Am I over reacting?!!

[Wallflower]

Hi Girls,

My in-law's have just come back from holiday, they always bring presents which is very kind.... This time they also brought bump presents back which is also very kind: a cute teddy, some yellow socks and a romper suit.

The problem is that the romper suit is bright pink with flowers and butterflies on and we don't know what we're having, we're staying TEAM YELLOW!!!!!!!!!! It is very pretty and I would LOVE it if we were expecting a baby girl but we don't have a clue. MIL has made no secret of the fact that she would love a granddaughter which I can understand as she has 2 sons herself but it has really hurt my feelings as it made me think she will not love a boy as much. There was no boy alternative bought to the pink romper suit and I feel very protective over my potential unborn son

I said what if it's not a girl?? FIL said 'baby won't know what it's wearing!' omg, I think they will expect baby to wear pink flowery romper even if it's a boy..

OH says I am being ungrateful..

Felt like my head was going to explode

xx

 

[Missy21386]

It's a lovely gesture, but OH and i are with you on this. If i took our boy out in a pink romper suit people would look and be like "awww what a lovely girl!" And i'd hate to have to correct everyone then get the odd looks or have to explain to people when they ask why i'd put a boy in pink lol.

Just keep hold of it for now, and when the time comes, if you don't need it, sell it on and get another one thats the correct colour lol.

 

[Wallflower]

Thanks so much Missy! Baby would so look like a girl in it lol. I wouldn't even feel right putting a baby boy in it to sleep in, would feel cruel

I'm sure it will come in handy, got a couple of pregnant friends maybe they will have a girl if I don't

 

[ovetta2001]

As much as the thought was there your MIL is in a way showing her preferance of child and you have every right to be upset and protective of your child.

Its 50/50 that you could be having a boy and i wouldnt put my child in pink either.
Ask you OH if he would wear something that was purchased for a female...if he argues that he would knwo the difference...well everyone else will when they see your baby.

Explain to the MIL that you are very grateful for your gift but you are def staying team yellow and would like netural clothes. Ask her if she could all future clothes until the baby is born are team yellow...since im guessing that one cant be exchanged!

When LO is born she can go as crazy as she likes.
In the mean time...she wouldnt have purchased something pink if she knew it was a boy so she shouldnt now either!

x x x

 

[Wallflower]

Thanks Ovetta! Those were the words I was looking for - she is totally showing her preference and it's not very nice..

If they buy anything else in a pink shade I will defo voice my opinion. I had to bite my tongue because I was about to lose my temper or cry!

Thanks again, I'm glad I am actually sane xx

 

[lalitas charm]

I can understand how you feel about this as it is a bit off that your MIL is being so obvious about her preference, that's not right.

This baby will be wearing some of DD's hand me downs regardless of whether they are a girl or boy!! If its a boy I'd prob not take him out in anything girlie but I'm not going to worry about it with sleepsuits etc. Babies are super expensive and I don't feel the need to buy twice when most of them are in perfect condition.

 

[Laurenmomma]

oh my god deja vu here! when i was pregnant with dd i was team yellow and mil was convinced i was having a boy and would talk to my belly callin it the boys name we had choose! it peed me off so much i decided if i did have a boy then it would not have that name! anyway baby arrived and to amazement it was a girl, family came around with gifts etc and my mum bought a big pink frilly tutu dress for dd which i loved, mil said she had already bought the gifts before she arrived...a box of pampers and blue bibs... needless to say the bibs went in the bin!

i wasnt being ungrateful i just thought it was rude to buy them before knowing and to give me just blue! id just gave birth to a gorgeous girl i wanted her pink and frilly!!! haha

sorry rant over from me! xx

 

[Clareybeary]

I think you have every right to feel protective of your baby. I have a similar thread I have started when someone said hurtful things about my baby. Some people just honestly are so ignorant!!!!! Just store the gift away somewhere. You never know, it might be a girl!!! And if the baby is a boy, she will fall in love all over again as soon as she holds the baby in her arms so I wouldn't worry about that!!!

 

[Sewergrrl]

She obviously doesn't care what you think if she says just to put a boy in a flowery, pink romper. It's not worth it to fight with her. I would say thanks and sell it later if you're having a boy.

