Anyone had the "feeling" they mmc and then discovered all was ok??

[StorkStalker]

Hi.. so I just recently graduated from the LTTTC board to the pregnant board via IVF.. I´m 9 weeks 1 day today.. We saw and heard a hb at 6 weeks 4 days and everything looked great.. Fertility specialist gave us next appointment at 11 weeks (Jan 20) and that´s been dragging...

I am worried all the time, I´ve had an ectopic and a mmc and LTTTC for 6 years... I am panicked that baby may not be ok in there and I don´t know and I´m thinking all is good and it´s not..

I´m constantly thinking what if I mmc again?? So I don´t know if that is a gut feeling or just paranoia..

I wanted to ask if any of you ever felt like they´ve mmc only to go to their next appointment and have the happy relief that everything is ok and baby is growing and all is good...

Thanks!

 

[sedgeez]

I had a mmc in feb, so it's been such a concern for me. I had a scan at 8 weeks 2 days and baby was fine with hb.

Then after worrying myself with a Doppler, I was convinced is had another mmc. So I booked a private scan at 9 weeks 4 days. Baby again was fine and wriggling away, with hb.

I don't have a date for my 12 week scan yet but it should be next week.
I feel a little better after having 2 scans but it's still there at the back of my mind. The longer it drags on the more I convince myself when I get my scan the baby won't have a hb.

I think it's natural to feel this way after a loss.

I also know saying 'just relax' isn't going to help lol but you need to try to relax as much as you can.

Good luck

 

[Moonbeam1]

Hi,

With my first I was ttc for 3 years!

With this one it just happened! I had no symptoms and spotting and ended up going for a early scan. All along I was certain something was wrong and I had a mmc but little one was fine and doing well.

I have never had a mmc and was still worried sick so I think it's only natural after what you have been through to be so concerned about your little one!

Having heard the heartbeat is really goo sign! Just try and stay positive hopefully first tri will go quick for us both!

 

[notready123]

Ah bless you. How awful it is for us having to worry.

I'm about the same as you this time. Last year we lost 4 pregnancies no idea why.

This time, I was convinced te same would happen again. I rushed to docs and demanded help but e couldn't really. Midwives were the same.

Anyway convinced it was another loss I have had two very early scans. Second time we saw and heard our babies heartbeat which reduces chances of losing.

I'm taking each day at a time as its all I can do for now. I suggest you do the same. At the end of each day, is another day you've spent with your baby and is a blessing.

Each twinge of pain can be good or bad so I'm taking the good. Symptoms fluctuate in my opinion and don't lnow of they're coming or going. But also normal xx

Keep going, keep positive and keep smiling xx

 

[_kate_]

Hi! I've had 3 mmc so I know exactly how you feel! I'm 8wks 6days pregnant at the moment and have had 3 ultrasound scans so far! I had bleeding in New Year's Eve and scan was perfect! Couldn't see any traces of bleeding at all.
It doesn't stop me worrying it will happen again though, all the scans I've had have been really positive, have seen heartbeat and baby is growing well. Sac is well implanted and yolk sac is there.
I suppose when you've been through it you will always worry.
It's an awful feeling, wish we could just be normal and not have to worry about it,
Good luck to you ladies,
Kate xx

 

[shannonleigh]

Yes,I thought last week that was it for me, had terrible cramps and some bleeding, had a scan at 9 weeks 1 day and my bub is fine, going strong. Saying that though with my first MMC I didn't have any symptoms, just turned up at my first scan and there was no heartbeat, but since you've already seen there's a heartbeat your risk goes down, stay positive that's what I've been doing. Praying everything goes okay for you x

 

[Tulip]

Oh god, every day! I've never had mmc but some amazing friends of mine have. I am constantly paranoid. I've been able to find baby on tthe doppler since 8+6 so I know he's still kicking about, but until my nuchal in 2 days I'm convinced he has a trisomy or*anencephaly (the latter of which we have a history of). If it all goes well on Thurs I'll no doubt start stressing about spina bifida...

It's completely normal to be very anxious when you want this baby so muchxx

 

[xdxxtx]

I did. I knew something was terribly wrong when I was pregnant with my second, and I refused to get attached or get excited about the pregnancy. But after a noneventful pregnancy, here he is, 6 months old and just perfect! You have every right to be scared and worried!!! But that probably is all it is! Wishing you the best!

I also want to congratulate you on your pregnancy!

 

[dan-o]

Yep, before every single scan, spanning the last 6 years!

 

[StorkStalker]

OMG thank you so much for the replies ladies!!! I thought I was having like a gut feeling, or my body telling me what had happened.. I still don´t know though.. but your posts made me feel a lot better... That I don´t "know" that anything happened subconsciously or whatever just because I worry.. I also am having a hard time getting attached and every time DH says when the baby´s here I say "if" and "hopefully" and that annoys him, but I really am used to bad things happening to us, and not yet had a happy ending... But again hopefully this is it!!! I´m 9 weeks 3 days today and as one of you said, I´m spending today with my baby and that is good!!

Thank you and good luck in the rest of all of our pregnancies!!!