Anyone doing FET/IVF in Jan 2013 till everyone's BFP (Everyone Welcome)

[Turkey16]

Woohoo for triggering Turkey!

Thanks!!! Literally JUST did it. Anybody else's DH turn into a bit of a jerk during this whole process?? Yikes. I've found everything so far to be relatively ok, but he's a mess...is it the stress or is he just a jerk (or is it my hormones that I thought I had totally in check?!?!?). Sigh.

My husband has been a complete jerk...I didnt use dh because theres nothing darling about him, we got into a heated arguement and he basically insinuated that I was whore even though he didnt say it directly, just because when we first met I didnt tell him I slept with my ex because he was a past I never wanted to remember plus I wasnt comfy disclosing that info to him then cause I just met him, but after we got married, I couldnt stand not letting him know so I told him myself...worst mistake of my life. Since then every arguement we have he brings it up...this same guy cheated on me with 2 women 2 months before our wedding but I forgave him and he has the nerves to call me names.

I got reallly upset and threw the water I was drinking at him then he called the cops on me and said I hit him. I'm very angry plus my hormones are not helping me much right now but I'm glad i'm out of his sight because its the best thing to do right now. Just want to vent sorry ladies.

Oh man Babies...I am so sorry. That sucks!!! I've made that mistake before of telling my husband something that we were both MUCH better off without him knowing. Is he on board with everything baby-related?? It seems from
looking at your signature that you guys have been through a lot together. I'm guessing you told him this info recently, no? Maybe he just needs some space...wish I knew how to make you feel better.

 

[Babiesimready]

Woohoo for triggering Turkey!

Thanks!!! Literally JUST did it. Anybody else's DH turn into a bit of a jerk during this whole process?? Yikes. I've found everything so far to be relatively ok, but he's a mess...is it the stress or is he just a jerk (or is it my hormones that I thought I had totally in check?!?!?). Sigh.

My husband has been a complete jerk...I didnt use dh because theres nothing darling about him, we got into a heated arguement and he basically insinuated that I was whore even though he didnt say it directly, just because when we first met I didnt tell him I slept with my ex because he was a past I never wanted to remember plus I wasnt comfy disclosing that info to him then cause I just met him, but after we got married, I couldnt stand not letting him know so I told him myself...worst mistake of my life. Since then every arguement we have he brings it up...this same guy cheated on me with 2 women 2 months before our wedding but I forgave him and he has the nerves to call me names.

I got reallly upset and threw the water I was drinking at him then he called the cops on me and said I hit him. I'm very angry plus my hormones are not helping me much right now but I'm glad i'm out of his sight because its the best thing to do right now. Just want to vent sorry ladies.

Oh man Babies...I am so sorry. That sucks!!! I've made that mistake before of telling my husband something that we were both MUCH better off without him knowing. Is he on board with everything baby-related?? It seems from
looking at your signature that you guys have been through a lot together. I'm guessing you told him this info recently, no? Maybe he just needs some space...wish I knew how to make you feel better.

He's really excited about the baby and he's always wanted one but he has been a complete asshold since I got the bfp. First he acted as if he wasnt happy and I had to ask him what the problem was...when I went to get the second beta, he didnt even call to ask the results, when he eventually called he asked for his ups package instead and totally neglected the beta test, I got frustrated and confronted him but he said I was being overly sensitive and that I knew he wanted the baby. I then told him it wasnt too late if he changes his mind...I dont know whats wrong with him but he definitely picked the wrong time to act such a fool

And no I didnt just tell him about my ex...he's known since Jan!

 

[alicatt]

Woohoo for triggering Turkey!

Thanks!!! Literally JUST did it. Anybody else's DH turn into a bit of a jerk during this whole process?? Yikes. I've found everything so far to be relatively ok, but he's a mess...is it the stress or is he just a jerk (or is it my hormones that I thought I had totally in check?!?!?). Sigh.

My husband has been a complete jerk...I didnt use dh because theres nothing darling about him, we got into a heated arguement and he basically insinuated that I was whore even though he didnt say it directly, just because when we first met I didnt tell him I slept with my ex because he was a past I never wanted to remember plus I wasnt comfy disclosing that info to him then cause I just met him, but after we got married, I couldnt stand not letting him know so I told him myself...worst mistake of my life. Since then every arguement we have he brings it up...this same guy cheated on me with 2 women 2 months before our wedding but I forgave him and he has the nerves to call me names.

I got reallly upset and threw the water I was drinking at him then he called the cops on me and said I hit him. I'm very angry plus my hormones are not helping me much right now but I'm glad i'm out of his sight because its the best thing to do right now. Just want to vent sorry ladies.

Oh man Babies...I am so sorry. That sucks!!! I've made that mistake before of telling my husband something that we were both MUCH better off without him knowing. Is he on board with everything baby-related?? It seems from
looking at your signature that you guys have been through a lot together. I'm guessing you told him this info recently, no? Maybe he just needs some space...wish I knew how to make you feel better.

