Anyone else?

[shocker]

So beanies father has gone from being mildly freaked out when i told him to txting me saying he cant have children so i must be lying or sleeping around yeah hes a joy isnt he.Basically hes made it clear he wont be hanging around and honestly considering his first reaction was to offer me an abortion im quite happy not to have him around.Im fully prepared to do this alone and have support from friends and family. The problem is I want him to give me his medical history and a picture of himself so that i can show beanie when they are older if they want to find him.I txted and asked and he refused saying same as before, argument ensued and here we are a few days later and hes phones not been on that whole time.I cant believe this i think hes actually changed his number, sleazebag. Its not like im asking a lot i dont want maintenance because i dont want his money just medical history and a picture why is that so bloody hard?!? Has anyone else dealt with a complete ass like him? what did you do??

 

[purpledahlia]

yep i still am dealing with an ass like that, im not sure there is anything you can do to be honest, i still dont have the FOB family medical history, apart from one brother had epilepsy thats all i know. sucks ! i think just continue on preparing as much as u can on your own, u never know he might be in touch!

 

[teal]

My ex was pushing for a termination and things ended when I refused. Like you I don't have his medical history either. I agree there doesn't seem to be much we can do about it. x

 

[Emma1980]

same here! he still tells me i should get a termination now, weirdo needs to get his head around it!

sweetie, give him time, let it all sink in, he might come round, lots do

 

[woadie]

Lol... and same here... I haven't heard from FOB since he told me he didn't want to know and that he wouldnt ever get in touch again... thing is, I'd phone/text/email and ask but firstly I don't think I'd get a reply, and secondly he doesnt even want to know if I'm keeping it, and to be fair I'd rather keep that information away from him for as long as possible. It's not human to not wonder hehe

Luckily for me I know things about him, and his family... although no where near enough, but it's a start. I'd love a photo for little one.... I hope maybe one day...

But you're really not alone.

If little one has a medical condition after he/she is born I wouldn't hesitate to pull out all the stops to get whatever information might be needed, I'd claw his door down even LOL, but right now I figure it's not the end of the world. I suppose the doctors will know to look out for any very commonly inherited disorders and I will read up about the less serious ones as baby starts to grow up.

 

[shocker]

Thanks so much for your replys everyone Its good to know im not the only one, i'm just gonna try not to think about it and just get myself organised.My mum tried to ring him a few times over the last few days and hes disconected his phone bloody immature idiot...