any advice please regarding fob

[dawnmichelle]

hello all (sorry if this is long) my lo is 16 weeks and fob sees him twice a week for an hour with me there and im bf, his name isnt on the bc and he didnt want it on there, hes really dominating and uses threats to people to get his own way (hes 14 years olders than me) when hes sees lo iv been gritting my teeth and thinking im doing this for lo's sake, its been going ok, he wants to take him out but i wont let him because lo might need a feed and im not comfortable with giving him a bottle just yet and lo would just get upset and miss me because he doesnt really know who he is yet, iv let him come to injections once and it started when he wanted to come to injections and i said i was taking my mum this time, he then got annoyed and started saying i wasnt doing what was best for lo.
Then on thurs night lo wasnt well and we had to stay at the hospital overnight it was eleven at night when i told him we were there and i said he come in the morning cos lo was asleep and i was really tired, but he rang the ward and got them to come in and ask if he could see him at twelve midnight, id already told him it wasnt serious and he come in the morning, then he kept ringing my mobile and txting saying all sorts which annoyed me, we came home the next day and i let him come and see him and he was really weird asking me the same questions about lo and wot was wrong, i dont think i can bear sitting there with him while he sees lo after all this and im worried hes gonna kick off everytime he doesnt get his own way regarding lo, i just wondered if anyone had any advice and if i was being unreasonable thanks dawn xxxx

 

[Rhio92]

I don't think you're being unreasonable hun x

 

[LauraBee]

I think you're being fair. If FOB didn't want to be on the BC then he's pretty much given up any legal rights to your child (unless he later wanted to go through court or get just his name on the BC).

You need to stick to what you feel is right as well as what you prefer and try your hardest to not be intimidated by him.

Hope everything goes okay

 

[dawnmichelle]

thanks i will stick to it thanks for your help x