Anyone elses partners feel funny about doing the deed cause your pregnant?

[Cookie1979]

I dont have much of a sex drive to be honest, and when I have fancied it its just hurt too much (read you can swell up down there, which must be the case with me) we only did it once on our honeymoon and I said to him I'm not having sex with you again EVER!! lol not that I meant it, but it was so sore. I dont think it bothers him that theres a baby in there cos he still gets frisky and tries it on...then again he's probably desperate for it now. lol

 

[Delamere19]

It hasnt seemed to have bothered my OH in the slightest. He loves my pregnant body. I get swollen bits after but they arent sore luckily for me.

 

[lushious09]

we never really had an issue with wanting sex... he got a bit paranoid tho and seemed to hold back in case he hurt bubz, towards end it just got uncomfy but we did it the odd few times.. now im like a horn dog i constantly want it!!!lol

 

[elizek]

Thanks NetsaBaba.... i have thought about drugging him, tying him up or just giving him a swift plonk over the head haha jk's

He still does it but i have make the moves all the time!!! And then i will be breastfeeding afterwards which poses more problems re - contraception.

I feel like our sex life will never be back to normal!

I feel exactly the same!
We've only been married for 3 months and have done it almost once a week IF I initiate it.I decided to step back and leave the decision up to him..and obviously nothing since!
I'm quite conservative and its huge for me to initiate DTD all the time..sometimes I get rejected when starting to fondle etc so I also feel very unwanted and hurt.

We've touched the subject and OH denies not wanting too..although he admits he feels more protective and caring rather than wanting to jump me!
I wonder if things will EVER return to normal as DTD is so important for a relationship. Everyone keeps telling me how great I look but I just care what hubby thinks

 

[ShanandBoc]

^ really? we have been married 2 months!

 

[taylor197878]

my oh doesnt have this problem he has a high sex drive its me that could do without it plus its sore and i need a pee when we dtd not nice, but i do try with him but maybe not again after the other morning i am swollen down below and sore, not worth it poor oh lol

 

[applejack]

my df doesnt mind at all its me who is sometimes a bit creeped out by it - i feel guilty after doing something naughty

im really missing decent sex - bumps too huge!

 

[applejack]

although i am now wondering - tmi - does anyone else feeling different 'inside'? it feels much more tender. its probably just because of the extra blood flow down there but df has to be more gentle these days

 

[reiller]

My OH haven't had any since I was 20 weeks when he felt the baby kick.
He says although he still finds me attractive for the time beging IM a "vessel" and I growing his child and he would rather not ruin that image in his head..
He some muppet
He guarantee he will make moves once baby is here.. he's being really sweet do Im ok with this.

 

[Purple Poirot]

My OH actually refuses to have sex with me now, we haven't done it for months

I don't take it personally - he tells me how beautiful I am all the time and he's always kissing and touching and cudding my bump. He just says it feels 'wrong', he can't get in the mood and he likens it to having sex when your child is actually standing in the room watching!!

To be honest I don't mind that much - the way I've been feeling most days I could take it or leave it anyway. But what worries me is the thought of post-baby sex - I think that the longer we leave it, the harder it will be to get our sex life back on track afterwards!

 

[elizek]

^ really? we have been married 2 months!

Lol what a coincidence. And our babies are coming the same time more or less!

 

[rainbow_11]

Yes, my OH never wants to do it anymore. I have to initiate it all the time and often get turned down.1st he says that i'm too big 2nd he thinks he will hurt baby.Hope it goes back to normal after having our baby lol xx

 

[Pixelle]

I can't even count the number of times I've been rejected by my OH!

I've got such a high sex drive but he doesn't want it. I'm so so frustrated! DIY (iykwim) just isn't the same!

He has a whole host of reasons for not wanting to: He's tired, he's stressed, he might hurt me or baby, I can't get into the same positions as before, I put too much pressure on him,...blah blah bloody blah.

Things haven't been easy, sure. We're trying desperately to buy a house, we're doing up the flat we're in, he has a difficult job and commute, he has to actually do some housework now because I can't do it all and other stuff I won't go into......but still, that's life isn't it?

He reckons it'll get better....I keep asking when. As we had the same conversation about 3 months ago!

We had a major argument on Saturday night. We tried to DTD (after a lot of coercion from me) as we haven't done it for over a month (despite me practically begging every week), but it didn't go very well....in fact, it ended up a disaster!

He doesn't realise (even though I've told him countless times) how much it upsets me that he can still DIY but can't be bothered to have sex with me. It makes me feel ugly, unattractive and just horrible.

I'm really hoping things go back to normal at some point as there's no way I'm putting up with it. Sex is important to me in a relationship, as he knows, and I can only be rejected so many times!

Reading back, it looks like my problem isn't even related to this thread It's along the same lines though....sorry for the rant!

 

[ShanandBoc]

^ really? we have been married 2 months!

Lol what a coincidence. And our babies are coming the same time more or less!