Anyone else feel like this??

[mrssunshine78]

We had twins in July 12, we knew our little boy was seriously ill from 20 weeks, but our little girl was born healthy and is now an excitable 19 month old. I'm 3 weeks away from having another baby, I just feel like i haven't bonded with baby, I haven't enjoyed pregnancy and found it very stressful, and now i'm just so scared i wont bond with our baby. Feel like this may be a defence mechanism, and hoping so much once she's born I'll love her straight away, am just wondering if anyone else has felt like this? Not even sure if i've posted in the right section really

Thanks

 

[KatyKat]

Ah, hon, I'm not suprised you feel the way you do. I would imagine you're scared about losing another baby and this is your body/minds way of protecting you.

I'm sure once the baby is here and you know everything is ok you will feel very differently, and if not you can maybe speak to someone (professional) about it.

Did you get any grief counselling after losing your little boy?

 

[mrssunshine78]

Thank you for the reply. We didn't have any counselling after losing Joshua, I hadn't really felt the need, but now am wondering whether it would have been a good idea. At first I was so distracted by having a newborn anyway, and this pregnancy took us by surprise, the twins were ivf. Xx

 

[essie0828]

I had this same feeling when I was pregnant with DD. Then when she was born, she wasn't breathing, she was limp and blue and her apgar score was 2. They took her straight out of the room and I thought she was dead. After we realized she had rallied and was actually alive my mind wouldn't let go of that shock. I expected her to die everyday after that for sometime even though she was getting stronger. I just went through the motions really. We had 2 losses before her one in second tri and well after all that it's hard to believe that everything is ok. It will take time to fall in love with her and that's ok. Just care for her as best you can and get help when you need it.

 

[mrssunshine78]

Thank you for your reply, and i'm sorry for your losses.

 

[essie0828]

Your welcome dear, and thanks. You will do great. I'm sure.

 

[mrssunshine78]

Thank you, i hope so!!