Tezzy, do you think you can tell a difference in your two as you did different things with both of them? I have thought a few times what it would be like if I co-slept and breastfed my next baby yet haven't done it with Freya.
yes! oh boy can i tell a difference and i KNOW its because i did things differently with them!
Rhys is so loving.. he will sit,cuddle and kiss ALL day.. he loves to fall asleep on my knee (hes curled on my chest as i type now! - wait ill take a pic!) i believe this is because we co-sleep with him.. he just wants to cuddle up and be close to people.. hes like this with everybody, his sister,his nursery staff,my friends...
He also like to be worn by his dad (not me so much) this is how they bond the most, my OH always felt uncomfortable pushing a pram.. he didnt like rhys being in one and has always prefered to wear him. I think this is another reason why Rhys likes physical contact.
Rhys also had my full on attention until he was 2 which made him hate large groups, when i used to take him to toddler groups he used to cling to me the entire session. although this has gotten better since going to nursery he is still very uncomfortable with large groups and often gets upset.
Ffion on the other hand is quite different. Where Rhys is attached to his daddy Ffion is very much my baby... i bf her for quite a while and we built a special bond. but! we never co-slept so after her feed id put her down, she learned to like her own space. now she comes to us for a cuddle/kiss but she soon moves away.. making her own space until she is ready for another cuddle.
She also still likes to be worn but again she is happy when she is let down and is ok with walking beside me.. she doesnt need physical contact so much.
Ffion has also been in nursery since she was 6mo, this has made her very confident in big groups,she has learnt to make herself heard and is very strong minded... quite boystrous in fact!
if we were having a third child *which we're not!* i would do a mixture of bf-ing,baby wearing and i would try not to put them in nursery or co-sleep. thats just my preference from past experience.