anyone had a baby like this? shy?

[Midnight_Fairy]

My dd is 4mths old. She is ok with me, DH and my other two children. Asides from us no one else can look at her without her screaming!? Even people she sees most weeks?

 

[BabyDragon]

Yes.... It's a bit sad because right now, we live with my parents, and my brothers and sisters come over daily...

Yet... Anyone else holds her for more than five minutes and she gets HYSTERICAL.

I feel as though I'm trapped sometimes.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Yeah I do and I cant even take up the offers for break as she cries how old is your lo?

 

[Sparrow85]

Yip. It started around 12 weeks and it's getting a little better, but not much. He is so happy around me, OH, my mum and my dad. If anyone else looks at him or holds him, he becomes distressed. It's caused a lot of problems over the last few months, especially as one of the people he becomes distressed around is my MIL and she's been quite upset about it.

It's a lot of pressure on my mum as well, because she's the only one who can babysit for us or have LO overnight. Luckily, he has a ball there and my mum wants to spend all her time with him, but I still feel bad, kind of like I'm taking advantage of her. He would be miserable with anyone else though.

I'm assuming he will eventually grow out of it, but it doesn't look like happening anytime soon.

 

[MiniKiwi]

My LO was just like this at your LO's age. It didn't last long, maybe a month.

It's tough not getting a break and I always felt like it upset people when she'd look at them and scream! She still does it on occasion, but nothing like back then

 

[staralfur]

My LO was like that around 4 months, too. It's just a phase!

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Ty all. It must be hard for the grandparents to see. I know my mum is a tad offended!

HOpefully she will grow out of it as I have s tribunal to go to regarding my son's school and its not even local. I could be gone a while :s

 

[Nat0619]

Yes! Ciara was like this for months! Was only okay with me, OH and my mum. Was even funny with my dad and MIL. She seemed to start to improve from about 7 months I think and has got better as she's got older. There are still some people she doesn't take to but not many now

 

[DaisyBee]

Megan was like this as a baby.... Jordan never was. It does eventually get better. Hang in there!

Eta - I don't think it's really shyness... I think it's a form of stranger anxiety. Megan is not a shy child at all as she got older. I think Jordan will actually be more shy than Megan. Jordan is a bit quieter and more reserved, takes a while of staring at people before warming up but she never screamed when someone looked at her.

 

[xHaylesx]

Mac was like this from 3 1/2 months...he was well socialised and has 2 older brothers but he was a bit of a nightmare, if the other mums at school spoke to him he cried, no-one could pick him up, even close friends and family uurrrgghhhh

Fast forward to now and he's soooooooo sociable, will go to anyone, is happy to be left playing whilst i leave the room etc, it's lovely, but to be honest he's only been this way about a month.

My friends LO has done the total opposite (soaciable at 3/4 months and now wont go to anyone else) xxxx

 

[_Nell]

My LO is 7 months and won't be held or touched uninvited by family or strangers. She has only just began to accept DH holding her again. She just wants, me, me and me!

 

[amy2boys]

My DD is 9 months and started being clingy and shy around 10 weeks. She is NO better now...worse even. Grandparents have never held her for more than a minute without her screaming for me. She hides her face into me if anyone looks at her. I am not worried, she just needs me right now. I am sure (hopeful) that she will grow out of it in time...how long..I don't know.

 

[BabyDragon]

Yeah I do and I cant even take up the offers for break as she cries how old is your lo?

She's close to your LO's age! Around 4 1/2 months!

It's really tough right?! Even my mother, who we live w. thinks LO is a grumpy, cranky little baby! My dad always have to defend her and say she's actually quite talkative and giggly and happy when she's with OH and myself!

And she really is!

As soon as my mom takes LO from me to play with... OH and I always make a bet with each other how long it will be until she starts screaming bloody murder! Usually around five minutes!

OH works tons, 60+ hours every week...so it's pretty hard on me cause I never seem to get a break! Especially now that she fights nap time!

So, I totally understand how trapped you feel!

I mean.. I'm definitely not complaining as I know won't last, and I don't mind being there for LO's every beck and call, but it is utterly exhausting!

 

[Rickles]

Maddie was the same but we perservered with baby groups and now she is happy to be left with anyone - I know it won't last forever and we're due for some serious separation anxiety.. but she definitely has stopped screaming if anyone looks at her! xx

 

[fingers_cross]

haha my son is still like this at 8 months!! although getting a bit better. around the 6 month time when we were out and about all it took was for someone to look at him and say hello and he would lose it, the bottom lip would come out and hed scream the place down. he is getting better though, he calms down quicker now and doesnt always cry, especially if the person holding/playing with him makes silly faces and noises and distracts him from the fact that he doesnt see them a lot. grandad- he sees every saturday and hes still unsure of him!lol.x

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Just came across this. My LO is now 3 and not shy in the slightest anymore!

 

[Bevziibubble]

Aww Jade is doing great isn't she

 

[sethsmummy]

yep all of my boys had a stage like this.. although it was usually just men for ds2. ds1 didnt like anyone he didnt know and men (especially with beards and hats on).
ds3 has been a bit better due to lots of hospital stays where hes got used to different people in and out but he still doesnt like people holding him right now, were having major seperation anxiety so nobody but mummy will do!