Am i stupid and selfish

[YummyMummy]

Hi,
i havent been on here in ages been busy being a mummy but im back
jus 2 fill in info to those who dont kno me im a yvonne i have a 8 month old son called joaquim and im now a single mother.

since xmas i have wanted a baby and now my feeling for one is even stronger i always wanted my son 2 have a brother or sister close to his age but im single so thats a problem, im really close with this guy he and my son get on when were out he tells everyone hes my sons dad and stuff and looks after my son wen im tired but am i ready 2 have 2 kids 2 dads at a close age, the other guy and i have talked abt kids of our own.

am i selfish to start trying for another baby, is it bad that i want this?
please let me kno thanks and hi 2 eveyone x

 

[polo_princess]

The fact that this has even crossed your mind and is worrying you tells me that deep down i know you dont think this is a good idea

Your not even in a relationship with this guy so whats to stop him running off and leaving you on your own, only this time you will have two children to care for single handedly.

Honestly ..... i wouldnt, how do you know that in 6 months time you wont meet the love of your life? You'll be pregnant with someone elses baby thinking "damn, i wish i would of waited just that little bit longer"

To be fair to you, i dont think your selfish, if you were selfish you would have already gotten pregnant without giving this a second thought

 

[Serene123]

I wouldn't hun xx

 

[princess_bump]

i agree with polo - i don't think you're selfish honey, but i also believe its not a good idea, enjoy this time with your new son and this new guy, and when the time is right for baby no 2, your'll no deep down x

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

Hunni, i don't think your being selfish. and it's natural to feel broody. It's built into us. But i really would think twice about having a baby with this man. Wait until you meet some one you truly love and in time have another baby. Your little man will get a borther or sister one day. You have got your whole life ahead of yo. Why the rush??


xx

 

[nikky0907]

I'm sure you want to fall in love madly and get married right? Maybe finish education, get a great job and enjoy Joaquim for a while?

Yes, it would be totally ideal to have two LOs close in age but I don't think circumstances are right. Thats life's little plan for ya...
One day whn you meat the love of your life (who you'll trust so much not to ever back out on you) and you two made that decision to have your own little baby it's gonna be that more special. And maybe you'l have your 2nd and 3rd close together


xxx

 

[xBlackBeautyx]

I don't think you're being selfish at all but I don't think its a good idea. Lots of women get broody after having a baby but you need to resist it until you're stable. You've only had 8months of being a mummy and you've got another man in your life. Get used to be a proper single mum first without another man. Settle down a bit with this guy if you both really want to and then talk about having children. If there's anything I've learnt, its always prepare for the fact that you may end up a single mum and make sure you can handle it first. God forbid if you did have another baby with this guy and things went sour, you'll have not one, but two really young babies to look after yourself. I really hope things work out for you and your son is absolutely gorgeous x