Ok, so this may be kind of hard to explain and even harder to understand BUT with my first pregnancy, I was probably at about 45 lbs when I went into labor. I also gain weight all over so I'm not one of those that gain it all in the belly
Anyway, I think gaining it all over was actually to my benefit. I didn't have one area that needed major focus (like my stomach). So when I started losing weight, I also lost it all over and at a pretty even pace as well 
If I had gained 45lbs and was all belly, I would have definitely had stretch marks and probably a much harder time losing the weight in the one area. So in the end, I actually appreciated that I gained it everywhere.
