Am I doing the right thing for my baby?

[Blue_star]

I'll try to make it short but I really need some advice here I am a young single mom only 22 FOB is 21 I am going onto 16 weeks now. But my FOB randomly decided he didn't want to be a dad after he was looking forward to it so much and he seems like a family person so I was surprised. He never told his parents who live down the street about the baby so my parents and his parents ended up talking about the situation and we told them. FOB's parents seem alot more mature and responsible about the situation and said they are going to keep in touch about the baby.

I just felt they had the right to know as they are the grandparents and give them a choice if they would like to be in the babies life or not. I don't know if I did the right/wrong thing. But they appreciated us telling them about the situation.

Also since my FOB suddenly wants to waste money while he has a child on the way quitting his job and moving out of town (so he says) which I think is a waste of time as he had already lived in the town he wants to move back too and said he didn't like it very much, found it very expensive and a waste of money and gas living so many hours away. Even tho before he planned to stay to see the baby and keep working. My family is planning to support me while I finish my two last years of school they are giving the baby his/her new room and watching her while I am in school/studying. Am I doing the right thing? because he is being so selfish thinking he's going to run away from any type of responsibility. I'm sure his parents where VERY shocked when they found out and they went right to talk to him about everything once they found out.. also i'm sure they are very angry/disappointed in him.

 

[Jinty]

That sounds fine to me. Im 21 and my LO is 3. Although i have my own flat, since LO was born i done 2 years of college and im in my first year of uni. By doing the right thing, do you mean telling FOB's parents or keeping LO?

 

[Blue_star]

That sounds fine to me. Im 21 and my LO is 3. Although i have my own flat, since LO was born i done 2 years of college and im in my first year of uni. By doing the right thing, do you mean telling FOB's parents or keeping LO?

I mean both, the house I live in has way too much room and my LO will get his/her own room a backyard to play in and a play room as well (it's my grandparents) I haven't got my own place yet I was thinking about it but my grandparents want me and baby to stay here for a year or two to help me.

 

[teal]

I think you've done the right thing on both counts. Why move out if you're going to struggle when there is plenty of room at home. It makes much more sense to stay where you get support and when you're ready to move out then you can. It was good of you to tell his parents, as you said they deserve to know and it's their decision if they're involved, not FOB's.

Sending you lots of hugs xx

 

[angelpkj]

i think you sound very mature and have your head screwed on so well done you! sounds all good to me

If fob runs away from it all so be it

then people will realise what hes like

 

[jemmie1994]

i think you are doing the right thing finishing school and staying at home, that's what I'm doing and Evie has her own beautiful room and a lovely garden to play in personally I just couldnt cope on my own if me and Evie were in our own house and definitly wouldnt be able to go to school so for us staying at home was the right choice it might not be for others but if you have a good thing going at home it is probably the right thing to do.