Anyone else feel as if theyve 'changed' ?

Discussion in 'Pregnancy Club' started by Laura--x, Oct 5, 2008.

  1. Laura--x

    Laura--x Guest

    I really don't know what it is, ive tried to ask myself but i can't seem to answer it. I just don't feel myself anymore, i feel like a different person. I've always been a person up for anything, i'll go with the flow and do whatever. I used to hate staying in, i'd spend alot of time at my boyfriends, i'd go out with his mum, go to his auntys/nans whatever, go to my own auntys and nans, just anything i could do tbh.

    I just can't be arsed for anything of that anymore, to be quite honest. I can't be bothered to do anymore than sit in the house on BnB or watching tele, obviously cleaning and doing whatever needs to be done. I've become really antisocial and i think people are starting to think things. I havn't been down my ohs in 2 weeks, and i was only there for one night, then before that i hadnt gone down for about 4 weeks, so in 6 weeks ive only been down my ohs once, i know for a fact his mum is saying stuff, i just know it. Shes always asking why i dont go down, but when oh is at college everyday i dont want to just go down there to sit on the sofa and watch tele. Especially with the way im feeling, but they dont seem to understand.

    I start to dread when i know people are coming down, just because i cant be arsed to sit and have conversations with them, for them to ask me 100 questions on how im feeling, what im doing, all that nonsense.

    I really don't know what it is but im really turning into a boring antisocial lonely sod. Am i alone in this ? I proberly pressume i am, but has anyone else heard people like this ?
     
  2. PeanutBean

    PeanutBean Mumma to Byron & Indigo

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    Do you mean you've changed because of the pregnancy? I'm a different person since getting pregnant but very much hope to return more to myself after the birth. If you just mean generally, then without meaning to sound patronising, just sounds like growing up! I think many if not most people get less interested in socialising so much as they get older, other stuff tends to get in the way, other responsibilities that mean that free time is best spent doing nothing! lol Don't worry! Just do whatever you are happy doing and don't worry what anybody thinks about it.
     
  3. Dragonfly

    Dragonfly Mother of 4

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    I have changed myself. I dont go out anymore as I feel so crap. Well i cant get out anymore as I cant ride a motorbike so I have become anti social myself. I also dreaded poeple calling sometimes when i wasnt in the mood for being asked 100 questions and looking like crap at the same time. Its just pregnancy I think. Plus my moods are totally different, I was so layed back and didnt care now stupid things get to me. :( I hope to return to some sort of resemblance of my former self after this.
     
  4. enigma

    enigma mum of 3 nearly 4.

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    I hate to say it, but your life will never go back to what it was before, now your probably just feeling drained, its hard work being pregnant.
    But after you've had the baby, you going to have this little defenceless person to look after, their going to depend on you for everything and you are going to worry constantly about them and your self because of how much they depend on you.
    You dont have the time or energy to keep up with everyone and friends do kind of whither away, going getting on with there trouble free lives.
    The people that are showing an interest now, try to embrace them because you are going to need some friends, even if its just to escape from the routine for an hour or so.

    I say this from experience, i ended up with hardly anyone to talk to after id had my first baby, i dident have time or energy for anyone and everyone one else i knew was going out 'being young' while i was at home making sure baby was well fed, checking them every 10 minutes when they sleeping, ect.
     
  5. missjacey44

    missjacey44 Jacey & Baby Tye

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    I feel as if im a complete different person since being pregnant and im hoping i go back to the 'old me' because i really dont feel normal anymore. But when i was around your stage of pregnancy i felt terrible, I didnt have morning sickness or anything but i just felt horrible. I couldnt be bothered to go out and i couldnt be bothered with my hair and makeup or anything. After i found out i wasnt going to get paid maternity leave i quit my job when i was 18weeks pregnant because i really couldnt do it anymore, I only left the house for food shoppin after that for a few weeks. But i did begin to feel better.. But i still dont feel like 'me'
     
  6. brownhairedmom

    brownhairedmom Well-Known Member

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    Yes! I don't even resemble what i was before. I stopped caring about everything and anyone. You could be my best friend and walk past me but I probably won't speak to you unless I'm in a particuarly good mood. I don't do anything or have any desire to do anything.

