Anyone doing FET/IVF in Jan 2013 till everyone's BFP (Everyone Welcome)

Ever I'm so so sorry my heart goes out to you and thinking of you and DH :hug:

First, Good luck today :hugs:

Ash & Mo, Good luck for your appt today :hugs:

Em, I'm glad someone is one the ball remembering everyone's dates etc xx
 
Ever so sorry. Big hugs darling

Good luck first.
 
My appointment went well. I have a lot pf follicles starting to grow. Most of them are still on the smaller side right now so he didn't measure them. My lining is at 6.5mm and he said depending on the blood work he'll most likely tweek my medication and see me back on Saturday. :)
 
Ever :hug: so sorry to hear.

ash - glad your check went well, :thumbup:
 
I'm so sorry, Ever. You sound calm already, but I'm sending you warm, calming and healing love/vibes. :hugs:
I know we are all used to being tough and moving forward, but it's still sad. I feel like the universe owes us SOMETHING nice, like a freakin' cupcake or the best parking spot on days like these. I mean, seriously?!? Of course, a cupcake is not a substitute for a baby, but since we keep getting bad news, maybe it should be countered by something good, even if it's tiny. So, Happy Cupcake Day, Ever! I would make you a batch if I could! ❤❤❤
 
Ever, so so sorry dear :hug:

Ash, glad ur appt went well

Lotus, big hello to u!!

Turkey, how are you doing?

Hello Ali, Sandy, Edamame and the rest :)

Ladies, I will b popping in now and then to cheer u on cos will b starting a new job in Mon so so might not have the time.. My thoughts will still be with all of u :):)
 
Hi everyone...new to the ttc blogging culture. My partner and I have been ttc since March 2012. I will be carrying. So far we've had 6 failed IUIs, with small amounts of meds used with #5 and #6 I think. We switched REs just before the last one and she promptly started treating me aggressively with injectables when suggesting moving on to IVF. I have no diagnosed issues, and the two REs disagree about whether my AMH is low; new one doesn't think it's low. Oh...and sperm donor's sperm is always top notch with each try. For IVF #1 I responded terribly to the meds, only getting two follicles so it was cancelled. Right in the middle of IVF #2, I was informed that me fertility medication insurance benefit had been exhausted...we were so blessed to have the $10k to begin with, so I told my doc lets just do it...whatever I get. On my scan, they saw 2, maybe 3 good size follicles...disappointing...but at my ER, Wed. 5/1/13 they were able to get 4. 3 were mature and all 3 fertilized. So far so good. By Friday, 2 were dividing...holding my breath at this point...only 2 to choose from!!! Had a day 3 transfer Sat. 5/4/13 and were told that one was perfectly graded and the other only slightly below, but still had a very good grade. They really pushed for me to transfer 2, but weren't giving me good enough reasons in my opinion. We are concerned about our ability to take care of twins, plus I'm only 33, plus we have enough IVF insurance to cover at least one more try, likely two. So I went with my gut from the start and chose one. It's a good thing too, because on day 6 I was told that the other embie not only improved in quality but started to hatch! So we have one perfect snow baby, and a plan for me to carry my partner's eggs if all else fails. We have the same insurance, but her fertility benefits would start all over at $0, so that's a huge perk if she needed to harvest for me. Took my first HPT yesterday, Wed. 5/8/13 to see if Ovidrel shot was out of my system and it is. Going to test again Sunday, 5/12/13 on Mother's Day and hopefully get a faint line. My blood test is Thursday, 5/16/13. I'm currently working on a family tree and noticed that on my dads side almost all of the generations had at least 8-10 kids, with each of their kids having the same number, you would think I could at least have one. Also, If anyone on this thread is looking for an inspirational story...I have one...just don't want to bore you unless you want to hear it. Any other same sex couples out there? Good luck everyone! Fertility seems wasted on the undeserving and unprepared.
 
Hey Ladies-

I had my new RE consult. I have to say I did like the new RE. He was upfront, honest and didn't try to hide anything. So here goes the long details:
-First of all, my current RE has done everything correctly. There is some bloodwork that the new RE wants that the current RE didnt check but as far as the cycles, meds, stims, etc everything was pretty much like he would have done. New RE says I get plenty of eggs and fertilize but there is a problem with the quality of the embryos and the number we have gotten. We should have had about 50% blasts from the cycles and it hasn't happened. So, he made it clear that:
-Our #1 problem is the sperm. He said bad sperm=bad embryos and we have heard all along that the sperm once fertilizes the egg is not an issue but the new RE said clearly it is and the sperm will dictate how many good quality blasts we have on day 5.
-DH has mild testicular failure. So a long shot here, but he is trying clomid at 25 mg daily and HCG injections at 1500 units 3xweekly to see if we can boost his testosterone up and get some better swimmers. We would use them in an IVF cycle.
-My eggs are fine from what he believes. Only problem is my uterus.
-Doesnt think the uterus is an issue because of the two pregnancies. I can have implantation and a fetus can develop. He feels pretty confident I can carry a baby of my own.
-Confirmed my two miscarriages were female. He believes that the second was a chromosomal issue and since it was not sent to the specialized lab they could not rule out the material was me.
-Gave us several options.

-He said the best case scenario would be to use donor sperm with a surrogate carrier. He said if we had unlimited funds that is what he would recommend because of my uterus and the sperm. BUT he said that is not the only option and he thinks other options would work.
-Back to back IVF cycle; get a bunch of embryos to PGD; freeze all and do FET cycle with normal embryos. Possibly use my already frozen two as well to test.
-We would do a testicular biopsy (TESE) at time of ER. They do a less invasive TESE which cost $1500 compared to my old RE office which was $7000
-Mixed fertilization with donor sperm and DH sperm (we dont want to do this; I feel its either all DH or all donor; dr said psychologically it would help DH even if he didnt fertilize the egg).
-IUI with donor sperm. (Cheapest, easiest way.) My good side is left so I would take clomid/injections to ensure follicles on that side. Pick out donor from sperm bank. We would use the frozen embryos first.
-Adoption (not yet)

He said he will give it his best shot and would not try anything if he didnt think it would work.

-DH at the end of the meeting said we should just go to donor sperm and stop putting ourself through all this. I think we should also but it breaks my heart knowing that DH has always wanted to father a child and there is nothing he can do to make that happen. He obviously would be daddy for all purposes but IDK. I am okay with donor sperm but I know he is heart broken.
We will discuss tonight and see what we come up with. Obviously we have spent thousands trying to make our dream come true. What I am thinking is do the two FETs and if nothing then go to donor IUI for 3-4 months then if nothing back to IVF with DH and TEST for 1-2 more rounds and if nothing then call it quits.
-I have to decide to do donor IUI with my current clinic or with the new clinic.

Sorry for the rambling!! Just wanted you all to know :)
 
Well Mo u do have many options. I'm sure the two of you will choose the best. You seem happy with the options the new Re has provided:winkwink:
 
Lotus, that was the best post I've seen in a long time...loved it!

Ash, glad things are looking good.

Mo, wow! That's a lot to take in. For your DH to say donor sperm, he must want a child more than he wants a biological child. After having to decide on using donor eggs, I can attest to how much wanting a child means more than knowing he/she will be genetically mine. It's something you both have to work through...I wish you the best.

2girls, welcome!
 

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