Am I totally a bad person?

[Amandie82]

I thot I knew who the father of my baby is...my boyfriend of about a month. But then at the pregnancy resource center they told me I was 6 weeks along so he couldn't be the father.

But that's not the worst part... Now know who the dad is because I went through a phase of one night stands so I have no idea how to even figure it out!

So now its hard to tell people without telling people, that the father will not be a part of my baby's life. Their first question is always "who's the father?" or "so, what's the father say" and they never leave it alone when I say he won't be in the picture! I feel so stupid and like a horrible person when I tell them I don't know who the father is why can't people just leave it alone when I say he's not gonna be around? I already feel horrible! They make me feel worse

 

[tinkerbelll]

I thot I knew who the father of my baby is...my boyfriend of about a month. But then at the pregnancy resource center they told me I was 6 weeks along so he couldn't be the father.

But that's not the worst part... Now know who the dad is because I went through a phase of one night stands so I have no idea how to even figure it out!

So now its hard to tell people without telling people, that the father will not be a part of my baby's life. Their first question is always "who's the father?" or "so, what's the father say" and they never leave it alone when I say he won't be in the picture! I feel so stupid and like a horrible person when I tell them I don't know who the father is why can't people just leave it alone when I say he's not gonna be around? I already feel horrible! They make me feel worse

hi, just wanted to ask how far along you thought you was? not sure if you know but when they work out how far away you are they sort of add 2 weeks on to your date, (the first day of your last period) so the date they give you wasnt actually the day you got pregnant (its normally 2-3 wks later) - so if your 6wks pregnant you would of got pregnant around 4 wks ago - hope im making sense!!

 

[Mynxie]

sweetheart, if you're 6 weeks pregnant, you conceived about 4 weeks ago. (they calculate from the first day of last period) so the person you slept with around 4 weeks ago is the father.

 

[LucyS]

so If I am due 5th October and am coming up to 27 weeks gone now I couldnt have got pregnant by the person I last slept with at the latest the end of October?

 

[brownhairedmom]

Results: First Day of Last Menstrual Periodecember 30, 2007

Probable Date of Ovulation: January 13, 2008

Possible Dates of Conception: January 9 to January 17, 2008

Due Date: October 5, 2008 (40 weeks)



So whoever you slept with in that time frame is who the baby's dad is.

 

[LucyS]

Thanks! I really can't remember when my last period was which doesn't help, does the menstrual cycle start the 1st day of your last period? God I'm useless!

Basically I got back with my ex (after seeing somebody else) the beginning of November, I am due on 5th October but keep panicking the hospital could have got the dates wrong and it not be his etc I'm just being silly right?

 

[Mynxie]

That's right, the menstrual cycle starts on the very first day of your period.

 

[Amandie82]

Yes I know the math on the two week thing. But I was with him 4 weeks. The first week we only slept together twice with protection. Then it was over a week before we did it again and it wasn't til mid June before we did it unprotected. So there isn't much chance its his. Thanks for the feedback but I'm afraid it still doesn't add up and just FYI I was an escort so I still was working while with him and yes he knew I was working. I didn't wanna say that, but its the truth, I fell on hard times and I had to do what I had to do

 

[tinkerbelll]

So now its hard to tell people without telling people, that the father will not be a part of my baby's life. Their first question is always "who's the father?" or "so, what's the father say" and they never leave it alone when I say he won't be in the picture! I feel so stupid and like a horrible person when I tell them I don't know who the father is why can't people just leave it alone when I say he's not gonna be around? I already feel horrible! They make me feel worse

awww i hope everything works out for you and baby, and just remember that you dont have to explain yourself to anyone, if they ask just say your not with him anymore then change the subject, if they dont drop it just say its along story which i dont want to go into. nobody should make you feel bad about anything youve done so just ignore them

 

[lauren-kate]

I think it's seriously rude when the first question people ask is 'who's the dad?'. I get it all the time, especially when I see people I haven't seen for a while. Ok, so yes, people will be naturally curious, but to ask THAT before asking how you are, how old baby is, what baby's name is/will be, etc is just plain RUDE. x

 

[Amandie82]

Yeah, I know in everyone's head 2+2=4 so when they see a 2 carrying a 4 naturally they ask where the other 2 is and that's not so much what bothers me. Its that they don't stop pushing it after I say he will not be in the picture...and continue prying after I say it is no one you know...man it irks me! Why can't my business be my business? Guess family thinks they have a right to know? I dunno

One lady asked me today after she found I was prego if I was aware of what was goin on...I was like what in the world can she mean by that?? Then she explained, she was asking if I was drunk or out of it when I concieved...I just laughed and said I wasn't aware I was gettin pregnant but yes I was aware of the rest

 

[Rachiebaby24]

I would just say you was seeing someone and when you told them your pregnant they took off.....and if they push it anymore....tell them to mind their business....thats what I would do....the last thing you want is people judging you and talking about you....

Good luck x