Anyone else expecting a November sparkler? *Updated with due dates!*

[Gemie]

Yes I just booked a rivate scan for 16 weeks

 

[lovehearts]

Lovely pic gem.

Lora I'm so sorry the appointment was crap they did so many things wrong! Massive xxx

 

[BubsMom17]

Oh I am so jealous! I won't know until June 7th! I could have gotten in sooner, but I try to work around my work schedule to make it convenient for everyone (me, my boss and my DH). BUT I am excited because I get to have A SECOND scan a week later for a super detailed facial scan. Due to some meds I take, there is a 1% chance my baby could have a cleft lip or palate. I am not overly concerned about the risk, and am trying to be positive about the fact that we get to see baby bear twice in one week!

 

[zowiey]

Lora, just a thought- could you talk to your midwife? I know the consultant has the final day so, but surely if you're going to be under a lot of emotional stress, it's in her duty to do what's best to support mum & baby?

 

[BubsMom17]

Lora - I really don't understand why the consultant was so awul with you. If you are a consultant that deals in these matters, one would think tact and sensitivity, as well as being prepared and knowledgable about your client, would be a necessary part of the job description. I am so sorry you had that experience. I am sending you a hug...

 

[BubsMom17]

Lora - Also, what are the injections for?

 

[LoraLoo]

Thanks so much ladies, just upset me so much that she had my notes in front of her on the page of previous pregnancies and she still couldnt get it right!!

Bubsmom they are to prevent blood clots, i never had them with my others they really sting!

Has anyone seen 3boys around? Sorry i might have just missed her posts was just thinking i havent 'seen' her in a while? Hope she is ok x

 

[Gemie]

Gorgeous pic Gem, so pleased all ok n that u been put forward!

Will catch up on rest of posts in a min!

Awful, my Consultant appt was just awful. I'm so upset. I know its part my fault for not being pushy enough and part hormones but it couldnt have gone worse.

Consultant said it was my 4th baby i said no 6th + 1 m/c she said no, you have 3 children and 3 mc. How the hell did she get that when my notes were in front of her saying Para 5+1?! I corrected her again and said no, this is my 7th pregnancy but we had a mc at 18 weeks last year and lost a baby girl neonatally at 5 days old. So she went 'Oh ok, so you have 4 children' I was so upset i snapped than no i had 5 but if she wanted to say 4 then fine! She then asked 'were your other 4 pregnancies normal'? Obviously Eves doesnt count!

I asked if there were any results from Alfies placenta and she didnt even look she just said my Dr would have to phone path lab- bear in mind this was Sept so 8 months ago and still not heard a thing. I havent been offered no scan and dont go back until 28 weeks.

She then said i needed Clexane injections (never had them before) so sent me through A+E, past the room they put us with Eve , to pharmacy, 30 mins wait down there, to labour ward where i sat next to a woman who asked how many children i had. Id got myself to worked up by that point i blurted out 4, and she asked how far i was, when i said 13 weeks she said 'oh thats ok nothing bad happens once you are past 7 weeks' I couldnt say anything.

Ive nealised that nearly ever dept in that hospital holds bad memories for me- The antenatal dept, the labour ward, a+e, childrens ward....Im having a mighty 'Im feeling sorry for myself day' and have just come home and cried. Head pounding now. Just needed to let us out

Oh Lora so unfair and completely insensitive of the consultant. How unprofessional and not counting eve as another child? What the actual fuck?? How dare she? I'm So angry for you hunni.

 

[MandaAnda]

Gem, great pic!

Lora, that's awful treatment. I hate that they have our notes before calling us back and can't be bothered to have a look at them first. When are you next due to see the midwife? Again, this is your care, so doctors and midwives can advise all day long, but it won't hurt for us to ask or tell them what needs doing in our personal case. xx

 

[LoraLoo]

I see the midwife at 16 weeks xx

 

[babymonkey18]

Gemie--YAY! Lovely scan. I am so happy for you. Baby looks great

Lora--I feel like I'm just repeating what everyone else said...but UGHHH. THE NERVE of those people. Eve counts, she is one of your children...always will be! I hope you get a different consultant next time. I wish people that worked in health care were more sensitive to patients and what they have gone through or are going through (the good and the bad) and try to be sympathetic and/or thoughtful and/or excited!


So long story (probably not) short...I ended going to my appointment and crying before I even got seen. They told me my insurance was inactive (...btw, it ISNT lol) but it was the fault of my work-insurance communication (I wasn't mad at the doc office! just the stupid "system"). Made a bunch of phone calls and waited over an hour to get it sorted out. Well, my work verified my insurance, but it didn't update in the system. DH and I just decided to say screw it and pay for it out of pocket. It just sucks when I get lots of money taken out of my paycheck for insurance every week and then I go to the doctor's and get told I don't have any!!! Of course I am going to fight for a reimbursement, but it's not what I wanted/needed. I was already really stressed and nervous.

