Anyone have to have a d&e or termination in the second trimester due to complications?

[Aliza2010]

Hi all
Hope you are all well. Quick history. I’m an older mother (40) and unexpectedly 17 weeks pregnant today. I am blessed with 2 healthy children already. I have had still births in the past and every pregnancy has had its complications. To cut a long story short this baby may have complications and I may be advised to end the pregnancy for medical reasons I won’t know for sure until a detailed 18 week scan. I am petrified of the procedure especially the general anaesthesia administered. Is there anyone who has had to go through something similar in the past? Any advice is much appreciated.

 

[mummy2lola]

No advice just wanted to send u I really hope it turns out ok but if not then trust those around u and ask as many questions as possible to put ur mind at ease xx

 

[mrsmummy2]

No advice, but sending lots of love and hope everything turns out ok

 

[WhisperGirl]

I'm really sorry you're dealing with this. You don't ever have to terminate, even if they suggest it, if you don't want to.
I have a friend who was told her baby would be born and not live a day, and she was born completely healthy. It's entirely up to you, but do whatever your heart tells you to.
I wish you all the luck in the world for your detailed scan ❤❤

 

[mindyb85]

I'm really sorry you're dealing with this. You don't ever have to terminate, even if they suggest it, if you don't want to.
I have a friend who was told her baby would be born and not live a day, and she was born completely healthy. It's entirely up to you, but do whatever your heart tells you to.
I wish you all the luck in the world for your detailed scan ❤❤

I 100% agree.
Doctors can be and have been wrong. My doctor was CONVINCED that my daughter had down syndrome even after she was born. They ran all of the genetic tests including a complete chromosome test and it all came back just fine. She was born very swollen and my family has kind of almond shaped eyes, she also had a simean crease in her hand, which is not an indicator of Down syndrome exactly but the majority of them have it. My family history, my moms sister had DS so I guess that might increase my risk since my grandma was young when she had her. But my aunt was also my favorite person in the world and was the biggest blessing to our family.
Last year I was pregnant with my son and at 12 weeks we found out he had a fatal diagnosis where he would not be able to survive outside the womb. At 16 weeks more bad news and anomalies. I was told many times to terminate but, for me, I just couldn’t do it. He was destined for heaven already so we decided to love him for as long as we had him on earth. I know it may sound funny or weird but it gave me the greatest sense of peace and no regret. At 24+3 I opted to do a diagnostic procedure to get a better look and see if it might help him a little. The procedure went terribly wrong bc I had a contraction during it and he just couldn’t handle even the simple procedure. I delivered him the next day sleeping. It was the most difficult two days of my life, but again for me, it’s what I felt I needed to do and my intention was to help him so it help me be at peace about it.
Praying for you and this difficult situation you are in. Most unfortunately, I know how hard these decisions are.

 

[Heather.1987]

Agree with above. I work with special needs kids and a lot of these kids were told they were incompatible with life.....they were wrong! It's so amazing to see their achievements! Your value and worth is not determined about what you can or can not do! A life is still a life, it doesnt hurt to give that baby a fighting chance! Even with the story above, even though sadly the baby still died, it was on their terms....not yours. Hope everything turns out ok!