Hi everyone. Just saw this thread and thought I'd share my story.
I first starting TTC in July 2008, and got my first ever BFP in September. I started bleeding at around six weeks and lost the pregnancy. I waited a month, and tried again. We got our second BFP in November, but I started bleeding at six weeks and we lost the pregnancy. We waited three months, and started to try again. First month - BFN. Second month - BFP. I started bleeding at six weeks and lost the pregnancy. We went on holiday, came back, attended our appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic, and on the same day, feeling very sick, I tested as I realised AF hadn't turned up after our last miscarriage, and BFP. Had an early scan, all looked good. Had 12 week scan, all looked good. Same at 21 week scan, and the little lady stayed in there until 42 weeks she was so determined (lots of baby glue!). Our daughter was born in February 2010, and has just turned one. She's perfect.
We're now starting to think about trying for number two! Things I'll take with me from TTC#1 - don't stress and don't try too hard. Often when you've lost a pregnancy (or three!) it makes you kind of crazy. The minute I stopped trying because I was suddenly focused on an appointment with a specialist, rather than getting pregnant, we conceived a healthy baby and enjoyed an issue free pregnancy. Who knows whether you're more fertile after a miscarriage - but it's possible to conceive straight after one, because I did. However, we only had sex once that month. All the other times, we had sex a lot because I was so determined to get pregnant. One doctor said to me that they do believe it's possible for you to be overly fertile, and that more than one sperm fertilizes the egg, so the more you have sex, the higher the chance of that happening. In which case, the pregnancy will certainly fail in the very early stages.
We'll never know - but I just thought I'd share my story. I hope it gives someone else hope in what can be a very heartbreaking time.
Wishing everyone all the best,
E x