Anyone else scared?

[Shangalang]

Hi I am just 40 & 10wks + 3 with my 1st little miracle.
DH have been trying for 2 years & have been on Clomid since last Oct, we have had 2 chemical pg (Dec & Feb) but finally on our 4th cycle of Clomid we have this sticky bean.

I had a scan @ 8wks+1 after my LMP (7wks+5 by hospital dates) & we saw that beautiful little heartbeat..
I have my 12wk scan on 4th July & I cannot wait. I know I will relax when I see that bubba & hear that heartbeat....

Is anyone else feeling scared about their pg? I am so worried that something is going to go wrong, every twinge I get I panic, I check for blood everytime I go to the toilet, I have been getting lumps of creamy CM & I am constantly checking websites to see what it could mean, is it normal etc..... I want to enjoy being pg but right now I am so scared.

Please tell me it's normal to feel like this. How did you cope getting to that 12wk stage?

 

[Storm1jet2]

Yep perfectly normal

Then when you have your 12 week scan you will be elated - then you wake up the next day and start the worrying all over again waiting for your 20 week scan...

All part of becoming a mum I believe

 

[BeachComber]

yes honey, I have been scared to death since I got my BFP. I was the same with my other kiddos.

My Mom tells me that she still worries herself sick over my siblings and I, and we are all grown up, so I don't think we ever really stop. It's completely normal.

 

[Lynw]

Hi
I am 35 and pregnant with my first (6w+3d) and I feel exactly the same. I check every time I go to the loo also and I'm also worried about the scare stories you hear about things being more likely to go wrong when you're over 35. So yes I'm scared about miscarriage, downs screening, etc but trying to relax and get myself through to the 12 week mark. I have read lots of other comments similar to ours and so at least we are not alone in feeling this way.
As for twinges, I get those a lot too and I think it's more difficult because it's all new and you're not really sure what to expect, what is normal. Again, these forums and pregnancy books give loads of advice on what's normal and what isn't and I've found those sources of information invaluable.
Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy
xxx

 

[lillith_cat]

Yes, it is completely normal. I am 35 and pregnant with my second (had my first just shy of my 34th birthday). With my first pregnancy, I felt exactly the way you describe, and I was often convinced I had magically sensed something going wrong. Everything went well, fortunately, and now I find myself worrying all over again! As the others said, it's all part of motherhood - I found my real worrying began after the baby was born!

That said, I just tried to take it all day by day. Easier said than done, but I would just try to relax and tell myself, today I'm still pregnant and I'm going to enjoy my time with this baby. It worked...occasionally.

Good luck!

 

[bbforme]

Totally normal....pregnancy is stressful. You worry about what you don't know and what you can't see. Honestly, you'll worry about your children until the day you die, LOL! That's what any caring parent does Take a deep breath and take each day as they come...You'll be just fine

 

[Shangalang]

Thanks Ladies
At least I know I'm not alone? Honestly, I think the Internet can be a curse sometimes - it's too easy to hunt symptoms & put 2 & 2 together & come up with 7!!!
Congrats on all your pregnancies & here's to lots of healthy 9 months.....
xx

 

[Cookiedog]

Hi,

I am constantly worried - I run to the loo every hour to check for symptoms. I know I should try and relax and enjoy it, but it is so difficult to do.

In my last pregnancy, I remember the worry at reaching milestones - but the worry never ends!

We've just got to learn to live with it!

 

[reneny1]

I had a miscarriage in Jan 2010 so I am constantly worrying about something not being right! I hate it! But I think it's really an uncontrollable thing.

In all other things in life, I tend to be a "take it as it comes" kind of person... but pregnancy has made all common sense go right out the window!

I do take it day by day. But, geez louise! The days sure do seem long!!!

 

[Kiki09]

Yes, I too feel like that, I think a lot of it is down to my history and having lost the naivety of pregnancy. But, I also love it and when the fear starts creeping in again I look at my scan pics or talk to my baby reminding him we are in this together forever lol