This is why I was happy that I was going through this alone, I think that having a DH would have been worse You just have to sit back and discuss the issues rationally, infertility is difficult enough, then you add the pressure of IVF AND the hormones, and you have a perfect storm. Hopefully you can sit down with him and work things out!

 

[Babiesimready]

This is why I was happy that I was going through this alone, I think that having a DH would have been worse You just have to sit back and discuss the issues rationally, infertility is difficult enough, then you add the pressure of IVF AND the hormones, and you have a perfect storm. Hopefully you can sit down with him and work things out!

You're right! I just feel like being by myself right now and if not because of my job, I'll be gone far away from him. I cant have anyone driving me insane right now and even though he wants to talk things out cus he know he crossed the line, I'm still not ready to talk to him about anything.

Sorry ladies I didnt mean to divert the thread just took Turkey's question as an opportunity to vent cause this happend just last night...please carry on.

 

[Turkey16]

This is why I was happy that I was going through this alone, I think that having a DH would have been worse You just have to sit back and discuss the issues rationally, infertility is difficult enough, then you add the pressure of IVF AND the hormones, and you have a perfect storm. Hopefully you can sit down with him and work things out!

You're right! I just feel like being by myself right now and if not because of my job, I'll be gone far away from him. I cant have anyone driving me insane right now and even though he wants to talk things out cus he know he crossed the line, I'm still not ready to talk to him about anything.

Sorry ladies I didnt mean to divert the thread just took Turkey's question as an opportunity to vent cause this happend just last night...please carry on.

Vent away sister!! Do what's best for YOU right now!!

 

[FirstTry]

Babies: I don't get it. Did he think you were a virgin? Either way, you didn't make a mistake by telling him. He is intentionally trying to upset you and would've just found something else.

I wonder what the root cause of his behavior is. Maybe the baby is stressing him out. Is he worried about money or something?

 

[BabyD225]

So I had a sonogram this morning at 9 weeks which showed my baby's heart stopped. I am going to my OBGYN tomorrow for another sonogram- even though it was already confirmed by two doctors today. I don't think I can mentally and physically handle a miscarriage on my own so we decided to do a D&C. Because it's Passover and Easter week- not many doctors are scheduled so we have to wait a few days.. just hoping it doesn't happen before then. I'm deeply saddened but I knew this was a possibility and I truly believe it wasn't meant to be. I'm encouraged we have 2 frozen blasts and want to be able to finally move on. This has been a very stressful pregnancy- constantly waiting and worrying.
Happy Passover and Easter to those who celebrate. xoxo

 

[ttcbaby117]

Babyd - awww that is really sad news hun. I am so sorry you are going through this. Your lil one fought a good fight! Please let us know what we can do to help you through this. We are here for you!

 

[BabyD225]

Thanks TTC and everyone else who has been so supportive. I have a FET to look forward to hopefully in May. I want to move on from this once D/C occurs and enjoy life until then. Having a glass of wine tonight for the first time in months. Much needed. xo

 

[L4hope]

I'm so sorry this is the outcome for you BabyD! You have lots of support here as you go through this and move forward. I hope they can get you in soon. Big big hugs!!!

 

[WannabeeMum]

Oh BabyD, my heart is breaking for you. I wish there were something to make the hurt and pain go away. You are a trooper and have such a good attitude about moving forward. Sending you and your DH the biggest

 

[Bluebell bun]

Baby D, I am so sorry to hear your news. I have been following everyone's progress but haven't really felt like posting since my negative beta. Sending you a big hug.

 

[Edamame]

BabyD- I am so so sorry to hear that. I really wish it had turned out differently. I'm glad you have two frosties and that you can move forward when you're ready.

 

[everhopeful]

BabyD- so sorry! Am very glad that you are thinking forward. Hope that it all works out for you in terms of the d&c. Xx

 

[Turkey16]

So sorry to hear BabyD...your attitude is amazing. I am thinking good thoughts for you....

 

[MoBaby]

BabyD: I am soo terribly sorry for you I know how it feels for sure and such a cruel thing. I am glad you are positive about the FET and are able to move forward. I think the d/c is the best thing as it could take a while to pass 9 week baby

