Anyone doing FET/IVF in Jan 2013 till everyone's BFP (Everyone Welcome)

[Boofle]

I'm looking to see if I can find it on the iplayer - I just read it was at the Liverpool clinic which is where we're considering swapping too - sandy what did you think???

 

[Sandy83]

They all seemed really nice and looks like a good clinic xx

 

[Boofle]

Ah sandy I forget sometimes that the ladies on here are from all over the world - I usually update on my phone and only have a small screen so don't see the left hand bar when I'm typing lol
I am currently under the nhs - have two funded cycles but trying to make a decision to change to another nhs clinic or go private - we have some savings that could fund one cycle! I'm not sure what to do if this fet doesn't work (it's our last one). I don't want to jump out the frying pan into the fire if you know what I mean - I don't know if we've just been really unlucky with our clinic or if nhs is the same wherever
What about you?

 

[Sandy83]

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b01ps8yc - Try this link

We are under the NHS and get 3 cycles. Is your clinic not very good? xx

 

[Boofle]

Thanks
Our clinic is shocking - one or two things I could let pass but there has been a catalogue of errors all the way through - the final straw was our last transfer - 3 times I queried my lining before transfer - it was 20.5 a week before and they still went ahead with it - that ended in mc - when we finally got an appt to see fs he said your lining was probably too thick for implantation and in a round about way said it shouldn't have gone ahead which I said at the time! I could list a whole heap of complaints but I'd be here all day and u'd all be bored reading. I'll have to tell you though about the time we went to the counsellor (and I'd struggled to get my oh there in the first place) - anyway about twenty minutes into the appt she realised she had the wrong file and thought we were a diff couple
I couldn't get my oh to return for counselling
I can't face another cycle at this hospital

 

[Sandy83]

Ah boofle seems like you have had a right time with the clinic, it is just something you don't need going through this process its stressful enough without having to worry if they are doing there jobs properly. I understand you wanting to move clinic's if you move will you still get to do your 2nd cycle under NHS funding? xx

 

[Boofle]

I think we can change to a nhs clinic that our PCT has a contract with - our choices are limited but the nearest one is the Liverpool clinic! Alternatively we can pay private and go to a clinic of our choice - what to do?!?!?!
Actually hopefully we won't need to make the decision cos this fet will work - PMA hey

 

[Sandy83]

Exactly PMA is the way to go, Where are you in the cycle any dates yet? Sorry if you have mentioned previously i keep forgetting xx

 

[Boofle]

It's okay this is a hard thread to keep up with - so many ladies!
I'm on day 18 so should be ringing next week to request treatment - 3rd time lucky

 

[Sandy83]

FX'd for you 2013 is our lucky year!

Ladies if you would like since this thread is starting to get bigger how about i put a sort of role call on the first post, did this in another thread I was in and so much easier to keep track at where people are at. If you would like just send me your information and i will sort it, just something like the below:


Name: Sandy 83, Emma
Age: 29
Location: Newcastle (UK)
Known IF issues: DH sterile due to Chemotherapy
Ivf cycle #: 1.2 (FET)
Date you started medicine: 6th Jan Buserelin
Medication using: Buserelin, Oestradiol, Cyclogest Pessaries, Folic Acid
Date of retrieval: No ER (FET cycle)
Using donor sperm / eggs?: no
Date of transfer: 28th Jan
# of embryos transferred: 2 if both survive thawing process
Date of beta: ?

 

[alicatt]

Sandy - I didn't see it! Was it any good?

I'm stalking you all. Nothing to report here. Have an apt on the 21st and hoping to go for my FET in march.

I'm thinking about asking for a uterine biopsy. Anyone had one before? It's really supposed to improve chances of implantation also which is where I have my problems.

Xx

Ever - I asked about it with my FS too. He said that the studies were not reality, and that doing the biopsy in most cases causes decreased implantation and would not do it for me. I had seen the same studies and hoped that he would give it a try. He wouldn't even consider it. It drives me batty. I feel like the 2 things that would get me my baby are AH and uterine biopsy and he won't do either! AHHHHHH. I'm going to insist on the AH if my blood tests for auto-immune, nk cells and clotting all come back normal. Do you think they can do AH on FET blasts?

 

[alicatt]

Thanks
Our clinic is shocking - one or two things I could let pass but there has been a catalogue of errors all the way through - the final straw was our last transfer - 3 times I queried my lining before transfer - it was 20.5 a week before and they still went ahead with it - that ended in mc - when we finally got an appt to see fs he said your lining was probably too thick for implantation and in a round about way said it shouldn't have gone ahead which I said at the time! I could list a whole heap of complaints but I'd be here all day and u'd all be bored reading. I'll have to tell you though about the time we went to the counsellor (and I'd struggled to get my oh there in the first place) - anyway about twenty minutes into the appt she realised she had the wrong file and thought we were a diff couple
I couldn't get my oh to return for counselling
I can't face another cycle at this hospital

Boofle - I don't think it matters which clinic you go to for some of these issues. I had the exact same complaint in the US. My lining was 19mm. I remember the FS saying as he read it WOAH! Then saying nothing more. That was the day they said I was ready to transfer. Well I go home, read that anything above 17mm is known to cause implantation issues, and that an optimal lining is closer not thicker than 14mm. So I go in for my WTF appointment, and he says, well yes there are studies that show that anything above 17mm is not as great! So why of why did we transfer my 2 best blasts? Oh it makes me batty! Another $15,000 down the drain. We could have saved them and done a frozen transfer with a thinner lining. I would have been fine with that, and questioned the nurse about it 2 times. We will both get there some day I hope and pray!

