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Hello, I apologise for the long post! And please no judging!
I'm in a bit of a pickle! So I am after anyone who has been in a similar situation.
My partner (I'll call him D) and I have a 6 year old son, and I have been really wanting to try for a second. D had been saying no to more children for a while, and I have always wanted more, but didn't feel the absolute need until just over a year ago.
We had a bit of a pregnancy "scare" at the start of the year and it brought up the conversation of when I'd like to ttc. I said Jan 2016, he said a half hearted ok, but still said he didn't really want another child.
I left the subject alone until October, when I asked how he would feel if I stopped the pill. Not to get pregnant, but to be hormone free. He surprised me and said of course, if I wanted to, then go for it.
The I brought up TTC again.. I said he can indulge in his hobby, which is arcade machines and video games, with no flack from me, if he would still agree to Jan to start trying. He said ok, but made sure I knew he still didn't exactly want another child. He then went out and spent over $1000 on his hobby the next day. To me, that said he was in and agreeing. Silly me also agreed to him putting an arcade machine in our not so big lounge room! And yep, there it is... staring at me right now.. next to out TV.
I had a bit of a cry the other night, because he said again that it wasn't what he wanted, but I argued that him spending so much money and such had given me hope that it was all okay. He then comforted me and said we can still go ahead and try in Jan.
Do you think I would be crazy for going ahead with TTC, when he has still said he doesn't want more children??
Or should I take it as guy language for "Yes, I'm in" and his way of saying yes?
I don't know if he just can't picture another child, and feeling the same about them as he feels for our son, but I know he would love them just as much!
It's not like I'm one of those women tricking him in to it, he would be completely aware! I guess I am confused because it's like a half hearted "yes", but it's not a "no" either! I don't want him to be unhappy, but I also want another child so badly!
Has anyone been in a situation like this?
I'm in a bit of a pickle! So I am after anyone who has been in a similar situation.
My partner (I'll call him D) and I have a 6 year old son, and I have been really wanting to try for a second. D had been saying no to more children for a while, and I have always wanted more, but didn't feel the absolute need until just over a year ago.
We had a bit of a pregnancy "scare" at the start of the year and it brought up the conversation of when I'd like to ttc. I said Jan 2016, he said a half hearted ok, but still said he didn't really want another child.
I left the subject alone until October, when I asked how he would feel if I stopped the pill. Not to get pregnant, but to be hormone free. He surprised me and said of course, if I wanted to, then go for it.
The I brought up TTC again.. I said he can indulge in his hobby, which is arcade machines and video games, with no flack from me, if he would still agree to Jan to start trying. He said ok, but made sure I knew he still didn't exactly want another child. He then went out and spent over $1000 on his hobby the next day. To me, that said he was in and agreeing. Silly me also agreed to him putting an arcade machine in our not so big lounge room! And yep, there it is... staring at me right now.. next to out TV.
I had a bit of a cry the other night, because he said again that it wasn't what he wanted, but I argued that him spending so much money and such had given me hope that it was all okay. He then comforted me and said we can still go ahead and try in Jan.
Do you think I would be crazy for going ahead with TTC, when he has still said he doesn't want more children??
Or should I take it as guy language for "Yes, I'm in" and his way of saying yes?
I don't know if he just can't picture another child, and feeling the same about them as he feels for our son, but I know he would love them just as much!
It's not like I'm one of those women tricking him in to it, he would be completely aware! I guess I am confused because it's like a half hearted "yes", but it's not a "no" either! I don't want him to be unhappy, but I also want another child so badly!
Has anyone been in a situation like this?