Am I wrong for doing this?

[Blue_star]

I plan on keeping my baby, I have to live with my grandparents they have a very big house and a very nice neighborhood and are going to give LO their own bedroom until I finish nursing school I have to go for two more years.

I feel very badly because i'm 22 FOB is 21 he was supportive at first planned everything out said how much he wanted to meet LO even did things liked kiss my belly he is very family orientated. Then suddenly changed his mind and said he didn't want to be a dad.

His parents came to visit me over a week ago talked with me and my mom said they wanted to be a part of the LO's life and be grandparents. They are coming to my baby shower and are planning to meet LO for the first time in the hospital. But they told me that FOB has run away with a bag and debit card and has gone out of town they aren't sure where but that he has been very unstable for awhile and they have tried to get him help..

It hurts me because i'm keeping LO but am I making a horrible choice by doing so in this situation with no help or support from FOB I can't apply for child support since I don't know where he is. I know he changes his mind alot and moves around alot but I'm not even sure if FOB will ever decide he wants to meet LO.... How can he not be curious?

 

[Dezireey]

You just have to think of the alternative and the crossroads you are at in your life. Most women make their choice to go ahead with it all for damn good reasons and its those reasons that will keep you strong in the future. Dont forget, men come and go, your family and kids, they are part of who you are for life. A child loves it parent unconditionally and (I can only speak for myself) would do anything for its mother. I would give my life for my Mum, i love her that much... mainly because I know she would do the same and more for me. There is no-one I trust and love more ( well now I'm a mum, baby comes first lol ) If you KNOW in your heart that you can provide that type of love for your child, your future with them will be great regardless of what FOB does or does not end up doing.

 

[teal]

It's hard but you'll manage on your own.

I have absolutely no contact with FOB, it's been almost three years since I've seen him. He's never met my son. I also don't claim any child maintenance from him.

xx

 

[Blue_star]

It's hard but you'll manage on your own.

I have absolutely no contact with FOB, it's been almost three years since I've seen him. He's never met my son. I also don't claim any child maintenance from him.

xx

And and why is that i'm just wondering? and why did he never want to meet his son?

 

[teal]

It's hard but you'll manage on your own.

I have absolutely no contact with FOB, it's been almost three years since I've seen him. He's never met my son. I also don't claim any child maintenance from him.

xx

And and why is that i'm just wondering? and why did he never want to meet his son?

I've not seen him in three years because he cut all contact when I refused to have a termination. (changed phone number, cancelled email account, moved house).

He hasn't met his son because he claims I've ruined his life and doesn't want to know.

I don't claim maintenance because I don't want anything from him.

I managed to track him down the end of last year to give him one last chance but I received nothing but abuse on the phone.

If he ever changes his mind he'll be taking me to court before I allow him to be in my son's life.

 

[Blue_star]

It's hard but you'll manage on your own.

I have absolutely no contact with FOB, it's been almost three years since I've seen him. He's never met my son. I also don't claim any child maintenance from him.

xx

And and why is that i'm just wondering? and why did he never want to meet his son?

I've not seen him in three years because he cut all contact when I refused to have a termination. (changed phone number, cancelled email account, moved house).

He hasn't met his son because he claims I've ruined his life and doesn't want to know.

I don't claim maintenance because I don't want anything from him.

I managed to track him down the end of last year to give him one last chance but I received nothing but abuse on the phone.

If he ever changes his mind he'll be taking me to court before I allow him to be in my son's life.

Aw i'm so sorry He actually sounds worse then my FOB/OH who took off my FOB is living with no house i'm guessing staying with friends and using what money he has left to live off we think he is bi-polar as he has done things like this in the past over the years. But for awhile he was very supportive about the baby and never even suggested the termination.

 

[jemmie1994]

Not at all your baby will have plenty of love in its life from you without FOB, I feel bad that I can't give Evie some of the things I would like too and my parents are paying for the majority of her stuff but I know once I find my feet will be able to make a good life for her on my own. I dont claim child support but may do as FOB has come back into her life now I think once your baby is born FOB may come back out of curiosity but even if he doesnt your baby can still have a wonderful life with you