 

[everhopeful]

Hi Ali,

I know my clinic does AH on FET' s if requested. Extra cost but they do it after the thaw.

Not sure what my fs will say about the UB but I can't find anything to suggest it is a bad idea. Only those who speak very highly of it! It's all complicated really!!

Hopefully

 

[Em260]

Phantom - great news! Good luck on Friday!

Mbrink - I'm so sorry you're being delayed . I've had a bunch of delays on this journey and it really stinks waiting. DH and I had chromosome testing and it took about two weeks for the results to come back. I hope the test comes back faster and you can start in February.

Sandy - yay for getting started. I'm glad things are moving along for you! I wish that program was on here. I checked BBC america but they're not showing it and iplayer doesn't work in the US

AFM - surgery is tomorrow!! I can't believe it's finally here. I'm both nervous and excited. It's a little scary thinking about going to sleep not knowing if I will wake up without an ovary. My surgeon has agreed to leave as much normal tissue as she can even if she thinks it should all be removed so that we can try another egg retrieval. The final pathology report will be back by next Monday and that will determine whether I need chemo. I just hope everything goes as planned. I want to get back to TTC so badly. The one thing I'm looking forward to is DH waiting on me hand and foot after surgery

 

[Sandy83]

Em - Cant believe its came round so quickly! I'm sure everything will go as planned Just think this time next week the surgery will be over and you will have your results and able to look forward to the future and getting your yay!

 

[Mbrink]

Mbrink so sorry about your delay I know only too well how it feels to have set backs. How come u ladies have all these tests - I haven't had any of these tests done!! How do u know ur dh is a carrier for cf?

Sandy I didn't see it either was too busy watching Miranda wish I'd of known it was on though. Routing for you that everything goes to plan - the 28th will be here before you know it

Ever I had the biopsy but that was November and since then my clinic have turned me down twice for treatment. I had researched and also believe chances are improved after but my fs has other ideas

Our RE wanted to test my DH due to his count being so low- she had mentioned that there was a correlation between CF and male factor. My DH's counts are all low with the motility and morphology being very poor as well. He was tested for CF and I was tested for fragile-x syndrome which mine came back clear. We honestly would have had no idea otherwise. I'm a little bit frustrated as well, because I've heard of other RE's doing absolutely no genetic testing on others before IVF- yet we have to do all sorts of tests. Maybe thats just me being a little bitter though My screen for CF came back okay, but they want to make sure they do a more in depth panel as pre-caution.

 

[everhopeful]

Em- thinking of you tomorrow! Very best of luck!!

Enjoy being waited on!!
Let us know how it goes! Xx

 

[Boofle]

Ali I'm sorry you went through a similar thing everything I had read was telling me it shouldn't be going ahead so I'm so cross with them for wasting one of my embryos too but when they're telling you it's okay and they're suppose to be the experts what can you do
Em will be thinking of you tomorrow hope it all goes well

 

[Phantom710]

Hi Phantom,

Is this your first surrogate? It's an amazing thing to do. We may end up needing a surrogate in the future, and it's pretty unknown here in the UK. It would be really good to know if we could use that option, as it would make decisions about my treatment easier.

If I knew we could 'easily' find a surrogate, then I would be ok with the risks of radiation and/or hysterectomy. But as we can't really know, I have to try and juggle retaining some fertility with ensuring the cancer is treated effectively.

Not really asking anything, just thinking aloud! I'm just very thankful there are some people like you who will do surrogacy, it may be an option I have to think about.

Hi

This is my second couple (if you count a failed one that didn't even get to the clinic.... )

And also my second transfer with this couple.

I would definitely look into a surro (if you HAVE to have one) that is the US. We have a very (for the most part) smoothly ran surrogacy "program" arounf the US.

That said-- you do have to choose your battles--
I am not sure how you are set up financially, but surrogacy CAN be expensive. Agencies typicall charge more but they do EVERYTHING for you. (Legal, Medical Insurance, etc.) Independently is definitely the cheaper option, but you will need to personally arrange (and pay for) psych screening, med evaluation, lawyer fees, etc.)

I am so happy there are people that are willing to be a surro, but I hope it's not a road you will be forced to take.

On a side note--- If I'm "free" if you end up needing a surro-- msg me

Good luck on Friday Phantom! What you are doing is such a wonderful thing.

Good luck on Friday, Phantom! FX.

Thanks ladies!

Phantom- Very exciting!! Good luck with your ER!

We're doing a FET on Friday But thanks!

Name: Sandy 83, Emma
Age: 29
Location: Newcastle (UK)
Known IF issues: DH sterile due to Chemotherapy
Ivf cycle #: 1.2 (FET)
Date you started medicine: 6th Jan Buserelin
Medication using: Buserelin, Oestradiol, Cyclogest Pessaries, Folic Acid
Date of retrieval: No ER (FET cycle)
Using donor sperm / eggs?: no
Date of transfer: 28th Jan
# of embryos transferred: 2 if both survive thawing process
Date of beta: ?

Very good idea! I'll msg you in a few!

Phantom - great news! Good luck on Friday!

Thanks! and good luck on your surgery!

 

[Edamame]

Good luck with your surgery em! Hope it goes well and that you won't need chemo!