AGGGGGHHH!! Age!!

[lynryli]

i had my first child at 23 nearly 24 and i thought it was a perfect age, i had gone out n let me hair down everyweekend 'lived' as they say...however now im 34 and am TTC baby 3 im finding it really really hard but i know i will be a better parent at my age partly because ive been there and done it before and secondly because im in a much healthier realtionship....age has nothing to do with it, my mate had her first at 16 and was and still is an amazing mum...good luck with TTC xxx

 

[sun]

It might annoy you to hear, but 24 is actually young lol. xx

 

[lilacstar]

Oh i really know how you all feel, i get it all the time even my own gynae doctor said aren't i abit young!! to me it doesnt matter as long as you have a great husband/partner and can support yourselves, why does your age have to matter. I really do feel like slapping many people when they say i'm young i have plenty of time, well obviously as we've been trying for 11 months i'm going to need all the time i can get.

 

[4magpies]

I am 23, I havent told anyone we are TTC but I know what their reaction would be.

My gynae kinda didnt believe that I would want kids so soon... at least they have been proactive though and I only have to wait 6 months to see a FS if I have not caught on by May next year as I have known fertilty problems... I hope it doesnt come to that though... this is my 1st cycle TTC.

xxx

 

[Honeypot]

It might annoy you to hear, but 24 is actually young lol. xx

Its young if you have no problems trying to concieve, or a decent small sized family (two or three).

Though, when you've been married three years (and getting tired of seeing just HUSBAND all the time and want a baby in the picture to see too), having rough cycles, and you want a good size family as in like 5 to 7 or more, than no. 24 is not young.

 

[4magpies]

16 is young.... 24 is not!!

xxx

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Oh I know that feeling but I think of it I'm 26 and I think if I wait until 30 , I will be like 50 years old when the last one leaves if I don't hurry up ehhh I know the feeling TRUST ME!

 

[sun]

It might annoy you to hear, but 24 is actually young lol. xx

Its young if you have no problems trying to concieve, or a decent small sized family (two or three).

Though, when you've been married three years (and getting tired of seeing just HUSBAND all the time and want a baby in the picture to see too), having rough cycles, and you want a good size family as in like 5 to 7 or more, than no. 24 is not young.

Maybe it's a cultural thing - I don't know of or have heard of anyone personally who had 3 kids by 24! I knew a girl in high school who had a child (unplanned) but other than that everyone else is mid/late 20s or older! My dentist has 4 kids and their first was born when his wife was 39! Not that that is the norm either, but empirically 24 is still young... People aren't generally out of university until then or later! And you're right, 16 is young - really REALLY young!!

I was just stating the fact (TTC factors aside) - that 24 is young! Who can dispute that??

 

[Honeypot]

It might annoy you to hear, but 24 is actually young lol. xx

Its young if you have no problems trying to concieve, or a decent small sized family (two or three).

Though, when you've been married three years (and getting tired of seeing just HUSBAND all the time and want a baby in the picture to see too), having rough cycles, and you want a good size family as in like 5 to 7 or more, than no. 24 is not young.

Maybe it's a cultural thing - I don't know of or have heard of anyone personally who had 3 kids by 24! I knew a girl in high school who had a child (unplanned) but other than that everyone else is mid/late 20s or older! My dentist has 4 kids and their first was born when his wife was 39! Not that that is the norm either, but empirically 24 is still young... People aren't generally out of university until then or later! And you're right, 16 is young - really REALLY young!!

I was just stating the fact (TTC factors aside) - that 24 is young! Who can dispute that??

This is sad, but I know of a girl who I graduated high school with who is 23 or 24, and has three kids. Got knocked up on prom night, and had two more not too long after that.
TTC factors aside, yes, 24 is young. Though when I think about it (I'm horribly terrified of dying and death), 24 doesn't seem that young. You're almost halfway to 50. Getting older scares me.
As far as TTC factors go, 24 is defintely not young. If you want a big size family like I do, of at least 5 children...that takes up 5 years. So, I'd have to get pregnant once a year starting at 25 if I wanted to have them all by 30...which there is no way that I am dying that. I'd lose my mind. Maybe I'll get lucky and have twins on a go around.