I guess getting that out of the way ultimately made me less nervous by the time I actually got into the patient room. I also sat there waiting for the doc, trying to come to peace with the realization that I wouldn't be getting any prenatal care, as they said over and over that it was just "an annual exam". Of course I was wishing to hear hb with a doppler or something. But sort of just gave that up.

ANYWAY, not to be all dramatic...but met the doctor. She was INCREDIBLE. Such a good listener, was very caring and explained everything well. After the annual exam was over (pap and all that fun stuff haha) she was like, "okay, so how about a transvag ultrasound? I just wanna make sure heart beat is present." Ummmm YESSSSS!!!
She told me she actually does this for all her preg patients, and does it sort of secretly (it's unofficially done: no paperwork is done, insurance doesn't know, so no billing for it!). We called DH into the ultrasound room. She did the transvag and I swear I saw NOTHING lol but doc said she saw a heart beat. Then she decided she could probably see it well from abdomen, so she did an abdominal and WE GOT TO SEE THE BABY! Totally unexpected. I was hoping (but not expecting) to try and hear doppler hb, and instead I got a SCAN! It was the greatest feeling ever...we saw bean's hb, 150! I will upload the pic she printed, but she said it was an old machine and the tech's are much better at getting a good shot. She said it was just for us to have until the "real", scheduled scan down the road...
So anyway, attached is my scan. Baby's head is on the left (doesn't look like much in the pic haha). She said I am 10 weeks today! So now EDD is moved from 29th to 25th !

Scheduled my midwife appt (because I am choosing to do alternative birthing, at least alt for the US lol) and have it in exactly 2 weeks! That's when they will finally get bloods (didn't do that today) and counsel me on being pregnant (which is funny because I'll be starting 13th week....haha... a little late?)

Sorry that was so long. It's just been a whirl-wind day for me. All good, though, praise God!

 

[Gemie]

Aww babymonkey your pic is lovely! What a day eh? Glad all went well

 

[BubsMom17]

What an awesome surprise to see the baby without expecting it! I'm sure you are through the roof and on cloud 9!

 

[brinib]

Gorgeous pic Gem, so pleased all ok n that u been put forward!

Will catch up on rest of posts in a min!

Awful, my Consultant appt was just awful. I'm so upset. I know its part my fault for not being pushy enough and part hormones but it couldnt have gone worse.

Consultant said it was my 4th baby i said no 6th + 1 m/c she said no, you have 3 children and 3 mc. How the hell did she get that when my notes were in front of her saying Para 5+1?! I corrected her again and said no, this is my 7th pregnancy but we had a mc at 18 weeks last year and lost a baby girl neonatally at 5 days old. So she went 'Oh ok, so you have 4 children' I was so upset i snapped than no i had 5 but if she wanted to say 4 then fine! She then asked 'were your other 4 pregnancies normal'? Obviously Eves doesnt count!

I asked if there were any results from Alfies placenta and she didnt even look she just said my Dr would have to phone path lab- bear in mind this was Sept so 8 months ago and still not heard a thing. I havent been offered no scan and dont go back until 28 weeks.

She then said i needed Clexane injections (never had them before) so sent me through A+E, past the room they put us with Eve , to pharmacy, 30 mins wait down there, to labour ward where i sat next to a woman who asked how many children i had. Id got myself to worked up by that point i blurted out 4, and she asked how far i was, when i said 13 weeks she said 'oh thats ok nothing bad happens once you are past 7 weeks' I couldnt say anything.

Ive nealised that nearly ever dept in that hospital holds bad memories for me- The antenatal dept, the labour ward, a+e, childrens ward....Im having a mighty 'Im feeling sorry for myself day' and have just come home and cried. Head pounding now. Just needed to let us out

Sorry Lora. What I'm starting to think is that in the UK there isn't much emphasis on customer service in healthcare. So sorry you had such a rough day.

 

[lovehearts]

I'm bleeding ladies, no pain, and heard the hb on the doppler but I'm bleeding bright red. Am waiting for epu to open to call in. This happened with my son, at pretty much the same stage. It was an sch. I'm scared

 

[Dazed125]

So sorry to hear this, I really hope everything is ok. Huge huge hugs, will be thinking of u x

 

[Tower6]

Oh no how many weeks are you? Hopefully it's a hematoma (sp?)

 

[lovehearts]

I'm 12+4. That's what it was with my son. I'm so scared

 

[gardenofedens]

Great scan baby monkey! so glad you got to see baby!

Loraloo, can't believe they treated you like that, just terrible!

Sorry you are bleeding lovehearts, hope everything is okay.

Is anyone else due on November 18? The front page shows me and baby monkey but looks like baby monkey is now 11/25. Am I the only one?

One more week until our next appt and hopefully another scan. My dr knows I want one so hopefully she can bring in the portable ultrasound machine. Otherwise I have to wait until June 28!! Technically we could get a private scan but they are expensive and we are saving money right now so dh won't approve.

 

[teacup22]

Lovely scan Baby!
Lovehearts I don't know what to say! Hope it's nothing x