Almost time... And I'm freaking out a little

[Jmmm]

I'm 36 weeks and totally can't wait to meet my little man... But I am getting sooo nervous/scared about delivery and the after mess before I got pregnant I always had really heavy periods and so I'm not at all looking forward to all the bleeding... I am also getting nervous about everyone (including my husband) seeing me all gross and not clean! I don't at all like the thought of all the bleeding! What should I really expect should I be this scared or am I just over thinking it all!?

 

[tristansmum]

To be honest once you are in Labour you won't care. Certainly won't care during pushing. You just want to get that baby out!!! Afterwards neither of you will care what's going on down there as you will be with your New baby. Bleeding afterwards is ok. After the first week it eases off.

 

[J04NN4]

Honestly you really won't care. You will probably feel pretty gross for like a week but it's really not so bad after that. I bled for about a month but only really heavy for a week and a half. Your husband will have seen you push his baby out, he will think you're amazing! He won't care if you're sweaty and haven't had chance to wash your hair

 

[Dolly84]

Yep once your In labour you won't care, and your oh with think your Wonder Woman ;-) after the birth I bled for 3 weeks 1-2 weeks medium-heavy ish and the last week just a tiny bit and I usually have really heavy periods and this was nothing

 

[Jmmm]

Thank you all so much! I'm sure I'll laugh about being so worried later on

 

[mrsmammallama]

Hey there No worries! It is natural to have these worries/concerns. You need that calm to fill you because if you are scared, labor will be worse. Just relax and know that the pain is not really pain, but your body hugging your baby into the world Our bodies are designed to give birth, and it is so beautiful (in its hideous way). I guess the point of my rant is to accept birth for what it is You will do great!

I would suggest looking into various birthing positions, if you haven't already It helps give you a sense of control over the situation! I found contractions were much easier when I was moving!

 

[Franki83]

When i was in labour with my 3rd, Husbands first, i had him and my sister there... here is what happened. I was in pain, i was too hot (i stripped) i was on all fours, on my back, on my side... any way that was comfortable for me! My sister didnt care, she had been with me before giving birth, and myself for her. My husband just wanted to help! he helped me strip off as i was too hot, he helped me move to get comfortable. And after our little boy was born, With blood and sweat around me, he helped me to the shower to feel human, lol.
He had just witnessed his son coming into the world, all he could do was tell me he loved me while i looked a right mess!
This is what labour is, a messy experience surrounded by love.

 

[chicky160]

Firstly you'll be so taken over with the labour, which by the way I personally didn't find that bad, that you'll barely care about anything other than getting your lo out!

As for the bleeding after, I bled lighter than I do with normal af! Which is much heavier too now I have given birth

My hubby actually vomited towards the end fortunately I had my mum there and a lovely midwife stayed after her shift finished to look after him. X

 

[SusieRose]

I'm 36 weeks and totally can't wait to meet my little man... But I am getting sooo nervous/scared about delivery and the after mess before I got pregnant I always had really heavy periods and so I'm not at all looking forward to all the bleeding... I am also getting nervous about everyone (including my husband) seeing me all gross and not clean! I don't at all like the thought of all the bleeding! What should I really expect should I be this scared or am I just over thinking it all!?

This made me chuckle a bit as it reminded me of being in hospital after giving birth. I was too scared tol go to the toilet because of the blood. It freaks me out. It wasn't untill I was told if I don't go within the next 30mins I will have to have a catheter again. Well I downed two jugs of water and it really wasn't that bad. I was expecting so much worse. I had bleeding in early pregnancy that was ten times worse. It feels worse than it is. I bled heavy for about a week. Stitches hurt for about a week. Good luck. Xx

 

[ttc126]

I think you'll be pleasantly surprised OP! When I bled after the birth I could honestly say I've had much much heavier periods! I did hemorrhage later on but after birth it wasn't bad at all!

 

[Kess]

I didn't like the bleeding after birth, I have to admit, but it wasn't as heavy as I expected, it just lasted longer than I wanted it to and I got fed up of it.

I wouldn't worry though, labour is amazing. Hard work, and a bit painful, but bloody amazing. It's a completely different headspace, total immersion in the moment and focus on something so important, so vital and primal, it's fantastic. I am actually looking forward to doing it again next time, though with a little trepidation.

There wasn't much mess to be honest, though probably that's because I had a water birth. Your MW or whatever will be totally used to a bit of mess, nothing to worry about there, and most husbands are so astonished at how amazing it is to see their wife bring their baby into the world they're not fussing about mess!

 

[RuthAlvarado]

Oh don't stress yourself out. Once you go into labor, all the fears/nervous feelings you have will go away. I was extremely nervous about labor (as I've heard horrible stories). But, when my water broke i was just very excited and anxious to get it over with and meet my son. My husband on the other hand, couldn't find his butt that day, He was tripping and a nervous wreck. Once you're in the process you forget about everything. Enjoy it and I hope you have a fast and easy delivery!! Here's my story... I went into labor last thanksgiving while cooking dinner, Hubby freaked out. It took me 6 and 1/2 hrs to get to hospital, as I wanted to eat turkey LOL. I kept blacking out from the pain, and my hubby was playing games on his phone (as i told him not to come near me hehe). But regardless of the pain, i didn't care, your body is designed to get through this and not really remember the pain. Proof: I'm 3 months pg again.

 

[Calibeachbum]

Its really not that bad. I have endo and have really bad periods. The bleeding is really heavy the first few days and is heavy for a week. Then it slows down after. Your DH will think you are awesome!! Don't worry your body just takes over and knows what to do. I had a really positive birthing exeperince. Just go in with an open mind and relax.

 

[Misscalais]

I honestly didn't have much 'mess' with my births, both my boys came out quite clean, DS1 had a little blood on his head but wasn't much of a big deal, he did poop on me though lol!
DS2 waters popped on 3rd push and I only pushed 8 minutes with him so he was completely clean and shiny lol!
And as for the after birth bleeding I've honestly bled more on a heavy period. Annoying thing though is I lightly bled for 6 weeks both times.
You won't worry in the moment

 

[Shadowy Lady]

you know what OP before I had my baby I was very relaxed about labour and delivery. The only thing that scared me was the thought of all the blood after. I hate blood generally and have actually fainted a few times but just seeing a lot of blood. I could not stand the thought of potentially bleeding for like 6 weeks!

But then I had a straight forward and relatively easy delivery (4 hours, all natural). I had no tears/grazes whatsoever and the best part was....I only bled for 12 days and it really was only heavy the first 4 days.

So don't stree yourself out, things may be a lot better than you have it built up in your head

 

[eulmh82]

Honestly you will not care. You'll totally just get on with it. Normally I'm a major major wimp. Like seriously. My husband was well impressed with how I coped with birth, he saw me bleed/ poo/ be cut/ stitched up
And he still thinks I'm superwoman. Honestly it's not as bad as some people say. You just sort of get on with it.