All By Myself...

[bloodbinds]

It's official. I leave my boyfriends appartment in Surrey this weekend, and i will be moving back to my hometown in Birmingham, on my own.

We have decided that we are not the same people we were when we first got together, and how we keep arguing, we're so different, that we can not make it work right now. We have decided that we're going to take a break from each other, and then see where we both stand once baby is born.

I am moving back in with my mum.

I'm terrified.

I mean, i know we're seperating for all the right reasons, we want to remain on good terms before baby is here so we can be good about everything. If we remain living together i think we may kill each other, and we don't want it to end on bad terms.

But how can i do this without him? How can i imagine my life without him? I was so sure he was 'the one' - i'm devestated. I really thought we could make it work.

And now i face maternity leave on my own at my mums every day. Then mid-night feeds on my own, teaching baby new things on my own, watching my baby grow without her daddy around.

It tears me up inside.

I know i can cope... i know i can do this... i recieved a text off my best friend saying 'It's going to be hard. So hard that some times it will seem impossible. But if anyone can do this, then it's you Pip.' - which has made me feel better. Stronger.

But to imagine my life without him has left a hole somewhere inside me. I grieve for what we had, and how we were before i was pregnant.

I will be just another statistic. A teenage single mum.

Please tell me this will get easier?


- i posted this in 2nd Tri, but realised this is probably a better place for it!

 

[Ickle K G]

Im sorry you are going through this and i hope the two of you can work things out. Try not too worry yes being a single mum can be hard at times but it makes you feel so proud to know you can do this by yourself. It does get easier as you adjust, at times its still hard but im sure even if your not together he will still help you out and see his baby grow up and im sure your family would look after the baby for a few hours if you feel like you need a break. Im 19 and a single mum so if you need to talk you can pm if you like.

 

[edinsam]

Hun big hugs to start with. Seriously read my thread on here where I say to all us single mums out there it will be fine. In one good sense you know that baby wise he wi help you and support you. I lost the absolute love of my life almost 5 months ago and it trully broke me. I grieved as if he had died. I woke up every day crying and would cry all days long. It was the end of what I had with him. We never argued like you guys. We had the best relationship ever but he did not want a baby. 5 months on omg am I strong or what - don't get me wrong there are days when I am low but overall I am coping as I realise worst things in life could happen to me

all I will say is cry when u need to, take each day at a time and I absolutely promise that each day a teeny part of you will recover and
months in u will be fine

be kind to yourself - don't beat yourself up

pm me anytime if u want to chat

sam
xxxx

 

[RSHowley]

My boyfriend left me at the beginning of my second trimester after we had been living together for two years. He wasn't ready to be a father and nothing i could say would reassure him or stop him from leaving.

I found out yesterday that i am having a daughter (she is due mid December). I am sad that her father wasn't with me to share that moment. And i did have a good cry in the corridoor.....

....But knowing that she is real and will be with me everyday gives me so much strength! I dont feel on my own anymore. Its the TWO OF US now and the rest i will pick up on the way.....(i hope!!)

We all have hard days,
I wish you all the best'
Rebecca xx

(I have to admit, I am new to the whole internet/chat/forum thingie but its reassuring to know there are other people out there that understand!)