 

[MissIntrigue]

Don't know if it was mentioned before, but the way I am dealt with that when I was pregnant with DD (before I knew she was indeed a she) is if I received boy clothes and we had a girl, then she would wear those sleepers or jumpers at home during naps/bedtime and vice versa. With this one, my sister in law entered a contest to win baby clothes custom made - she won and she had entered with me in mind. She did so when I was 10 weeks. I am now 21 weeks and we just found out that we are having a girl. Problem is, she registered as the outfit being for a BOY. LOL The way I see it, my girl bub can wear it even if it is blue. If there are things like trucks etc, then she can wear it to bed Also, my sis in law ends up looking kinda dumb for not waiting to find out

 

[Jims_Girl]

What a weird thing to do!! The women sounds a little warped to me......

I would probaly tell her to keep it until the baby is born....

I've told everyone that my baby is only wearing White for the first few weeks... Seems to have worked so far

 

[Jims_Girl]

....I wouldn't put a boy in a pink romper suit either.... !!

 

[Wallflower]

oh my god deja vu here! when i was pregnant with dd i was team yellow and mil was convinced i was having a boy and would talk to my belly callin it the boys name we had choose! it peed me off so much i decided if i did have a boy then it would not have that name! anyway baby arrived and to amazement it was a girl, family came around with gifts etc and my mum bought a big pink frilly tutu dress for dd which i loved, mil said she had already bought the gifts before she arrived...a box of pampers and blue bibs... needless to say the bibs went in the bin!

i wasnt being ungrateful i just thought it was rude to buy them before knowing and to give me just blue! id just gave birth to a gorgeous girl i wanted her pink and frilly!!! haha

sorry rant over from me! xx

Oh gosh!!! It is very rude isn't it to just assume. MIL's eh!!!? I'm not suprised u wanted your gorgeous girl in a frilly dress and not blue bibs!

xx

 

[Wallflower]

What a weird thing to do!! The women sounds a little warped to me......

I would probaly tell her to keep it until the baby is born....

I've told everyone that my baby is only wearing White for the first few weeks... Seems to have worked so far

Thanks Jims_Girl, that made me LOL, she is a little warped

xx

 

[Laurenmomma]

Yeah I'm not giving her a hint to names this time and don't see her so she won't buy presents haha x

 

[toddlerandpip]

We've not told my mil the sex! Only seen her once in past 5 months. She's lucky husband told her we were havoing another! We only told her at 20 something weeks lol

 

[Wallflower]

Yeah I'm not giving her a hint to names this time and don't see her so she won't buy presents haha x

No I wouldn't either if I were you, you can do without any unwanted stresses can't you

xx

 

[crazylilth1ng]

Well, if baby is a boy its her that has wasted her money on the romper suit and not you... and you MUSTN'T let your LO wear it just to appease this woman... it is up to you what your baby wears and if he/she wears the romper it is because YOU want him/her to.

I hate when people are pushy over the sex of a baby... for goodness sakes you get what you get and its ALWAYS a blessing!!! Do not feel bad if your baby is a boy on her account hun, she has a problem obviously. And I am sure she is lovely on other occasions... but this is something just totally out of her control!

 

[Wallflower]

Well, if baby is a boy its her that has wasted her money on the romper suit and not you... and you MUSTN'T let your LO wear it just to appease this woman... it is up to you what your baby wears and if he/she wears the romper it is because YOU want him/her to.

I hate when people are pushy over the sex of a baby... for goodness sakes you get what you get and its ALWAYS a blessing!!! Do not feel bad if your baby is a boy on her account hun, she has a problem obviously. And I am sure she is lovely on other occasions... but this is something just totally out of her control!

Thanks so much, baby will defo not wear it if its a boy I would feel so wrong, it's not just the colour pink, it's also the flowers and butterflies and teddy bear with a bow in it's hair that just make it far too girly lol!

Just wanted to say that I love your baby's name, Eleni is so pretty!

xx

 

[crazylilth1ng]

Thank you Ironically, It is my mother in law's name hehehe... and as she is so lovely I thought that it would make her happy to name the baby after her (although if her name had been Gertrude or Doris it just wouldn't have happened lol)

I am glad that you are sticking to your guns!!