Anyone ttc #1 between 18-24yrs?

[tjmacl]

Hi ladies, I ask this question because I am 21 & ttc my 1st with my husband. We have been together for nearly 4 years & both feel that this is our time (he is a little older than I, 23). However, we have gotten a lot of ill feedback from family and friends when we let out the news that we were actively trying for a little one. I understand it's no secret, we are both very young. He is in the Army (however we've been together since before he joined) & I am a student/work full-time. We live comfortably - money is obviously one of the main things we had a deep discussion about prior to deciding it was time to have a child. Despite these positive things, we still get told quite often, and quite rudely that we are completely out of our minds trying for a child when we are so young still. It's discouraging & it hurts a little bit - because this is a decision we've come to after much conversation & thought. I just wanted to know if anyone was in a similar position and/or had any advice or input.
It would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks everyone,
TJ

 

[laura_019]

My BF's cousin got pregnant on BCP when she was 18 and many people judged her for being so young. But honestly, she is the best mom I know. She's now 22 and just had her second baby last month.

If you're both ready for a child and know that financially you can provide for a baby, then who cares what other people think! I'm 24 and BF is 23, and we're happily trying for a family now

 

[AmandaBanana]

I'm 22 and Dh is turning 20.
We haven't told any family yet that we are ttc.
Friends know we are completely responsible and stable in our relationship and money.
A little while back someone his mom knew had a baby and she was aabout 20. She flipped saying that's way too young.
I can only imagine what rude comments we will get.
but we are both prepared to tell her to shove it (nicely). It's our life and our choice. And we're ready.
I'd prefer to have children early so we can be young and active. The older you get it becomes more difficult too.

Don't let them push you around and say mean things.

 

[thexfadingpat]

I am 23 and FI is 24.
Nobody knows yet that we are TTC, and we probably won't mention it until we conceive and are a few months in.
Although I don't think many people will be too surprised when they find out- We have been together for 7.5 year, have lived together for 2.5 years, and are getting married in September. And we are doing okay financially.

 

[tiana.h]

Really, as long as you're financially stable and can provide for a baby then age doesn't matter. I'm 19 & my BF is 24, and we just recently started TTC. I'm a full time student and he makes a very good salary. I want my first kid before I graduate and start working full time. I don't think I'd be able to have my child go to a daycare when they're so young. I'd go crazy.

One day you'll look down at your newborn and being 21 won't stop you from loving and taking care of your baby!

FX for your BFP's!

 

[BabeAwait]

I am soon to be 23 and my husband is soon to be 26. We have been together for five years and almost married for one. Also we have lived together four and a half years. We have been trying for our first.

I think as long as you are truly in a stable place it is of no one else's concern. If your relationship is good and you know each other really well and treat each other with respect then you will make it as parents. As long as you have a stable roof over your head and you are financially independent as a couple age shouldn't be a factor.
I think some people see a different path for their lives. They see their early 20s as a time to party, travel, or focus on their careers. Or there are those who at times see children as a burden on the things they want to accomplish or experience in their lives. The path I've always seen for my future was to be a mother above all else. I do not see my life as whole without it. For others who have different paths in mind it could be hard for them to accept, just as it would be impossible for me to accept a life without children.
Maybe it's because I'm in the Midwest but I think if you're in a committed relationship, have your own roof over your head, and are financially independent then it's nobody else's d#mn business lol. What you do with your life is only of your concern. Age does not affect your capacity to be a good parent.
Of course there are a few scenarios where interjections from your loved ones could be grounded. Such as: if you were in an abusive relationship, you barely knew your partner, you were struggling to provide for yourselves, you were living in an unhealthy situation, or you were struggling with very severe mental or physical problems. From what I've read it doesn't seem that you have any of these issues. So my guess would be that those making remarks think you should be out doing "young people things" lol.

As long as you and your H truly think you're ready for a baby then what everyone else says doesn't matter. Tell all the naysayers you can't wait to be changing diapers at two in the morning instead of drinking out on the town.