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Between the ages of 11-12, I had this wonderful friend who I was inseparable with. She was and still is a great person.
Basically the story is that when we were about 12 years old, she hurt my feelings by a few things she had said (unintentionally.) I at the time was very insecure, had issues and also had a bad home life. I fostered this anger towards her for months over comments she had made about my weight vs. hers, or how I wasn't skinny, or something. Can't remember exactly.
In anger, I decided to vent it all out by writing her a long letter about everything I was feeling. In the letter, I very much hurt her feelings. I don't remember the specifics about what I said, but I remember suggesting something about how if I was the fat one of the two of us, then she was the ugly one ... can't believe I would be like that, but I guess that was my angry, confused, stupid 12 year old self!
Although we remained friends, our friendship was never really the same after that and eventually it faded. We now have eachother on facebook and just send birthday greetings, like eachother's photos, etc. So we don't talk anymore.
Sometimes though, I still get moments where I feel terrible about that horrible letter I wrote and I realize the damage it caused. I know that we're never going to be close friends again, but I sometimes wonder whether I should reach out and say sorry. (I probably said sorry over a decade ago, or right after it happened -can't remember.) But the guilt from it still eats away at me. Is that ridiculous? Would it be silly to write her a msg on facebook saying that even though its been forever, I apologize?
Basically the story is that when we were about 12 years old, she hurt my feelings by a few things she had said (unintentionally.) I at the time was very insecure, had issues and also had a bad home life. I fostered this anger towards her for months over comments she had made about my weight vs. hers, or how I wasn't skinny, or something. Can't remember exactly.
In anger, I decided to vent it all out by writing her a long letter about everything I was feeling. In the letter, I very much hurt her feelings. I don't remember the specifics about what I said, but I remember suggesting something about how if I was the fat one of the two of us, then she was the ugly one ... can't believe I would be like that, but I guess that was my angry, confused, stupid 12 year old self!
Although we remained friends, our friendship was never really the same after that and eventually it faded. We now have eachother on facebook and just send birthday greetings, like eachother's photos, etc. So we don't talk anymore.
Sometimes though, I still get moments where I feel terrible about that horrible letter I wrote and I realize the damage it caused. I know that we're never going to be close friends again, but I sometimes wonder whether I should reach out and say sorry. (I probably said sorry over a decade ago, or right after it happened -can't remember.) But the guilt from it still eats away at me. Is that ridiculous? Would it be silly to write her a msg on facebook saying that even though its been forever, I apologize?