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AFM (This is very long; its a rant!): I havent been able to update sooner as I was working. But, I am pissed. Even more than I was. And I feel like a jerk because of how I let it out today at the clinic. SO I went into the room for my saline sonogram. The tech says you are here for a trial transfer. I said no I'm here for this because my uterus has been abnormal and the dr isnt sure what is going on so he said I needed this. She said okay. Then she left the room and my nurse came in and said, (Oh this is good): Your doctor had to go do a surgery so he cant do your saline sonogram today. So the other doctor who is here is going to do it. Is that okay? I said are you serious? She said yes, she was sorry, but he had a surgery and she didnt realize that when she booked me in (although she told me he said it was fine to see me at 1130). I said I have no option because I rearranged everyones schedule so I could be here today at this time. Anyways, an assistant walks in and I am talking to her about it and she said my RE was not happy about the schedule mess up and he expressed that to her. THEN the other RE walks in (I have seen him before; he did one of my transfers. My RE is the only one who did successful transfers on me). And the nurse says is it okay and I say it is fine. BUT I am very frustrated. I tell them NO ONE is bothering to tell me what is going on. I have been dealing with this for almost 2 months and not ONCE have I heard from my doctor. I tell them how I feel and how I expected my doctor to be here so we could discuss everything that had been going on these past several weeks since he cant call me. The other RE understands my frustrations and tries to explain something which made no sense at all and I interrupted him and said that doesnt explain what is going on with my uterus. Not at all. Then he was like if you let me I can do this and go over it in detail with your RE then I will have him call you today when he is done in surgery. He even said I will bet you $50 he will call you later. OKAY SO WHERE IS MY $50? Its after 6pm here and still no call.
I let him do the procedure, and its not normal. This RE does the procedure completely different than my RE (which I didnt like); we see there is a small amount of abnormal uterine lining and he says everything but that area looks good to go. HE said this would warrant a hysteroscopy to get a better look but since he is not my RE he will have to discuss it with him. I felt bad for going off when he got in the room as this isnt his fault. MAYBE he will tell my dr about my frustration and how I was in tears telling them how I feel.
Then I go see the nurse who says if I can start she will have him call me later with instructions and will have him call me to discuss the ultrasound. I told her that I appreciated her calling me but it really isnt helpful because all she has is instructions and no explanation. Well, I know I am not starting the FET cycle. I still freaking bleed when I exercise so clearly my uterus is still messed up and the ultrasound wasnt normal so DUH I am not starting. So here I sit, 15 past 6, with no call from my doctor or the nurse. So now here I am with no answers, no baby, no FET in my future. All this clinic is giving me is the run around. I really am at my end here. If I didnt have frosties, I would leave the clinic. I dont want to risk transferring them to another clinic at the moment.

I am sorry for the long post


SOOOO after I wrote this my RE called me..... He was apologetic for not being there today. And he also said he didn't think there was any more abnormal endometrium... What he thinks happened is the RE who did the trial transfer nicked the endometrium which caused the appearance of abnormal uterine lining. I told him my frustrations over the phone and he apologized and said anytime I need more info or anytime I need to speak to him and not the nurse tell the nurse I want to be put through to him and I will. He confirmed that there was tissue left in there which is now gone. I wish he would have done the test still.

ANYWAYS- i am starting estrace tonight. Its CD6. He said the cycle is a go. I told him that i bleed when I exercise and he said really? He said recently, well as of yesterday I did. We discussed if any unusual bleeding during this cycle before the transfer or if anything just doesnt seem right or seems off then we will cancel. Looking at my pic there was no reason for this to happen. Maybe last night was it? SO I have been dedicated to training for this half marathon the past little while and I am supposed to run it the week before the transfer but since this cycle is a go, I am stopping my exercise since that brings about the bleed. No risk here! So the nurse will call me tomorrow with instructions on when to come in. He said if the estrace isnt enough we will add patches. I am scared now. I want this soo bad but I want everything to be 100% perfect.

 

[Em260]

BabyD - I'm so sorry! My heart goes out to you Sending you tons of healing thoughts and prayers.

 

[Em260]

BabyD: I am soo terribly sorry for you I know how it feels for sure and such a cruel thing. I am glad you are positive about the FET and are able to move forward. I think the d/c is the best thing as it could take a while to pass 9 week baby

I am sorry for the long post

SOOOO after I wrote this my RE called me..... He was apologetic for not being there today. And he also said he didn't think there was any more abnormal endometrium... What he thinks happened is the RE who did the trial transfer nicked the endometrium which caused the appearance of abnormal uterine lining. I told him my frustrations over the phone and he apologized and said anytime I need more info or anytime I need to speak to him and not the nurse tell the nurse I want to be put through to him and I will. He confirmed that there was tissue left in there which is now gone. I wish he would have done the test still.

ANYWAYS- i am starting estrace tonight. Its CD6. He said the cycle is a go. I told him that i bleed when I exercise and he said really? He said recently, well as of yesterday I did. We discussed if any unusual bleeding during this cycle before the transfer or if anything just doesnt seem right or seems off then we will cancel. Looking at my pic there was no reason for this to happen. Maybe last night was it? SO I have been dedicated to training for this half marathon the past little while and I am supposed to run it the week before the transfer but since this cycle is a go, I am stopping my exercise since that brings about the bleed. No risk here! So the nurse will call me tomorrow with instructions on when to come in. He said if the estrace isnt enough we will add patches. I am scared now. I want this soo bad but I want everything to be 100% perfect.

Mo - wow, it sounds like your RE is good but his nursing staff is soo incompetent! Great news that you get to move forward with the cycle. I think it's a good idea to stop the half marathon training too. Fx for no more abnormal bleeding.

 

[Mells54]

BabyD, I'm so sorry. Hoping everything turns out for the best.

 

[Flowermal]

BabyD: sending you lotsa of hugs and prayers