Anyone else in limbo..?

[Omi]

Hi everyone,

Firstly I just wanna thank for all the kind words and encouragement from all you girls.. it has made a world of difference.. i even showed my OH and he said it was lovely as well and that it helped him too

I just feel like in such a limbo.. I now have no pregnancy symptoms anymore just the knowledge that im carrying this dead baby inside me... every twinge or pain i get makes me think i'm starting to miscarry and im terrified of leaving the house not to mention going to work on monday just in case is starts happening then? I just don't know what to expect!!

I have to wait until fri for another scan... its agony just waiting for this calamity to start... any advice?

 

[Carolyn]

sorry, no advice, just wanted to give you a

 

[Rumpskin]

Hi Omi

Does work know of your situation? This could help if you needed to go home quickly?

I am so very sorry lovely

 

[jo27]

The waiting is awful i stayed off sick when i had my missed miscarriage but i had started bleeding the day before i had the scan so i knew it was on its way, is that an option for you to stay off work?

 

[AS1]

Hi - Firstly can I say I am so sorry for your loss you must be devastated.

I know exactly what you are going through I suffered a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks just less than three weeks ago. The hospital also sent me home and said to come back 5 days later for another scan. I waited for a few days and like you say it was a nightmare knowing you are carrying a dead baby inside you I just felt numb. I contacted the hospital and said that I didn't feel I could go on like this much longer and that I wanted put on the list for a D&C - my baby hadn't grown for over three weeks so I reakoned there was a good chance it wouldn't come away on its own. (I ended up having my D&C on the same day I was due to go back for the scan - I am so glad I contacted the hospital as they are so busy they are not going to contact me) I don't know if this is an option for you? But maybe it would be an idea to contact the hospital and see if you can be put on the list if you have opted for a d&c? Like you I also was 100% sure of my dates so if this is true for you tell them, as this is the only reason they are bringing you back for another scan and prolonging the agony.

I personally felt that once I got the operation over I could begin to start dealing with things better. I really feel for you but honestly it would probably be better for you to get things started.

I still felt pregnant until I had the operation so had this massive surge of hormones which left me feeling horrible along with the grief for the past couple of weeks but I'm glad to say that this past few days I am feeling a good bit better and more like my old self, I'm going back to work this week. As suggested is there no way you can take some time off work as you probably really don't want to be there if you're feeling like this? It will be hossible trying to go on as though everything is normal......

Anyway I apologise about the long reply but as your situation is so similar to mine I thought I would let you know how I felt. If you want to chat just let me know and I will send you my e-mail as I have also found that apart from sites like this there really isin't a lot of support out there. And whilst I have a very supportive husband and family I still felt very alone going through the whole experience.

Anyway let us know what you decide to do and good luck with whatever decision you make.... x

 

[carmen]

Omi,

When i had my missed miscarriage, i also opted to wait, but nothing came after two weeks of finding out. Plus the baby had died three weeks before.

I knew i didn t want surgery and like you i just felt like i had something dead inside of me.

So i opted for medical management, yes the cramps hurt for about two hours and for my body to get the tissue completley out it has took almost four weeks.

But the baby came out straight away after having the pessaries.

It is a waiting game with a missed miscarriage and it can take a long time.

So you have got to think about the options there, surgery was the last option for me. And i found out today that i don t have to have it. So personally i m glad i had the medical management.

Good Luck