Any advice? Hes ruining my life! UPDATE..YES IT GETS WORSE

[sweetsammi]

I dont know what to do..im not a bitchy/unreasonable person, i wanted him to be a part of oliver life more than anything, but hes being so unfair. Legally i cant stop him access anyhow can i? And when it boiled down to it, despite how awful he's bein to us i doubt i could be that cruel..but i do deffo need to get a solicitors letter statin terms of visitation i think. x

 

[Younglutonmum]

Is he on the birth certificate because if he isn't then he has no legal rights over Oli

If you don't think you could go through with stopping him seeing Oli then I do think it's a good idea you see a solicitor & see what can be drawn up

Just remember if he isn't on the birth certificate then what you say goes!!

 

[sweetsammi]

He is on it yep

 

[brownhairedmom]

Save those text messages, go see legal aid and get a lawyer. At the very least the courts will make him see Oli at a reasonable time.

I'm sorry he's being such a twat

 

[ColtonsMom]

I'm not sure about the laws there, but I agree with rae05.. save all the txts, etc..

Here when a parent has custody and the other parent has visitation rights then that means the "visiting" parent gets the child every other weekend. If you miss your weekend, all well for you. This way the main parent has the child at least every other weekend so they can go out and do something with their child aswell (so, it takes into account that the main parent works during the day and therefore doesn't get to take their kid to do stuff or spend alot of quality time with them).

Anyways, I hope you get things sorted. I've read your posts before and know you have had quite a tough time with him and his ups and really really low downs!

 

[hypnorm]

I think its time to see a lawyer as Rae said, he is being a twat and really doesn understand what being a real father entails.
If you get some thing drawn up in writing then if he goes back on it then its his own fault... also seee about the CSA, as that will build up as i think they still charge an amount even if not working... make life difficult for him i would!!

 

[nikky0907]

The best thing for you guys is to go to court and establish a visitation time.

That way there is always set time,he needs to pick Oli up and drop him at set time.If he misses,I belive you have the right to complain to your lawyer and he could loose visitation rights for good...

His mind clearly works different..This man is in desperate need of a kick in the head that he could lose his son for good!

 

[Newt]

I dont know what to sau hun, but I didnt wanna read and run poor Oliver, and poor you, you must worry now when you leave them together

 

[sweetsammi]

Im in the process of finding a solicitor now.. ive tried to be nice and civil and understanding ect, but theres no talking to him now, hes forced it out of my hands..i really didnt want it to come to this..but it makes me sick to the stomach now thinkin about him havin him even for a few hours, i do not trust him. He doesnt deserve a beautiful son like Oliver. its silly but i worry about how oli will turn out aswell because ewans dad did the same thing to him..and now all he does is slag him mum off and thinks the sun shines out his dads arse..like father like son- i hope oli sees sence and sees his dad for what he really is. x