And I'm done.

[JoHio]

Well, we had a good run of it, but after 20 months, I've decide to ween my Nunu. I think I would have continued if she was a different sort of kid, but she is very bossy and demanding (bless her) and has taken to loudly demanding "BOOB MOMMY! MY BOOB NOW!" in public places, at home, where ever. She even rips down my shirt and pushes her brother off my lap if she thinks I'm not paying attention to her. She's also taken to slapping or pinching me if I offer her a sippy cup instead of the breast. If I leave the room - even just to go to the bathroom - she wants to nurse for 10 minutes when I get back. Like reclaiming her territory! Vicious little thing.

When she was younger, I let it slide because...well...she's my baby! But she is up about 5 times a night demanding 'boob' and I actually have nightmares about her calling out that word.

My boobs hurt so much (2 days of no nursing)...and I'm actually crying a little right now because we're done. At the same time, I actually just feel manipulated. I know that is not what is happening, that she just wants comfort, but I am so tired of it...and I miss it too. I don't want to be done, but I know it is for the best. No one is sleeping properly because she wakes everyone up with her demands, and everyone is irritable. Still...she's always going to be my baby and it upsets me immeasurably. What a battle of emotions!

Like a typical dude, my hubby just says, "We'll have another baby. You'll nurse again." Sigh. NOT the point.

Please send good vibes....I feel a little out of sorts about this all.

 

[fashionlover]

20 months is a great long time! I would give yourself a nice pat on the back for a job well done. Sounds like the perfect time to wean your daughter off. I'm sure it is hard but you have done your part!

 

[aliss]

You sound just like my girlfriend, her daughter is 19 months, and she does the same thing! I will tell you what I told her - it's OKAY to decide to stop approaching 2 if you are ready to!!!

 

[JoHio]

Thanks ladies! It is really tough, but I know it will be over soon and we can still bond in other ways. She is just VERY Mommy-centric, so she does not deal well with being comforted by other people. Guess she will have to learn other people out there love her and are happy to comfort her too!

 

[Emz1982_in_uk]

Wow you did fantastic. I can see my daughter being like this. Good luck

 

[veganmama]

i can see this being me soon. i wanted him to naturally wean but hes driving me crazy feeding allllll theeee timeeeeee

how did you go about weaning her? just cold turkey?

 

[SarahBear]

*sending good vibes*

 

[monkers1984]

OMG - your baby sounds like mine he's a boob monster!!! And very very attached to me!! If I go anywhere even just to loo he has to feed when I get back!!! If I have a bath n he can see my boobs as I get dressed he's trying to latch on no matter what position he's in - he would happily nurse upside down. He pulls my top down constantly - and when he feeds he wants the other boob out to hold until he's ready for that one!!! Completely unpractical for feeding when out!!! He's also quite a violent little monster and the other night when id had my bath and was getting dry I was getting slapped from him whilst he was in his cot because he wanted boob!!! His biggest enemy is bras when the boobs go away he screams the place down!!! He is 15months old and has never slept through the night he wakes three or four times for boob at least and will happily spend an hour nursing in the morning!!

Well done you for getting to 20months - my baby is about to turn 16months and I'm not sure how much more I can take?? But at the same time I love nursing him and we have a beautiful bond (when he's not throwing his beaker at me lol). He can happily stay with my mum and dad all day n not need any boob but whilst I'm around he needs it constantly it feels like he's controlling me!!

You have done so well - please let us know how things are going!! Also any tips would be great!!

Good luck x

 

[JoHio]

So glad to know I'm not alone with my little monster!

For those who asked: DAY 3 and she has only asked once or twice today. I think she is getting it...though she still shoves her hand down my shirt whenever possible. I did do it cold turkey. I just told her "No, baby. No more boob. Would you like to snuggle? Would you like a sippy cup?" And what not.
Like many of you, my Nunu happily drinks from cups when I'm not around, but if I'm there, it is like there is no other option.
I did try to gradually get her off, but her personality and our schedule makes that too erratic, so I decided it would have to be cold turkey. There's been crying, tantrums and other silliness, but it is basically over now. She gets it. She may not like it, but she gets it.
I just make sure she still gets lots of snuggles, which isn't hard since she is still pretty much glued to me even though we are not nursing, which is pretty nice since I was afraid we'd lose that closeness.

 

[Brieanna]

Good job for lasting so long with a demanding nurser.

Cold cabbage leaves on your breast will ease the pain. They have something in them that makes your milk supply go down, plus they are cold.

My LO still nurses all the time and we have had to start trying to teach her nursing manners, like not to pull my shirt, to say "please" and other things, but so far it is not going so well, lol.

 

[Tattoo]

Wow, well done for hitting the twenty month mark! You must feel so proud of that.
It sounds like weaning is the right choice for you and your girl, I hope it goes well for you both.

 

[mumnbean]

I feel just like you with the mixed emotions about weaning... My son has been waking up roughly every 2 hours overnight for the last month to suckle. I had become the "mummy dummy" and was struggling with the sleep deprivation. During the day he is completely fine to go without all day if necessary, but if I'm around he is constantly asking for "juice" while pointing his finger firmly at my boobs

He is nice about it, asking nicely and generally patient without pulling at my clothes, BUT he is very persistent! I could see this escalating as he gets older, and the recent night escalation just made me fed up!!! We just let him CIO for Friday and then last night he also cried, but slept from 7pm to 4am before he woke for a feed and slept for another 3 hours. I felt like a new woman.

I am not ready to stop completely, and I am worried that being rigid with when suckling is 'allowed' will just make him stop... but I know that if it happens it would be a good thing. I will still probably feel devastated. ARgh!

Sorry, about the long post, but sending happy thoughts your way as your relationship with your daughter develops and evolves in so many new ways

 

[Bevziibubble]

20 months is amazing! You've done such a good job

Hope all goes well with the weaning

 

[JoHio]

Thanks again ladies! She has not asked for it today, so I'm happy!

 

[ab75]

Hi, so glad I found this thread. My dd was 1 year old on sun and wakes 4 times a night for comfort. I don't want to stop as my husband doesn't want anymore but I have to for my sanity!! My other dd just stopped feeding from me at about 11.5months so this is new for me. Think I'm just going to go cold turkey too. She drinks cows milk from a bottle then when its finished she demands my boobs. Feel so sad tho that I won't be nursing anymore, just hope I can convince dh to have another baby (he says he has to say no as we need sleep lol)

 

[JoHio]

Hi, so glad I found this thread. My dd was 1 year old on sun and wakes 4 times a night for comfort. I don't want to stop as my husband doesn't want anymore but I have to for my sanity!! My other dd just stopped feeding from me at about 11.5months so this is new for me. Think I'm just going to go cold turkey too. She drinks cows milk from a bottle then when its finished she demands my boobs. Feel so sad tho that I won't be nursing anymore, just hope I can convince dh to have another baby (he says he has to say no as we need sleep lol)

Happy wife, happy life! Trust me, people change their minds. We had a vasectomy, and then reversal not even 2 years later...LOL.