Am I the only one on here with no contact with FOB?

[resursval]

I have absolutely zero contact with my FOB. Anyone else on here that also have no contact with FOB? Everyone seems to more or less have some contact with their FOB..

 

[lil_mama_415]

i have zero contact with my dd father

 

[Gunnhilde]

We've talked on the phone a handful of times, but I haven't seen him since I was pregnant. It has been about 4 years. I've got sole custody with no visitation.

 

[resursval]

Thanks for replying. We broke the contact when my daughter was 3 months old but he had already been very absent during all the pregnancy and didn't bother to be with me when giving birth as well.

 

[resursval]

We've talked on the phone a handful of times, but I haven't seen him since I was pregnant. It has been about 4 years. I've got sole custody with no visitation.

Hej,
See you will be soon living in Denmark, I am in south of Sweden

 

[Gunnhilde]

Hej,
See you will be soon living in Denmark, I am in south of Sweden

Ohh that is nice! I'll be moving to Aarhus.

Well, if you had to pick a country to be a single mother in... Sweden is probably one of the best. I couldn't afford to live here, in America, as one.

 

[surprisebaby]

i have no contact whatsoever with my fob. his choice. He just cut us off from his life from day 1 of finding out I was pregnant. Has never even looked at our daughter who is now 2. He never replied to any messages, calls etc. Just pretends we don't exist. It is quite sad really that he can't even make any communication at all. He is in deep denial that he has a child. Hard to understand. He graduated this week from university so I am very looking forward to contacting the csa to start getting money from him once he starts earning. Maybe he won't be able to deny money leaving his bank account quite as easily as denying he has a daughter!!

 

[lil_mama_415]

once the fob started making threats about kidnapping her and death threats to me while i was pregnant that was the last straw

 

[resursval]

once the fob started making threats about kidnapping her and death threats to me while i was pregnant that was the last straw

I'm so sorry to hear that.

However it is "nice" to know I am not the only one in this situation. Sometimes I feel almost like an alien having no contact with FOB. It's his choice but probably mine as well as he is not a good parent to any of his kids. He always ends up abandoning them sooner or later.

 

[Gunnhilde]

once the fob started making threats about kidnapping her and death threats to me while i was pregnant that was the last straw

My ex-husband threatened to take her and sell her off after she was born. That was the last time we saw each other. Weird thing is that he was the one who wanted to try and get pregnant.

 

[resursval]

once the fob started making threats about kidnapping her and death threats to me while i was pregnant that was the last straw

My ex-husband threatened to take her and sell her off after she was born. That was the last time we saw each other. Weird thing is that he was the one who wanted to try and get pregnant.

Yes I had a similar thing happened "we will work things through if you get pregnant" "what happens is meant to happen". Then when it happened he threatened me, wanted me to kill our baby and then when he thought she was a boy (first ultrasound misleading) he changed his mind (all he ever wanted was to have a son) and then wanted me to have an abortion at 17 weeks pregnant (when it was confirmed she was a girl).
Disgusting and absolutely appalling I say.

 

[dannyo]

i have no contact whatsoever with my fob. his choice. He just cut us off from his life from day 1 of finding out I was pregnant. Has never even looked at our daughter who is now 2. He never replied to any messages, calls etc. Just pretends we don't exist. It is quite sad really that he can't even make any communication at all. He is in deep denial that he has a child. Hard to understand. He graduated this week from university so I am very looking forward to contacting the csa to start getting money from him once he starts earning. Maybe he won't be able to deny money leaving his bank account quite as easily as denying he has a daughter!!

Wow, He is a real piece of work. I just can't believe anyone would deny their own child.

 

[gracexxx]

i have no contact whatsoever with my fob. his choice. He just cut us off from his life from day 1 of finding out I was pregnant. Has never even looked at our daughter who is now 2. He never replied to any messages, calls etc. Just pretends we don't exist. It is quite sad really that he can't even make any communication at all. He is in deep denial that he has a child. Hard to understand. He graduated this week from university so I am very looking forward to contacting the csa to start getting money from him once he starts earning. Maybe he won't be able to deny money leaving his bank account quite as easily as denying he has a daughter!!

Pretty much in the same situation myself, We had some contact to begin with, but after him being no help at all during my pregnancy, ignoring many of my calls and messages and coming up with excuse after excuse not to see me or his daughter i gave up and have now completely cut contact and deleted him out of our lives. FOB saw LO when she was 2 days old wasnt at the birth, and hasnt been there since. He also denies the existence of his own daughter, which breaks my heart when i think about it. But then i think i have a wonderful baby girl, why would i want a useless 'father' who abandons his own baby and treats me like im totally worthless in our lives? Were both so much better off without him.

 

[resursval]

i have no contact whatsoever with my fob. his choice. He just cut us off from his life from day 1 of finding out I was pregnant. Has never even looked at our daughter who is now 2. He never replied to any messages, calls etc. Just pretends we don't exist. It is quite sad really that he can't even make any communication at all. He is in deep denial that he has a child. Hard to understand. He graduated this week from university so I am very looking forward to contacting the csa to start getting money from him once he starts earning. Maybe he won't be able to deny money leaving his bank account quite as easily as denying he has a daughter!!

Pretty much in the same situation myself, We had some contact to begin with, but after him being no help at all during my pregnancy, ignoring many of my calls and messages and coming up with excuse after excuse not to see me or his daughter i gave up and have now completely cut contact and deleted him out of our lives. FOB saw LO when she was 2 days old wasnt at the birth, and hasnt been there since. He also denies the existence of his own daughter, which breaks my heart when i think about it. But then i think i have a wonderful baby girl, why would i want a useless 'father' who abandons his own baby and treats me like im totally worthless in our lives? Were both so much better off without him.

Yes I thought the same about my FOB, better he's gone from the start than she gets attached to the asshole and then he breaks her heart abandoning her for real.

 

[teal]

I have absolutely no contact with FOB. We broke up when I refused to have a termination. He's never met my son xx

 

[lizardbreath]

I'm sorry ladies all these men as real pieces of work. I couldn't imagine my girls not seeing their dad. You are all very strong women I give you all a lot of credit

 

[lil_mama_415]

only good thing is he may not b her father theres a 50%chance

 

[Fraggles]

I'm another with no contact. Not seen his eldest since 7 months and never met his youngest.

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

I have some contact, if you can call it that. He likes to threaten me with his new gf saying she will be the perfect step mom... She's a felon! Ugh. Sometimes I wish I had no contact at all

 

[MommaAlexis]

Have had zero contact since I was nine weeks, he's ignored every message and call.