Anybody young and pregnant after a loss??

[housewifey]

Hiii!

I'm 19 & this is my 2nd pregnancy. We lost Harvey in December due to mmc. My first pregnancy was unplanned but since losing Harvey we decided to NTNP and I am now 13 weeks pregnant.

Was just wondering if there was anybody else around my age that decided to try for a baby or NTNP after a loss?!?

I'm due February 8th (Even if your not young, anybody due around the same time as me?!?!?!)

Thanks xxx

 

[Ang3l]

Congratulations!

I am also quite young (I am 18) and this is also my 2nd pregnancy (planned). I lost my 1st at 7 weeks and 2 days in January just past. I am now 8 weeks and 2 days so, so far so good.

I am terrified of losing the baby again but this time me and my husband have a good feeling. Im having a lot more symptoms this time too lol.

Im due March 13th I think.


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[87lianne]

I am 22, this will be my third pregnancy i lost a baby in april at 13 weeks. Got pregnant again in may have been worrying all the way through this pregnancy because my symptoms have been coming and going but i will be 12 weeks on fri and im due on feb 18th so not too long after you!
congratulations and hope all goes well for you x

 

[eclipse_xo]

You are not alone!! I had an unplanned pregnancy at 19, although it was unplanned I loved my baby to bits but I had a mmc at 10 weeks. Now I'm 10 weeks pregnant after my loss in November and am 20. My pregnancy symptoms are less intense this time around and are different. I've had 2 ultrasounds so far and both I seen the heartbeat. Although I'm very paranoid this time because of my previous loss. if you need someone to talk to I'm always here, you can pm me. Congrats and I hope you have a healthy baby

 

[Shabutie]

Hi, wanted to share my story with you.

Im 20, and suffered a miscarriage in December 2009 with my first baby. It wasnt really planned, but we knew we did want children at some point. My baby was around 7-8 weeks.

I am currently pregnant, at nearly 18 weeks.

Although the worries of what happened previously will arise again, throughout your pregnancy, all I can say to you is to stay positive. I felt much more comfortable and relaxed with this pregnancy then my last.

Good luck and enjoy your time.

Jess

 

[housewifey]

Yaay! Finally some replies, I was starting to think I was the only one who was silly enough to want to be pregnant at 19! Thanks girls!

You are all getting added to my friends list if that's okay! Haha!

I'm sorry for all of your losses and know exactly how you feel. Congratulations as well!

My symptoms are pretty much non existent. I had convinced myself that this one was over to. We were going on holiday on the 6th of July, and on the 4th, I woke up and my boobs were suddenly feeling 'normal' not sore or anything. I cried the whole day but refused to take a pregnancy test because I didn't want to know the truth We enjoyed our holiday all the same but I did not feel or look pregnant at all. So we had out scan like a week and a half after we got back and there it was. A strong heartbeat and a little JUMPING baby! We couldnt believe it and I dont think i've stopped smiling since.

We have our 16 week appointment in about 2/3 weeks with midwife so hopefully i'll have some form of bump by then! Haha! Hope you are all doing well!

XxxxxxxX

 

[Beanbabe]

Hi harveysmummy. Im a good bit past 19 (like ahem a decade or so) but I just wanted to say congrats. I remember you from mc support section. Im due Feb 15th so just a week behind you. Great news on the scan. Good luck.

 

[MissMaternal]

I'm sorry to hear of your mmc But huge congrats on your new pregnancy

I am 22, and my first pregnancy ended in mmc at 20 weeks, 13 weeks ago. I only got my bfp today.... so am still very early, but excited Both pregnancies were planned

Hope everything goes well for you xx

 

[holly2234]

Congrats on your pregnancy! Im 17 and had a mmc at 12 weeks in march. Im now just over 10 weeks and due march 3rd/4th. I also wouldnt take a pregnancy test until almost 7 weeks as i just didnt want the worry to start. Had a scan at 7+5 though and everything was looking well. HB of 178 and now just waiting for my 12 week scan to come through. Hope everything is going well for all of you.

 

[housewifey]

Hi harveysmummy. Im a good bit past 19 (like ahem a decade or so) but I just wanted to say congrats. I remember you from mc support section. Im due Feb 15th so just a week behind you. Great news on the scan. Good luck.

Thank you I'm so happy! Ohh only a week behind... bump buddies?? haha! Age doesnt matter haha! I love ur name in the sand, I got one for Harvey 2

Congrats MissMaternal and holly2234! So what are your due dates then?

I THINK i've been feeling movements today! Is this possible or is it to early??? I've convinced myself its bubs haha

xxxxxxx

 

[SugarKisses]

I am 22 and have had a stillbirth and neo-natal death within the last 2 and half years.

So sorry for everyones losses.

 

[eclipse_xo]

Holly2234 your my bump buddyy!!

 

[loulabump]

I'm 20 (21 next week yay!) and this is my second pregnancy.

We lost our first baby in december 2009 at 9 weeks, we weren't trying to get pregnant at the time but we're exactly being careful either.

