Anyone else with a large age gap between kids?

[laughingduck]

My DD will be almost 4.5 by the time the new baby comes. I'm just wondering if anyone else has had or is having a large age gap between kids? I was hoping for a 3 year gap but things do not always go as planned! Just curious how others feel about it!

 

[charliekay]

My son will be 8 next month so yeh an 8 year age gap. I'm actually quite happy about the age gap as my cousin had the same age gap with her first two and said it was much easier as the older child can understand more when your busy sorting the baby out also they like to help a lot x

 

[Cornfieldland]

My boys are 41/2 years apart and I found it a nice age gap. He was old enough to help out and wasn't overly jealous. They are 11 and 15 now and they still play together. Now I may be 4 wks pregnant as well, will confirm this week, and my age gap is huge

 

[Twinmum87]

7.5 yr by the time baby arrives. I am glad of a big gap. I think anything 4+ years would have been good. My twins were extremely difficult babies and toddlers. None stop crying and puking 24/7 between colic, reflux, asthma, eczema and constipation which caused them to have absolutely horrendus nights meaning they were 14 months old before I managed more than 1 hour broken sleep per 24 hours, if I slept at all. There was the odd 1.5 hour total but very rare. 3 yr old before I managed to get more than 1-3 hours sleep. Always had a brilliant and strict routine and even 2 sleep specialists gave up on them. 4 yr old before they started sleeping past 4am and they were 5.5 yr old before both slept thru the night. There has been absolute non stop every waking moment every day of screaming, fighting, shouting, competing to get 100% of my attention on themselves 100% of the time, back chat, trashing the place, tantrums and all the rest until they were 6 yr old no matter how they were disaplind or what rewards were offered and I was never inconsistant, always stuck to my guns and they didn't get away with things so I am very glad we are now at a stage they have calmed down and also them being in school full time means I can put just as much attention on new baby as I did with these when they were little even thou I did work full time until my twins were 3 I was with them all day 4am-4:30pm then worked 5pm-1am most shifts with 1 or 2 days shifts.

 

[embeth]

I have two boys who are 8&7 then a 20 month old. Age gap between bigger two and little one has been lovely. Pregnant with our last now as we want our littlest to have one closer in age. Our littlest adores his big bros and their great with him

 

[Cookie1979]

My son will be just over 5, I'm happy with that, he'll be at school and I'll have quality time with the new baby x

 

[maryanne1987]

Will be 10 years between my son and daughter. Didn't plan it that way, just they way it worked out. He can't wait to be a big brother though! I feel silly for worrying how he would take the news.

 

[laughingduck]

Ok it sounds like it has worked out well for most of you! TwinMum I can see why you chose to wait! My DD did not sleep through until she was 2.5, I thought I had it bad! She still only sleeps through when sleeping next to me, that should be interesting when baby comes! I guess I was worried about them being in such dofferent stages. I am kinda hoping for another girl so that they will have at least that in common

Thanks for the replies!

 

[MyFavSurprise]

My son will also be about 4.5 when new baby gets here. Originally I had hoped to have them closer together but really I'm excited for this age gap. My son is excited to be a big brother and I know he will want to help and play with the baby.. When he was younger I honestly don't think he would have made the best big brother..for a while I wondered if he ever would because he seemed to just like being the only child, but now he is so gentle with babies and he is always drawn to playing with them... we went to my fiance's cousins house and they have a 2 month old baby and he pushed the swing so gently and tickled his tummy..now I really can't wait : )

 

[Bevziibubble]

I will have a 4 year age gap when baby arrives. It would have been nice to have a smaller gap but I've only just plucked up the courage to have another one since my LO is hugely demanding, very needy and clingy. I'm hoping she will be a little more independent when baby arrives!

 

[BrittRashel]

We are TTC our first baby together. My husband is 18 years older than I am and we both have a kid from previous marriages. My son is 6 (so at least 7 when a baby would get here) and his son is almost 21 so lots of age gaps over here!! It kind of sucks for his son because he grew up without any siblings but for Matt, I think the age gap will be okay. Matt has always been a very challenging child (he got suspended from school in his second week of kindergarten, just to give you an idea) so before now, he needed a lot of one on one attention. I think if I had another baby before now, I would have lost my mind trying to give Matt the attention he needed and take care of a newborn. As it is now, he has matured some and is excited about maybe getting a new brother or sister and can't wait to help out.

 

[Isismoon]

I have a huge age gap between my oldest and youngest.....
My oldest is 21 in June, my daughter will be 18 in October, I have a son who will be 2 in June and I am pregnant again, due January! Pretty big age gap I suppose you could say

 

[mummy2o]

My son will be 8 when the new baby arrives. His sister will be 21 months. He loves baby Erika in his words. Its great as he's autistic and so they are on a similar wave length, although he tells her she's making the wrong sounds when he wants her to blow raspberries.

 

[Pearlie]

My DD will be 6 two weeks after baby arrives. I think she will be a great help & understanding of everything more x

 

[jenny873]

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[Rachel89]

My ds will be 3 and four months when baby arrives, which is not as big of a gap, but it is not small either. I am hoping that he will adjust well,msoketimes it seems he wants to be an only child, but more and more it seems like he wants a partner in crime.

I think ultimately it is about the siblings bond, and not necessarily about the years between them

 

[MamaBird]

My husband and I have recently decided to have a second baby. Our daughter will be 5 at the end of August. I am seeing my doctor tomorrow just to have a little chat before we start trying. I'll also be starting prenatal vitamins and hoping to try my next cycle in June
This is actually my first time posting in here in a looong time. When I logged in, it showed my last activity as January 2014! But I created this account during my TWW the first time and made lasting friends here. Hoping for the same this time!

 

[Jessicahide]

There isn4 years between ds2 and ds3 and there will be 5 years between D's 3 and new baby, this gap was very much intentional, I wanted to be able to have 1 on 1 time with them all,and with starting school at 4 thought it was the perfect gap...

 

[pansorie]

15 year age gap between my son and his baby sister coming any day now.

 

[Embo78]

My children are 18, 17, 13 and almost 3. This will be our last. We started trying when max was about 1.5 for a year and then gave up but got a surprise bfp!
We're glad he's going to have a sibling closer to his age