Am I being greedy?

[Aidan's Mummy]

And if shes got all that money back dated then please come on

I'm sorry but anyone that says its her only 30 pund when I was living at my mums I didnt have to pay board but I had aidan and I still managed to put 30 ound towards a dress for my OH's mums wedding saying that she might be struggling doesnt wash with me
xx

 

[lesleyann]

when i got ema i got loads backdated and paid when i was not in and over xmas and your get bonuses for being for 10wks and then for longer and for reaching targets and for doing a work placement and for when you leave and you get a grant for clothes to wear for interviews and items you may need to get a job **when the people come to interview you that is**

 

[Linzi]

She was gonna have to get a dress for your wedding anyway regardless of if she's a bridesmaid or not, can't see her getting anything for under £30 really!!!

One of my best friends OFFERED to pay for her dress if I asked her to be bridesmaid, but I decided against having them.

I really dont think you're being harsh hun, especially £30. If it was like £500 thatd be a different story xx

 

[HannahGraceee]

^^ good point linzi - she would have had to buy a dress/outfit anyway and i bet it would cost more then £30 with shoes ect x x

 

[pinkmummy]

^^ good point linzi - she would have had to buy a dress/outfit anyway and i bet it would cost more then £30 with shoes ect x x

Exactly and I'm buying their shoes and jewelery and getting their hair and make up done too! I don't even want her as a bm but feel like I have to coz she's my sister x

 

[HannahGraceee]

I think she should pay tbh, even if you bought it for her and she paided you back £2 a week!

 

[subaru555]

If she got money back dated then I would ask her to pay for it outright - before it's gone!

 

[Kimboowee]

Im 'making' mine pay for theirs, it'll be a bit more at £80, but im shelling out for shoes, jewelery, hair and make up.


Having that amount of time gives her plenty of time! I have told all my bridesmaids, you wear what I say, if you dont like it then your not being one!

 

[ChloesMummy]

I have never heard of bridesmaids paying for they're own dress in the UK

Im assuming it's the done thing where you live so I would agree £30 is not a lot of money esp if she has had the backdated EMA (whatever that is lol).

I would probs just pay the £30 to save a family fallout, anything for an easy life I hope you get it sorted hun x

 

[Sovereign]

I'm paying for my bridesmaids dresses myself but I don't think you're being out of order if she knew from the start that you would want £30 off her x

 

[Hopeful 4 #1]

My BM dresses are £60 each. I'm paying for 2of theirs as they dnt work and are too young to work! but the other EIGHT are paying for their own, AND their shoes!! xx

 

[Blob]

Its traditional that the bridesmaids DO pay for their dresses!!! Mine arent i dont think as it would limit what i wanted them to wear

 

[PnutProtector]

i don't think that's in any way greedy. 30 is nothing.

In the US bridesmaids and Groomsman/ushers are responsible for their attire. It's all apart of being in the wedding.

 

[PnutProtector]

i don't think that's in any way greedy. 30 is nothing.

In the US bridesmaids and Groomsman/ushers are responsible for their attire. It's all apart of being in the wedding.

 

[lozzy21]

I personaly wouldent make them pay for there dresses. Its my wedding not theres. If i couldent afford the dressed i wouldent have bridesmaids.

When your only getting 30 a week, a 5er is a lot of money and as for her backdated payments and her bonus, ithat is supposed to be your money as a reward for sticking in collage. I used mine for christmass presants.

 

[PnutProtector]

every wedding site i've been too, everyone i've talked to, and every movie or show that i've seen, the bridesmaid pays for her own dress.

It's like buying a dress for a party or prom or ball. You buy it yourself. Only with weddings, the bride asks that the girls she's chosen to stand by her on her big day wear something that makes them stand out from the guests. It makes them special.

I've had to cut out both of my sisters because they missed the deadline for ordering their dresses. I feel bad. BUT i gave them months to prepare and save. And the two weeks before the deadline I called every other day and left messages. Neither called me back.

 

[lozzy21]

every wedding site i've been too, everyone i've talked to, and every movie or show that i've seen, the bridesmaid pays for her own dress.

It's like buying a dress for a party or prom or ball. You buy it yourself. Only with weddings, the bride asks that the girls she's chosen to stand by her on her big day wear something that makes them stand out from the guests. It makes them special.

I've had to cut out both of my sisters because they missed the deadline for ordering their dresses. I feel bad. BUT i gave them months to prepare and save. And the two weeks before the deadline I called every other day and left messages. Neither called me back.

I dont know if its a uk/us differance then because iv been bridesmaid several times and never had to get my own dress nor has any one i know. Its not just about waring a dress that sets them aside and to stand with her during the ceramony. The bridesmaids are there to help "prepare" the bride for the big day and to help the maid of honor make sure that event goes as smoothly as possible.

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

I personaly wouldent make them pay for there dresses. Its my wedding not theres. If i couldent afford the dressed i wouldent have bridesmaids.

When your only getting 30 a week, a 5er is a lot of money and as for her backdated payments and her bonus, ithat is supposed to be your money as a reward for sticking in collage. I used mine for christmass presants.

I dont really agree with that she has no repsonsibilities. Yet I still went to college got my 30 pound and still paid for my own dress AND had aidan. I think she is being selfish and very childish she doesnt pay rent and she has no bills. So it really doenst wash when she says she cant afford it because I did and i had a child
xx

 

[lozzy21]

I personaly wouldent make them pay for there dresses. Its my wedding not theres. If i couldent afford the dressed i wouldent have bridesmaids.

When your only getting 30 a week, a 5er is a lot of money and as for her backdated payments and her bonus, ithat is supposed to be your money as a reward for sticking in collage. I used mine for christmass presants.

I dont really agree with that she has no repsonsibilities. Yet I still went to college got my 30 pound and still paid for my own dress AND had aidan. I think she is being selfish and very childish she doesnt pay rent and she has no bills. So it really doenst wash when she says she cant afford it because I did and i had a child
xx

Im not going to start an argument. OP asked for our opinions so i gave mine. Just because its different to yours dosent mean its wrong.

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

I didnt say it was wrong. I just said after haveing more responsibilities I stiil afforded it so how is that causing an argument

Chirst There is no need ofr a comment like that I didnt say you had to agree with me did I