Am i wrong to want to do this?

[moomoo]

As you may well know i sit opposite a girl at work who's due date is only 2 weeks ahead of what mine would have been. I have to go through seeing her every day, growing rapidly..i have to hear about midwives appointments scans ect...and of course it comes on to the subject of her maternity leave..

I'm not sure if it's the same where you work, but where we are we always have a little presentation, with a card and pressie where everyone meets up before that person goes on maternity leave.

I'm feeling sick just typing about it, dreading it isnt the word and i'm thinking i might book it off in advance because i dont think i can go through with the heartache of knowing it should be me leaving too.

Do you think its out of order for me to do this...im thinking it might make life easier for my collegue too, it must be awful for her to be in the situation too?

xx

 

[dawny690]

Babe, I dont think your wrong at all especially if you know its going to be hard for you, Im sure like you say she will be feeling for you too as she knows about your situation so might do you some good if you feel you wont be able to cope then book it off in advance babe, I would too if I was you sending you huge MWAH xx

 

[ellie]

I don't blame you at all and I would be thinking the same ... i would probably consider phoning in sick on the day you could always send her a separate card or note after she's left saying you were sorry you'd missed it or whatever you wanted to say to her ?

 

[moomoo]

Thanks girls, and ellie i was thinking of maybe giving her my own card and/or pressie and explain to her why i wont be there...im sure she will understand..i hope she does
xx

 

[ellie]

I'm sure she will understand. (but if by any chance she doesn't ... you are still entitled to do what you need to to protect yourself) I am sure she will really appreciate the card/pressie too! good luck

 

[dawny690]

Thanks girls, and ellie i was thinking of maybe giving her my own card and/or pressie and explain to her why i wont be there...im sure she will understand..i hope she does
xx

Im sure she will babe and what a lovely idea xx

 

[NickyT75]

It sounds like a good idea to me babe sorry for your loss x

 

[Shelby2007]

I cant imagine what you are going through. I work with one older lady and three men. I think giving her a card is a nice idea.. Im so sorry you are having to go through this.

 

[MissmyAngel08]

I dont blame you i would prob do the same.. I am sure she understands knowin what you went through

 

[Las78]

Hun, I think it would probably be a good idea to book the time off, it's not going to be an easy time, you know that and being away from it all when it happens is probably a good thing, you've had enough pain as it is and don't need to go through that as well. I think you're very strong and very kind to consider giving her a card and pressie and I'm sure she will be very appreciative and understanding. Take care of yourself