All my friends are pregnant...

[Marthea007]

Hello everyone, I was just hoping to find out if other people are feeling the way I do.

DH and I got pregnant for the first time in August, and unfortunately ended up having a D&C when I was 9w as baby stopped growing at 6w2d. Two weeks after the loss, one of my friends had a baby shower. I wanted to go because I wanted to support her and I really am happy for her. However I completely broke down crying in the car on the way over and couldn't even go in the house.

Now on Sunday night, I found out that my best friend from college is also now pregnant, and due just a couple days after I was. And again, I really want to be happy for her, but I can't get past the gut wrenching sadness that it's not me.

This is normal right? And it will get better? I feel like a terrible person.

 

[bundle4me]

So sorry for your loss. I lost my baby in august at 18 weeks babys heart had stopped and we found out it was a placenta abrubtion. I felt cheated that my perfect baby boy was taken from me. I find myself looking at other people and thinking why do they deserve there baby yet i didn't deserve mine. Its a horrible feeling but it has got easier and i dont feel as resentful anymore and i am getting stronger.
I wish you all the best for the future xx

 

[Laska5]

I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks as well back in August & it does seem like everyone around me is pregnant- even celebrities on TV are annoucing pregnancies around the same date I was due- makes it very very hard.

The other day the DJ on the morning radio show announced that they got to find out the sex of there baby that was due in march (my due date)- I broke down crying. That was rough. It has gotten easier but there are moments when it hits hard.

 

[Marthea007]

Thank you ladies. I'm so sorry for your loses as well. I guess it's not so strange to feel this way but I really do hate it.

 

[claireanddaz]

I had a mc in may and the next month one of my friends told me she was pregnant and i had an ectopic in july and then two weeks ago my other best friend is pregnant! Its so hard as i feel it should be me as well its not fair i'm happy for them but i find it hard, my sil had a baby as well a week after my ectopic surgery and every time i hold the baby i just get such an overwhelming feeling that i want a baby so badly!
I know exactly how you feel i'm waiting patiently for my turn

 

[Dill]

I am sorry for your loss and understand what you're going through! It seems like all of my friends are either expecting or just recently had their babies. It's made it tougher to deal with, listening to their conversations and trying to be happy for them. I genuinely AM happy for them, but of course, it also makes me sad about my own loss.

If it helps, it does seem to get better with time. I know I have my good days and my bad days, but the bad days are getting somewhat less frequent, I think. Hang in there!

 

[dizzyc8]

I Lost my baby in Feb. it was hard because me and about 3 of my closest friend were all expecting. When I know longer was it was hard to be there for them st the baby showers, and births. But as a good friend I had to be there. now that the 3 handsome boys are all here in this world it, isn't any easier. I do love holding them and watching them grow, but at the same time my heart longs for my baby I lost. Its normal to feel lost, jealous, and having the want for your own baby. I hope for you that comes soon. We are now trying for another after 8 months, hoping everything works out for us.

Its normal to want a baby after your loss, =D

 

[Fleur828815]

Those feelings are perfectly normal, we wish we could also be experiencing a healthy pregnancy, and being around them reminds us of what we've lost.

I am also surrounded by pregnant women, it seems like there's a baby boom in my immediate circle, including THREE friends who were absolutely not trying to fall pregnant! Bizarrely I manage to be happy for my close friends but get jealous of women I'm not close to, or celebrities