When we lost our lil bean we decided we actually wanted a baby more than either of us realised and started trying again the next month, took under 3 months for it to happen for us again.

It's been a scary journey, when I look back on it i've had a perfect pregnancy, without many symptoms (which at the time made me worry like crazy that I was gonna lose this one too..)

anyway before i start to ramble i know im much further along than most of you but thought i would butt in and if any of you are having any worries im sure ive had the same ones so very happy to offer advice/reasurrance. i just cant wait to meet this little one in 13 weeks!!

 

[Lianne1986]

hiya. im 23 now. i had a mmc at 8weeks but didnt find out til 13 weeks, when i was 20. im now 10 weeks pregnant. i have a 5yr old little boy too and a little girl but shes not my biological daughter

 

[holly2234]

Holly2234 your my bump buddyy!!

Definately! What due date have you been given? I was told 3rd or 4th march

 

[mayb_baby]

Im 19 and lost my LO january 16th to MC at 7+5wks.

However I was for uni in september so I was on contraception (patch) however it was ineffective due to my cycles from the MC, we are super excited now as we have our 21week scan tomorrow

This pregnacy has also been wobbly but LO is strong kicking (OH felt on the outside from 15weeks) so we are relaxed enough

Gud luck and congrats to you all, and Im sorry for all your losses xoxoxo

 

[housewifey]

Thanks for all your replies! Good luck with all your pregnancies!

Any1 whos young, how did people react the 2nd time round with the news?? I was 18 when I first got pregnant and my parents exacts words were 'gutted'. They didnt have much time to get used to the idea because we lost Harvey about 3 weeks after we told them. They think i've been back on the pill since we lost Harvey but truth is i've been to scared to tell them that I actually want another baby. I'm now 14 weeks pregnant with number 2. I'm not really showing yet but I know I have to tell them soon. (It's getting really difficult to hide the fact im not drinking, had a lot of birthdays recently!) I know they arent going to pleased and i'm scaaaaared! Help please?!?!?!

xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[loulabump]

aww hun, even if they aren't happy with the news right away they will be!

i was scared to death to tell my parents to first time round and i was 20... was worried they would be disappointed even though me and my boyfriend have lived together in our own house since we were 18! she certainly wasn't disappointed she was just shocked and then the shock turned into lots of excitement, unfortunately we lost our little one also a few weeks after telling people... but i did make her aware that although we wouldn't be "trying" to get pregnant again we were not going to be preventing it from happening either.

when we told her this time around she got all excited again! she can't wait to be a grandma! I'm sure your parents will be exactly the same, i think its just hard for some parents to adjust to the fact that their daughter has grown up! they will be over the moon so be strong and tell them! the longer you wait the harder it will be

xx

 

[Shabutie]

Hi hun,

Well I never told my parents or OH's parents that we wanted to try again. I had told my brother and his gf, as they are so relaxed about it all, although they are younger.

When I told my mum this time around, I was very nervous, but I didnt cry like last time. My mum took it well, as did my dad.

Mum did express that she thought it wasnt the right time for us, but if we are happy then they are pleased for us. About a week later mum was super excited, and still is.

My dad... lol... said, like last time, "How did this happen" I was thinking, Dad you really need me to explain. lol, but like you, he thought I was back on the pill.

OH's parents have been horrid, he phoned them up to tell them and the first thing his mum said was "you wont cope", and I got accused of trapping him and stealing him away, again. This was from his nan. His dad has been really nasty and said he is concerned for the welfare of our child and that Im putting pressure on OH to provide all the time, and that when will I start being a proper mum and wife.

They are nasty pieces of work.

However, with expception of OH's family, everybody has been great. My sister was off with me for about a week, but now she is super excited to be an aunty. My nan was concerned for me, incase I get depression, but she is super excited for her first great grandchild.

Really, as long as you and your OH are doing what you feel is right for yourselves, then you cant go wrong. When I got pregnant last year I was at Uni, and the day after I MC I planned on telling Uni I was leaving, which was a weird coincedence really. Well from December to March I missed so much uni, got signed of with depression, and I was so unhappy. I think I finally began to greive for my LO. I wasnt trying to replace my LO, but I was deparate to become a mum again, and OH a dad again that we knew we wanted to try, and we did. Now both of us are so pleased with our decisions that we made. I left uni in the end, and it was the right decision for me, although my family were disappionted, they understood, and I dont think my life would be as happy as it is now if I were not pregnant.

You've followed your heart and its lead you on this journey of motherhood again, dont let anyone make you feel it is wrong.

Sorry for the rambling.

 

[eclipse_xo]

I'm so over joyed that I'm pregnant again!! My MIL kept saying before she knew I was pregnant "you better not be pregnant" after telling me after my mc "ohh you two can try again" .. But she's good about it now. My mothers side is very thrilled. My dad on the other hand disowned me when I first got pregnant, but I ended up miscarrying. Havnt talked to him in a year and don't plan on telling my grandmother or him anytime soon.