any help for dads?

[sie35]

hi im a desperate dad ive spent the last two years fighting for equil rights in the family courts the worst two years of my life ive been belittled humiliated lied about underminded without any cause or reason i had every obstical imaginable put infront of me ive been falsely accused of domestic violence being a alcaholic ive been homless because of it forced out of the town i lived in beaten up robbed anyway 2 years on ive proven it was all lies but on our last visit to court my ex wife refused shared resadency knowing the courts were not allowed to overule her as it was a directional hearing but allowed me to care for my 4 boys one of witch is very disabled 3 days a week half a day short of shared resadency a great result for me but because she wouldent allow shared resadency im not allowed any money to do it i have to bring them up on £65 a week for 3 months until im allowed to ask for shared resadency again i could of applyed for a comunity care grant but my jobseekers allowance is contributions based until october witch means im not allowed to apply for one until then my ex is refusing to let me claim carrers alowance she is allowing a lot of extra contact infact they live with me most of the time but she will stop that if i apply for carrers alowance because i get some rights with it ive asked social services if there is anything they can do to help food voutchers or somthing but they said no dose anyone know of a sceam or somthing to help children in child poverty if i go back to work i loose my legal aid and cant care for my boys none of my family have any money left to help me it took so much to get were i am so much sacrafice and im so close now there must be somthing shurly the courts and social services cant expect me to keep doing the impossable 2 years is enough ive nothing left im all out of miricals?

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

I didn't want to read and run. The only thing I can suggest is call citizans advice & see what they have to say. You've been very brave fighting for two years & I really hope someone can help you with this.

 

[sie35]

i tried citizens advice several times they told me to ask my solicitor to ask for the next date to be brought forward that was when my ex was ignoring all the other contact orders but all that happend was i dident get to see them at all the courts wouldent bring it forward and me and the boys were stopped from having anything to do with eachother for 3-4 months at a time im to scared to do that again to make things worse the csa are taking what little money we have even though im bringing the boys up legally im not i can get the payments down a little because they are supposed to stay with me overnight 2 times a week but its not by much they think there taking it off me but there taking it off my kids its so frustrating all this because they wont update the legal system to be relavent to this decade

 

[veganmum2be]

you must be so fustrated, so sad when both parents are wanting to be there but one cant share with the other.
i dont really have any advice, i wish i did.
can you not go for carrers allowance and then take it up with the courts when she decides to stop contact? even if there was a delay in being able to see them at least you would be able to afford to care for them when you got access again?
i dont really know much about it so sorry im not more help.
good luck.

 

[TiredNurse27]

You just have to brave it through the next 3 months til the residency hearing. Beans on toast and lots of it lol.

Then you won't have to worry about legal aid and can get a job to pay for your kids.

 

[Seraphim]

I'm really sorry to read you're having to struggle with all of this.

I really have no advice other than the CAB as mentioned.

If anyone was going to be willing to help out of kindness it would be somewhere like the Salvation Army or Barnardos, but I have no idea of their remit.

I find it horrific anyone would be selfish enough to deprive their children as your ex is doing. You're right though - she will be the one who will have to explain, and they will grow up to see how you're persevered.

Best of luck to you x