 

[sianyld]

personally i dont think 24 is too young! My OH is 24 and im 26, if i would have met him at 24 we would have started ttc then!! if i knew the probz that have smacked me in the face now and would hav def started sooner!

when u ttc ur first after u've planned it and talked about it for all the right reasons then i dont think age matters as long as ur providing a loving, stable and finacially secure environment!
i say go for it hun and balls to wat other people think as its ur life. good luck xxx

 

[want2bemum]

I am 28 this year and people keep telling me I am young and have plenty of time and I am like "yeah right" ah so annoying!
I think they forget it can take time to conceive!

 

[pink80]

despite my PCOS issues...I feel like if you want to have 3 or 4 kids and you wait til your 30...that's too long to wait....no offense to anyone in that situation...but I had a young mom & dad and it was AWESOME! they had the energy the time and the get up and go with my brother and I...I have 2 sister that were born (same parents) 10 and 12 years later...when my mom was in her 30's...and they are now teens and my mom has no patience to deal with them like she did with my brother and me.....it's much better to have kids in your 20's....especially if you're ready and mature like most ladies genuinely TTC on here.

This is me......

My mum had me when she was 19, my sis when she was 27 and brother when she was 32.... She has been different with all of us...

I always wanted to have my first child by the time I was 25............. that was my plan anyway. I'm now 30 and have only just started TTC, I've been with my partner for almost 8 years, having lived in our own home for 6. It was only last month that he finally agreed that he was ready to start TTC, as he had always said he was too young (he turned 32 this year!), even though I was diagnosed with PCOS 7 years ago.

It's so hard to wait for the man you love and want to have children with to get to the same page as you.....

...so people may leave it 'late' but it may not always be of their chosing

Love &

xxx

 

[ellie27]

If I knew my cousins or sister, (aged 23-26) were ttc I would be saying 'your young-you have plenty of time' However, if I knew they were having problems ttc then of course I would not say that! I think 24 is young and if people dont know your situation then you cant blame them for saying that its young and you have time etc.

Someone mentioned that if you want to have 3 children then you cant wait til you are 30!?!?!?! I have just had my first and I am 33 and plan another couple!

 

[rosie5637]

this really bugs me too! if i hear one more person tell me i've got plenty of time i swear i'll clobber them!

i'm 28 and single. even if i tell them i'm at risk of premature menopause they STILL say it! aarrrghh!

i think 24 is the perfect age to have a baby by the way

 

[Honeypot]

If I knew my cousins or sister, (aged 23-26) were ttc I would be saying 'your young-you have plenty of time' However, if I knew they were having problems ttc then of course I would not say that! I think 24 is young and if people dont know your situation then you cant blame them for saying that its young and you have time etc.

Someone mentioned that if you want to have 3 children then you cant wait til you are 30!?!?!?! I have just had my first and I am 33 and plan another couple!

When they know you've got problems (MIL, ahem, lol), they still say the crap that they do. I'm all the time hearing "We were married 7 years before we had children." Then again, they were married at 16...no offense to anyone who is married at 16 and wants a baby at 16, personally I wouldn't. Too many people are basically still children themselves at that age. But when you have a hard time trying to get pregnant, and don't get knocked up just by glancing at the OH, then, 24 is not young.

 

[lisaf]

ok, wait a second... they married at 16, waited 7 years? Then they were 23!!! Sheesh! Your MIL is crazy.
Though I am hoping/guessing she's just trying to alleviate your anxieties about not concieving yet by reassuring you that you still have lots of time.

 

[Honeypot]

ok, wait a second... they married at 16, waited 7 years? Then they were 23!!! Sheesh! Your MIL is crazy.
Though I am hoping/guessing she's just trying to alleviate your anxieties about not concieving yet by reassuring you that you still have lots of time.

I don't think she was. She doesn't have the respectful or kindness to do that. All she cares about is her grandchildren that lives in Germany and has her head stuck up her other daughter in laws wahzo even though she tells us all the time that she doesn't like her. Yet she treats her like a goddess because she can give her grandchildren

 

[MrsPOP]

My mum got married at 19 but waited until she was 25 until she started trying, she said she wanted time to spend with my dad before any kids came along.

I kinda felt the same way. I met my DH when I was 21 and we got married when I was 25. I was in university for 5 years and felt I needed to establish my career before TTC. Plus although DH is 5 years older than me, its taken his a while to feel ready. You know what men are like!