot better. Although some of the stories on the internet get you thinking and worrying about things that you never thought possible so sometimes the internet is not a good place to be.... only read happy stories

 

[honey08]

after my mmc we started ttc as soon as poss, but in that time i could not stop thinking bout it , it took 7mth to concieve morgan, and when my mmc duedate came round i was crying and very upset....even tho i had a baby growing inside me, my pregnancy with morgan was perfect, no sickness....nothing ! but i couldnt stop thinking wot if;s etc i was a bag of nevers and it was an awful worrying time

 

[Drazic<3]

Thanks for your replies girls, it makes me feel less crazy to know I am not alone, as much as I wish you wouldn't/hadn't suffered too.

The midwife hasn't got back, but had a long chat with OH, about my fears, about last time. Obviously there wasn't much he could say, but I think it was important he knows. His mum has just been diagnosed with cancer so he has his own issues, but he understands why I am scared, even if I do drive him mental asking if my boobs look smaller all the time

Oh well. 10 days tomorrow. Just got to get there one day at a time.

 

[im_mi]

youre doing great, honey. you really are. i think you are coping very well even if you dont feel like you are. xx

 

[Las78]

Hun, I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. MC takes away all the joys of pregnancy, it's so damn hard to get through each day, I know. I really think you should speak to your mw or even GP hun, someone who can help. I suffered terribly with anxiety for weeks, you know I'm ashamed to admit that I was going to discuss termination if there was even a threat of mc because I honestly couldn't deal with it, my head was totally screwed up. Luckily my mw was and still is totally amazing and helped me through.
It really is a day at a time hun, when I look back I don't know how I coped, I almost feel like I just blocked everything out and spent those weeks in auto mode!
Honey, it gets easier I promise. C'mon, not long till your scan, hang in there sweetie, as hard as it is to see now it will start getting better. Pm me anytime you need to hun. Sending you biggest ever

 

[Drazic<3]

Thank you so so much

 

[Iris]

 

[Drazic<3]

Aww, thanks darling. So, 9 for me and 11 for you. Surely we can do that without going completely mad! I so get the bath thing, I have my baths almost cold and I keep going to Marks for my sandwiches as it says wether things are pasteurised and then freaking out in case they had gone bad or something! This morning I even went and did some delivery then freaked out in case I had done too much, then drew a picture for OH for valentines and freaked out the pastels could be toxic. It's a full time job being neurotic hey?!

Sending

 

[millwallrose4]

I am so sorry you are struggling with this fear, it must be so hard I just hope that your scan puts your mind slightly at ease. You are doing so well, especially with minimal midwife support, I just hope it gets easier for you.