Anyone find they are more depressed than happy?

[April2012]

I am ten weeks, 4 days and utterly depressed. I haven't felt happy yet. I am 34, this is my first baby, good job, nice boyfriend...yet, I find myself utterly depressed and in tears periodically during the day. I keep reading how elated everyone is here...I just can't relate. Wondering if something is seriously wrong.

 

[wavescrash]

Me, basically. I mean, I'm happy about the pregnancy but that's where it ends.

 

[ellebelle]

Oh I'm depressed as all hell.

 

[Sew_Sweet]

I have ups and downs with it this go around. If you are feeling depressed as often as you say you should really talk to your doctor about it.

 

[bump2be]

I felt really depressed during pregnancy too! I think it's to do with hormones, they're all over the place.

 

[bump2be]

Just wanted to add...if it gets worse then don't be afraid to seek help! Pregnancy is a huge transitional phase in life and can bring with it lots of different emotions - some good and some not so good.

 

[smileygurl85]

I'm stuck in bed all day while DH goes out to work and can barely get myself food to shove down my throat every 2 hours to keep the nausea at bay. I feel sick and have felt sick for the last 7 or so weeks and it seems to be getting worse. I can't drive, or really even go out if someone takes me because I feel too sick to walk around. I have developed insomnia and am plain overtired on top of pregnancy-tired.

Heck, I think I have earned the right to be in a bad mood!

I blame the hormones since they're the supposedly the cause of the severe nausea - but it if doesn't let up soon I am scared that I'll just never want to get pregnant again...

 

[mom22boys]

ME TOO!!! I am 34 and I have cried at least 4 times today already! I am so sensitive! I cried getting my boys ready for school, when they got on the bus, on the way to work and at work! I told my husband that I really could use some zoloft!!! Bad!!! I guess we will get thru it!! I hope! My other two babies I was so happy with them it was always after I had them that the depression set in! I am so happy right now yet so hormonal!!!!

 

[pixeldust]

Yup. I've been depressed almost since day one. Sad, anxious, irritable, and just generally unhappy. I've started taking iodine and it seems to have helped things a lot this week. Antenatal depression is very real and affects a large number of women, but it's not the done thing to talk about it it seems. If you are feeling genuinely depressed, talk to your doctor or midwife, as there are treatments which are safe during pregnancy.

Leaving it untreated can lead to a higher chance of PND after baby, which is a road you do NOT want to go down, believe me!

 

[PoodleMommy]

I am, but for me, it's the fear of losing this baby (we've had many miscarriages and no living children yet).

Two things that have helped me more than medication have been 1) iodine supplementation, as pixeldust said, and 2) eating at least two eggs (including yolks) every day, ideally from outdoor-raised hens.

The reason for the eggs is that building a baby uses up every ounce of cholesterol and fatty acids. The baby takes what it needs... leaving us depleted (and therefore depressed... fats are important for healthy brain function, including staving off depression). This is why DHA supplements are recommended. But, far better than a pill is to eat plenty of healthy whole foods with plenty of fat (whole eggs, whole milk, and organ meats if you can stomach them!).

My depression has lifted now that I'm eating 2-3 eggs per day. Just don't tell your doctor or you'll get a lecture on cholesterol (which is ridiculous... pregnant women NEEEEEED plenty of cholesterol to build that baby!!!).

 

[krysti]

I know this is an old post, but I am sad too. I try to stay upbeat, but I feel like I'm less able to weather the challenges of life lately. Today I've been feeling very tearful and discouraged.

 

[Sunshine12]

I wouldnt say Im depressed as such but Im certainly not particularly happy. I previously (and stupidly) expected to be glowing and feeling wonderful. Maybe the odd bit of sickness but generally on top of the world (bit like snow white when she had all those furry animals dancing and singing around her.) Yeah, right!!!! Its been more like A Nightmare on Elm Street!!!!

 

[annagrace]

I'm so glad to find this post! Some days i'm utterly miserable and i feel so guilty alongside it. Tonight i had a lovely pang of bliss surrounding the baby and it's the first time i've bee told i'm 'glowing'! But generally i'm finding it hard to get out of bed in the mornings. I'm always a bit down when i'm tired anyway so it's probably a lot to do with being exhausted all the time.

Thank god for this frum! x

 

[Mummyjohnson]

My hormones are going crazy, so I don't feel very happy either. I was the same last time too. :s x x

 

[Gemini85]

same here, cry and the slightest thing and a strong feeling of hopelessness, Docs want to sign me off work as its very stressful and i do 12 hour days, but i dont get paid so it isnt an option, OH finds it hard to understand, but is getting better at comforting me when i cry without worrying too much about why i am crying, its just very hard, i feel lazy and lethargic, cant even stand up without feeling like i may faint, everything just seems very tough. The thought of dragging my ass to work monday and trying to meet "performance standards" as they put it, fills me with a feeling of dread that just makes me want to sleep for 6 months and wake up when all this has passed.... x

 

[babycakes16]

I was seriously depressed since not long after i found out, its not the baby, im happy about that, it's just the way me and OH's relationship has been since, the arguments etc, so much has happened. And apart from that my general situation right nw cudnt be much worse to be having a baby tbh, it has been getting me down but i'm trying to concentrate on the future now and look forward to being a mum . It will get better x

 

[ColoradoBaby1]

Yes! I'm ecstatic to be pregnant, but I feel physically terrible all day and night, have no social life, had strep throat this week and am an emotional wreck. Glad to know others are in a similar situation. I know things will get better...just waiting patiently for the second trimester!

 

[Lilbynon]

I have been soo blue too! I am happy about having baby #2, don't get me wrong, but i am soo sad and sleepy. Of course it doesn't help the i get only 3hours of sleep in a 24 hour period! But its more than that i think, like babycakes said, DH and mine relationship has changed. He has distanced himself. It might have something with the no , but it feels like more than that and it is breaking my heart! so worried that he will just walk away like he did last time ....... i don't know what to do or how to fix it. i feel so alone

oh great, now im a crying mess! Sorry for the rant

 

[babydevil1989]

im feeling depressed but i think thats because im bledding and being left in limbo wether or not i am actually pregnant!

 

[annagrace]

Aww ladies I think we all need to go grab a nice hot (decaf) cuppa and a BIG slice of cake

It's a comfort to know it's a common thing though. I thought i was going doo-lally. I just hope it eases off in the 2nd tri. x