Asking to not find out baby's gender at scan

[sossypops]

Hi all,

I have my 2nd scan coming up very soon. I know that you can find out the sex of baby if you want to. I personally want to keep it as a surprise, but I have heard so many horror stories of friends who have asked not to know and then the sonographer has either hinted at it, or they have noticed it on screen, ruining the surprise!

Has this happened to anyone? And what's the best way to go about ensuring that I don't find out?

Thanks everyone and hope you all having good days!

 

[emmi26]

just make it clear to the sonographer you dont want to know hun. im having a litle boy and yes i spotted his package straight away but i was looking and if you say at the beginning you dont want to know im sure they will help you e.g telling you to look away !!!

 

[gumb69]

hiya,
we don't want to know what we are having either, so just tell the sonographer that you don't want to know. they should respect your wishes. xx

 

[sossypops]

Thanks - I will definitely tell the sonographer that I don't want to know. But I'm still a bit worried as my poor friend told them she didn't want to know and the sonographer hinted so bad that it was obvious.

 

[kmr5025]

When I had my 20 week scan the sonographer asked before we got started if we wanted to know and we said that we didn't. Baby then had quite firmly crossed legs for most of the scan so would have been difficult to find out anyway but I think the sonographer did see towards the end when she was looking at legs etc but she didn't say anything and up until that point she had been drawing our attention to different things on screen as we went along so I think that was deliberate so we wouldn't accidentally see something we didn't want to!

 

[ellie]

just tell them clearly before they start!
at our hospital their policy is not to tell unless you ask - I did ask (against OH's wishes lol) but LO wasn't showing anything
when we had later scans we were asked if we knew and did we want to know, we said no and they would always say to look away when they looked anywhere near their bits

 

[Cocobelle]

I am one of those who didn't want to know yet swears blind I spotted some boy bits during my 20 week scan. But as the sonographer knew we didn't want to know, she refused to confirm or deny what I had seen.

Since then, I have read something else in one of my scan reports that suggests otherwise so we are back to not realy having a clue what sex this baby is (although I still saw what I saw )

 

[Penfelyn]

I would look away when they measure the baby's femur length, as its the same 'toilet shot' position. Or ask them to tell you when not to look. Usually they don't tell you unless you ask them, but make it clear you want a surprise just in case
I'm glad we did want to know as I thought I saw boy bits when she was measuring the femur length, but turns out I was wrong and baby is a girl. Think I'd seen overlying skin or something. Glad we asked, or I'd be convinced its a boy!

 

[Cocobelle]

I would look away when they measure the baby's femur length, as its the same 'toilet shot' position. Or ask them to tell you when not to look. Usually they don't tell you unless you ask them, but make it clear you want a surprise just in case
I'm glad we did want to know as I thought I saw boy bits when she was measuring the femur length, but turns out I was wrong and baby is a girl. Think I'd seen overlying skin or something. Glad we asked, or I'd be convinced its a boy!

Wow! This has got me thinking as it was the 'toilet shot' where I thought I saw something dangling in the middle! Did what you saw really look like a little willy?

 

[calliebaby]

The tech asked us before I even laid down if we wanted to know. She was very professional.
Oh, and with my baby it was very obvious that he was a he. lol.

 

[emmi26]

I would look away when they measure the baby's femur length, as its the same 'toilet shot' position. Or ask them to tell you when not to look. Usually they don't tell you unless you ask them, but make it clear you want a surprise just in case
I'm glad we did want to know as I thought I saw boy bits when she was measuring the femur length, but turns out I was wrong and baby is a girl. Think I'd seen overlying skin or something. Glad we asked, or I'd be convinced its a boy!

Wow! This has got me thinking as it was the 'toilet shot' where I thought I saw something dangling in the middle! Did what you saw really look like a little willy?

the most obvious bit on a baby boy is his balls hun. i could hardly see his tail till the lady pointed it out. the balls are 2 dark circles and i had spotted them when she was still looking the tail really is tiny compared to the other bits so its unlikely you would have seen it although not impossible just something for you to think about !! he he !!!

 

[Cocobelle]

I would look away when they measure the baby's femur length, as its the same 'toilet shot' position. Or ask them to tell you when not to look. Usually they don't tell you unless you ask them, but make it clear you want a surprise just in case
I'm glad we did want to know as I thought I saw boy bits when she was measuring the femur length, but turns out I was wrong and baby is a girl. Think I'd seen overlying skin or something. Glad we asked, or I'd be convinced its a boy!

Wow! This has got me thinking as it was the 'toilet shot' where I thought I saw something dangling in the middle! Did what you saw really look like a little willy?

the most obvious bit on a baby boy is his balls hun. i could hardly see his tail till the lady pointed it out. the balls are 2 dark circles and i had spotted them when she was still looking the tail really is tiny compared to the other bits so its unlikely you would have seen it although not impossible just something for you to think about !! he he !!!

I am sure I saw those too it looked like a little turtle poking out of its shell! I would be almost 99% convinced if I had not read in my notes that a "live female fetus was seen" BUT those notes were from my 12 week scan (so really early days for telling the sex), my 'sighting' was from my 20 week scan.

LOL, it could be anything couldn't it

 

[MumOfPlenty]

At my hospital their policy is not to say anything unless you ask.. I thought it was most hospitals policy now tbh.

 

[taylor197878]

we were told to look away as we didnt want to know either, the lady was good though never made a comment once.

 

[Laura617]

unfortunatly I am one of those horror stories but I completely think its possible to not find out and most places will be respectful of that if you let me know up front.
The ultrasound tech I went to was so nice about telling me when to look away so she could document the sex and letting me know when it was safe to look again. I just had a careless doctor who gave me paperwork with it written on it, its still a surprise to hubby as I am keeping my mouth shut but just be upfront about not wanting to know and remind them often!