Am I being selfish?

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When I found out I was pregnant, I moved out of my room and 2 stories below into the basement bedroom so my baby girl wouldn't be cold and I didn't have to worry about bugs getting to her. My dad and little brother recently moved to California because my dad had no job opportunities here in Colorado but we will be joining him in July of 2011. My dad had said that OH and I could have the master bedroom across the hall from my old bedroom so we wouldn't have to walk up 2 flights of stairs in the middle of the night. My mom has health problems and can't walk up stairs easily so she stays in the only bedroom on the main floor. But I was very grateful and accepted my dad's offer.

But now everything has flipped. My mom says that OH and I can not take the master bedroom because we will "move things around" and "throw things away". Which is not entirely true, but yes, she's a hoarder and we try and clean as much as possible when she's gone. So we have come up with another solution. We now have an empty bedroom because my brother is gone and my mom, OH and I have asked my 16 year old sister to kindly move into this bedroom. It's right next door to her bedroom and the room is even purple, which matches the theme of her room!

But she has rudely said no. She says that, "The room doesn't get enough sunlight", which is slightly true. It's on the north side of the house and the sun doesn't get to that side until very, very late in the evening. BUT she has her curtains and sun blocking shades closed ALL THE TIME. Her bedroom, which actually used to be MY bedroom until my older brother moved out is RIGHT NEXT DOOR to the nursery. She's already complaining about how LO will wake her up in the middle of the night. If she's TWO rooms away, this won't be as much of a problem! My mom also offered her the basement bedroom, which has a huge TV screen, cable, and it's own bathroom and again, she rudely says no! Stating that the basement bedroom is "too cold". Which it is, but I bought a portable heater! Which warms the bedroom side just fine!

I really need this and she doesn't understand how much I would appreciate it. So am I asking too much of her? Am I being too selfish? Sorry this is so long, just need some advice and input. I'm just really frustrated. How can I try and convince her? :nope:
 
Sorry but i kind of think your expecting to much. Things aren't always going to work out the way you want. The room you were originally in is to small for both of you? Because honestly your going to have the baby in your room for a while most parents do anyways, why make you sister switch rooms when the baby wont be in the nursery?
 
Personally I dont think your asking that much. It's not as though she hasnt been given a fair offer, it sounds like she feels she will be left out once the baby is born and that you may be getting special treatment because you are pregnant.
 
Sorry but i kind of think your expecting to much. Things aren't always going to work out the way you want. The room you were originally in is to small for both of you? Because honestly your going to have the baby in your room for a while most parents do anyways, why make you sister switch rooms when the baby wont be in the nursery?

I didn't move out of my room because it was too small, I moved out because I wanted a nursery for the LO. And I had planned for LO to be sleeping in the nursery, not with me. But I see where you are coming from, thanks! :)
 
How old is she?

I don't think you're necessarily asking too much, but you're sister is probably having a hard time adjusting to all that's going on (you being pregnant, expecting a baby to come into the household, having your father and brother move, knowing that she'll be moving soon as well).

I'd wait until everyone's calmed down over this a bit and then speak to her. Ask her all her concerns for staying in each room and then try to find solutions to the problems or just talk up the positives of each room to her in a big way.
 
How old is she?

I don't think you're necessarily asking too much, but you're sister is probably having a hard time adjusting to all that's going on (you being pregnant, expecting a baby to come into the household, having your father and brother move, knowing that she'll be moving soon as well).

I'd wait until everyone's calmed down over this a bit and then speak to her. Ask her all her concerns for staying in each room and then try to find solutions to the problems or just talk up the positives of each room to her in a big way.

She's 16. I'll try speaking to her again in a little and try and have her see my side too while still respecting her side. Thanks! :)

 
Ah yeah, if she's 16 that would definitely be my guess then!
 
I think you're asking too much. You got pregnant, your sister didn't. Why should she move?

I know it would be ideal for you if she moved, but it wouldn't be for her and she didn't make a life changing decision, you did. I would be pretty pissed off if my sister tried to make me move bedrooms because she was pregnant, and when I was my mum would have told me exactly what I'm telling you now if I wanted to change rooms. It's just not fair on your sister, IMO.

Maybe speaking to her in a few weeks might help. Let her know how much you would appreciate it, maybe do something for her in return?
 
Why don't you move into your brothers old room?? It sounds to me like it's STILL empty and it IS upstairs closer to the nursery. just a suggestion so everyone is convinienced
 
Why don't you move into your brothers old room?? It sounds to me like it's STILL empty and it IS upstairs closer to the nursery. just a suggestion so everyone is convinienced

My bed actually doesn't fit in there because there's a large wardrobe in there. But I have considered that. Thanks! :flower:

 
I don't think your asking to much at all. It sounds like she is getting the better and bigger rooms and she should atleast think about switching because she is your sister and she should want to help you out. My brother even offered to move to the basement if we needed him to. That's what family is there for to love, support, help you out when you need it. I can understand why she doesnt want to move out of her room but I think you guys just need to sit down and have a talk about it as adults. Get eachothers points of view.
 
I don't think your asking to much at all. It sounds like she is getting the better and bigger rooms and she should atleast think about switching because she is your sister and she should want to help you out. My brother even offered to move to the basement if we needed him to. That's what family is there for to love, support, help you out when you need it. I can understand why she doesnt want to move out of her room but I think you guys just need to sit down and have a talk about it as adults. Get eachothers points of view.

Thank you :)
That's exactly how I feel and I would do the same for her.

Thanks everyone for your advice! :flower:
 

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