ALWAYS been single :(

[bellexx]

So I have been finding reassurance in this forum but there's one thing that upsets me quite alot...
It affected me BEFORE I got pregnant but now I'm doubly upset. I know I'm only 18 but I can't get my head round the fact that I am having a baby but have not even had a boyfriend yet in my whole life. The closest I've got is a few dates where it just fizzled out when it was obvious we weren't meant for each other.
I know it's going to be a lot harder to find a guy when I have a baby which makes me sad cos if I can't get a boyfriend now, who's to say I ever will!?
I'm so jealous of everyone on here with their OH's... I can't even start to imagine how hard this is gonna be

 

[Kate&Lucas]

Although obviously I didn't have a baby at that age, I was nearly 19 when I got in my first relationship! And believe me, they are NOT all that
It's not always harder to find someone when you have a child either, from personal experience, but what I've found is I just don't want to be with someone like I did before I had my son. He's all I need atm

All I can say is don't dwell on what you could have, feel great about what you've got, your gorgeous LO growing inside you! Just make sure you have people around you that you can depend on. That doesn't have to be an OH, I moved back home to have my family around me.

It is hard, but it's also amazing and totally worth it

 

[SonyaKain17]

Relationships are hard at any age.
I'm 24 and just had my first child and I can tell you no matter whether you have someone or not it's hard.
My daughters father isn't around right now, It's hard on me cause we've been together for 3 years and he just doesn't seem to be taking the steps needed to take care of his family.
Sometimes, as hard as it is, it might be better to be on your own with your child.
You can focus solely on them and what they need. That little being is going to be the center of your universe soon.
I won't lie and say it's not lonely, I have days when I feel like I've never felt more alone in my life.
But then I look at my little girl, and it all just seems to fade.

Try not to worry too much about finding someone.
Sometimes when your looking for something you want thats the times when you'll never seem to find it.
Take a step back
Work on you and what you need
Love sooner or later will find you!
And yes trying to date when you have a child is at times crazy, there will be a guy out there who will welcome that fact.
Who will be ok with what you have in your life and be comfortable knowing not only does he get you but a child to care for as well.

Anyone who walks away because you have a kid, doesn't deserve you

 

[bellexx]

thanks guys... i hope that i'll be able to find someone one day... i'm not too cut up about not being with the baby's daddy but just the fact i'm gonna be lonely.

 

[billy2mm]

i wont lie it is lonley but ive found that ive relly put alot more effort into finding a decent guy now that ive kids.

also its true what they say that when you stop looking you find someone.

 

[littlekitten8]

I didn't have my first relationship til I was 18. And believe me it wasn't a good relationship. And nor have any of the relationships since been good! Once you hold your little one in your arms it will cease to matter so much. The longest I had ever been single once I started dating was 6 weeks (I hated being alone so would rush into relationships) and currently I've been single coming up 3 months. And it doesn't really bother me that much!