    I REALLY hope it changes after shes born because if not I need to restructure my life
     
  7. Mo_mo

    Mo_mo Third tri!!!

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    Pregnancy has made me soooooo negative. Im surprised i still have friends cos im like a constant black cloud. I dont know why but I really cant be positive about this pregnancy as i keep thinking something is going to go wrong, and it doesnt help that when I try and explain how im feeling to people they just brush it off with "oh dont be so silly everything will be fine". :(
     
  8. xXDonnaXx

    xXDonnaXx Well-Known Member

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    Same here. I have turned into a nasty, boring, depressed pregnant woman with no social life. I can't be bothered doing anything because I'm tired alot of the time. Me and OH have been arguing alot because of my mood's. So I've not seen him for 2 weeks. So I've just been going crazy, sat at home with no money & nothing to do. I just cannot wait to have lexie then get my life back on track, and hopefully my mood's will go too. I don't like the person I am right now. I'm not me. And I think alot of people have noticed. My mum said to me one day "You're doin alot of snappin you lately" - I felt ashamed! I've never been like that with my family. I'm being a cow but I can't help it. :eek: Hurry up normalness!
     
  9. JaydensMommy09

    JaydensMommy09 Engaged && Expectin #1

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    i know EXACTLY what you mean!!! i used to enjoy studying and hanging out with my friends but all I seem to do is be deppressed and think about the future and how i am going to make it work in life. I now want to be a better person for my baby. Wow i thought I was alone.
     
  10. Laura--x

    Laura--x Guest

    Im so glad im not on my own with this! i really thought i was.
    Its just my ohs family that is bothering me, because they keep making comments like i cant be bothered with them anymore, i dont want to see them anymore and all that. I would of thought atleast his mum would understand after having 4 kids herself.

    Hopefully getting a job soon so atleast thatll give me a bit of an excuse as to why i aint going down! :rofl:
     
  11. kitty1987

    kitty1987 Mum of 1

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    I've just realised that I can't be bothered at the moment. I can't be bothered tot alk to anyone or show any enthusiasm for anybody. I do try and make the effort though. I think it's just because I have had enough of the 50000 questions to do with my pregnancy that everyone asks
     
  12. CamoQueen

    CamoQueen Mom of 2 & 1 on the way!

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    I'm pretty much the same, just bitchier than before. I like to spend loads of time by myself just reading and relaxing, but I have always been like that, really. Plus I get sore if I stand for too long, or dizzy... so the incentive to go out and socialise isn't so great.
     
  13. magicvw

    magicvw Hoping for a 3rd

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    I think it's totally normal hun. Our bodies are so busy on the inside we can't be bothered to do anything on the inside! I snuck home today, telling DH I was going to do some housework, and I did sod all, all day, except BnB and hung some washing out (which I haven't been arsed to bring back in :dohh:). I found with pg no1 I got my energy back in the second tri - I'm not so bad this time round, but I remember feeling like that with no.1 all the time. We ate out a lot only cos I couldn't be bothered to cook anything and going out loses its appeal when you're not drinking anyway...

    Don't worry too much - you will may be not change back to the way you were, but you will "evolve"! :hugs: Don't worry about pleasing your OHs family - as you say, his mum should know better anyway! Just tell her to her face that you are feeling pretty tired due to the pregnancy and, nothing personal, but you're not up to socialising right now. She has probably forgotten what it's like to be pg!

    :hug:
     
  14. jms895

    jms895 Well-Known Member

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    Yep I know what you mean!! I feel fat and ugly and spotty! Cant be arsed to do shit all, and the house is a tip! Mind you I have got exams on and assignments for uni. But still I am a mardy cow, with no social life. I used to go out every weekend with my mates and now I do sod all but watch TV, eat and play on B and B :lol: god I am a barrel of laughs xx
    Am going to a spa with my mate tomorrow to cheer myself up! Hope you girls all feel better soon :hugs: chin up..... (or in my case - chins up :dohh:) xx
     

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